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She Was Assaulted by a Drunk Man. Now the CEO of Absolut Vodka Is Telling Her Story.


Mukherjee sees it as her job—and the job of the brands she leads—to help people understand the truth: that perpetrators are the ones responsible for sex crimes. After she was attacked as a child, she told no one what happened. “Like with any victim, you’re so scared,” she says. Then, when she was a young teenager, her mother died—she was hit by a drunk driver. As an adult she was in an abusive relationship, in which alcohol, she thinks, had a part. After she broke it off, she started volunteering with other survivors and saw that her experience wasn’t unusual. “Seeing the role of alcohol play into the abuse of other women and other victims as well, it’s just unacceptable,” she says. “And so for me to have this opportunity as a CEO to be able to start this conversation, that’s my responsibility as a leader.”

The company developed their ads with RAINN (Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network) and will partner with the organization throughout the campaign and onwards. On Valentine’s Day, Absolut will donate $1 to RAINN for every share and retweet their campaign gets. Mukherjee has also signed on to join RAINN’s national board. She plans to continue working with RAINN and campaigning for consent long beyond the initial ad rollout.

“Perpetrators out there are abusing alcohol and using it as a weapon, and it needs to stop,” she says. “That’s the dialogue we want to create. Everyone’s been talking about ‘drinking responsibly’ forever. But now let’s put our money where our mouth is.”

“This is the first time there’s been a real partnership that involves a lot of public messaging and working together over the long term,” says Scott Berkowitz, founder and CEO of RAINN. “They’ve made clear that they want this to be a long-term relationship. Our mission is very straightforward: it’s to reduce the numbers of sexual assaults in the country and I think their involvement is going to help us in that work.”

For some, the partnership might come as a surprise. But for Mukherjee, it’s just the natural, more ambitious expression of her values. Mukherjee spent years working with Chetna, a non-profit organization dedicated to helping South Asian women who experience domestic violence, as well as volunteering with other nonprofits that support survivors of abuse and violence. In separate conversations, she and Berkowitz used almost identical language to explain that drinkers should be held accountable for their behavior: Responsible drinking means “drinking in a way that allows you to make decisions rationally, like knowing that you should not get behind the wheel of a car,” they both say. In other words: Drinking isn’t an excuse for crime. And sex crimes aren’t an exception.

That’s not a message that’s come from an alcohol company before. It’s not even a message that’s come from mainstream culture.

“There is less moral culpability attached to the defendant who is legally intoxicated,” wrote Judge Aaron Persky, in his decision to sentence Brock Turner to just six months in county jail, though Turner had been found guilty of sexually assaulting an unconscious woman, Chanel Miller.

“College Women: Stop Getting Drunk,” read the headline of a Slate article by Emily Yoffe in 2013. “When [women] render themselves defenseless, terrible things can be done to them,” she wrote.

Perhaps Jed Rubenfeld, a professor at Yale, put it the most clearly, in Yale Law Journal in 2013. “Is it so clear unconscious sex should be criminal?” he asked.

These comments crystalized a belief most people have heard from college administrations, respected newspaper columnists, and parents and authority figures—that drinking makes you vulnerable to sexual assault. If you drink, especially if you’re a woman who drinks, you’re at least partially responsible for your assault.



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Stop Telling Kim Kardashian, Possible Future Lawyer, to 'Stay In Her Lane'


The second I heard Kim Kardashian West is training to be a lawyer, I was here for it. I’m for all women—yes, even a mega-rich celebrity like KKW—doing whatever the hell they want with their profession. But as a woman of color who has fought hard to become (and then stay) a lawyer herself, I’m especially impressed that someone with an already wildly successful career and a fourth child on the way has decided to pursue the law. Because trust me when I say this: No matter how wealthy and famous someone is, no matter how many employees or other helpers they have on speed dial…no one signs up for a four-year law apprenticeship at a firm, multiple tests, and the California bar just for kicks. No one.

So when Kardashian West says she’s put a lot of thought into her decision, I believe her. I know firsthand just how difficult it can be for women to tough it out in this field, and I salute her for taking it on—as I would for any woman. Not everyone’s on board, though:

I first set out to become a lawyer in my early twenties. I lived in Canada, where I went to law school for three years. Then I did a brief stint in BigLaw (a nickname for the largest, most prominent law firms) but quickly burned out and took a massive paycheck hit to transition to my true calling: immigration and refugee law. Soon after settling into my career, though, I got married and moved to America. There, my Canadian law degree was about as useful to me as this goldfish walker. I had no choice but to go back to law school for a L.L.M. (basically a year-long crash course in American law). That meant incurring even more student debt and losing more of my sanity (and hair) to graduate and take the bar…again.

Now I’m 30 and my legal career is starting to feel incompatible with the rest of my life. I’ve been delaying the decision to have kids because I’ve seen how maternity leave or leaving the office early too often to be with your family can make a difference when it comes to climbing the ranks at a firm. I know I’m not alone in this feeling: According to the Bureau of Labor statistics, law is one of the least inclusive professions in the U.S., and minority and female attrition is high.

That is why I’m excited by the prospect of Kardashian West putting a spotlight on the profession. Law is in need of a rebranding, in my opinion—so who better to make that happen than a hard-working, high-profile reality star? Of course Kardashian West doesn’t need me—or anyone else, for that matter—legitimizing her decision to become a lawyer, but I’m tired of seeing people act like her career swerve is just the latest musings of a bored, vapid celebrity. To me, she seems to clearly be cognizant of our country’s serious social inequities and actually wants to do something about it.

“Last year I registered with the California State Bar to study law,” Kardashian West wrote on Instagram recently alongside a photo of herself studying. “For the next 4 years, a minimum of 18 hours a week is required, I will take written and multiple choice tests monthly. As my first year is almost coming to an end I am preparing for the baby bar, a mini version of the bar, which is required when studying law this way. I’ve seen some comments from people who are saying it’s my privilege or my money that got me here, but that’s not the case. One person actually said I should ‘stay in my lane.’ I want people to understand that there is nothing that should limit your pursuit of your dreams, and the accomplishment of new goals. You can create your own lanes, just as I am.”

Kardashian West comes from a place of extreme privilege, but she can still use her platform for good. Look at Amal Clooney’s current caseload, for example. She’s married to George Clooney and rocks $2,000 coats, sure, but she continues to represent the world’s most vulnerable while also teaching the next crop of lawyers.



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The Bachelor Season 23, Episode 7 Recap: Who's Telling the Truth?


After a week full of eliminations and not one, not two, but three warnings, tonight’s episode of The Bachelor was a little lower energy. Still, a lot went down so let’s get right into it, shall we? Spoilers ahead.

The episode opens with Colton filming a late-night video about his feelings. (So emo.) Long story short, he’s confused and upset because three different women warned him that some of the other dozens of women he’s dating aren’t ready for marriage. To be honest, this doesn’t feel like that groundbreaking of a reveal to me—statistically speaking, at least one woman there doesn’t want to marry a guy she’s known two weeks, right? But Colton says this is his “biggest fear.”

He has good news, though: “We’re heading to Denver!” Woo.

Once stateside, Colton meets up with former Bachelor Ben Higgins for a drink and “advice.” Colton needs it: The hometown dates are next week, so the stakes! Are! High! Oh, and he’s falling in love with multiple people and feels weird about it. Ben’s advice? “Lean in!” (My advice would be “yes, that is weird which is why you should just pick one,” but nobody’s asking me.)

When Colton joins the women later that day, he brings his dog, Sniper, along. Their first reaction upon seeing Sniper is “OMG DOG!” I don’t think they even notice that Colton’s there too, which…yeah, that feels right. Unfortunately instead of more Sniper content, Colton has to take one of the women on a date.

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Tayshia is the chosen one, and their date consists of sitting in the loudest food market of all time. Seriously, I could barely heard their conversation—so what a convenient, not-at-all annoying place and time for Tayshia to drop the “I know who isn’t ready for marriage” bomb. At first, Tayshia tells Colton she’s not going to name any names because she’s not a tattletale. Then, not two seconds later, she’s all, “It’s Cassie and Caelynn!!!”

She claims she heard through the grapevine they were talking about their Bachelorette chances and all the parties they’ll get to attend after the show ends. Again, this isn’t that big of a reveal—even the winners go to events after the show ends. Who cares? I don’t think Colton does, but he is listening when Tayshia says they’re not ready to get engaged.

This throws Colton off, but he puts it on the back burner to concentrate on enjoying the rest of the date. He takes Tayshia to his apartment, where they play games and talk about hometowns. She says her family, dad especially, might be tough because they’re still processing her divorce. This doesn’t phase Colton, and he gives her the rose. They end the night making out in his room, which he describes as the spot “where the magic doesn’t happen.”

The next day, Colton takes Caelynn snowboarding. It’s uneventful—until he tells her about the conversation with Tayshia. It’s all a lie, Caelynn insists. Once she’s away from Colton, she tells a producer, “Dude, I better get a rose because I will call that bitch out.”

When they meet up later for dinner, Colton cries because he’s so confused. Caelynn assures him that she’s there for him and ready to be engaged. She feels like she can be herself with him, she says, and it’s scary that a lie could compromise that. She was planning to tell him, before all of this happened, that she’s falling in love. This reassures Colton, and he gives her the rose and says he’s falling in love too.

The next morning, Caelynn confronts Tayshia. When asked why she would call her out, Tayshia claims everyone noticed that she and Cassie were the most nervous after Katie warned Colton. So, she says, they’re probably the guilty ones. “If I really wanted to talk smack about you,” she adds, “I would be talking smack about you every single day, but I haven’t.” That’s her evidence? Tayshia doesn’t seem like a liar to me—but those receipts are weeeeaaaak.



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Gabrielle Union Just Clapped Back at a Troll Telling Her to 'Dress Her Age'


For the past couple of weeks, actress Gabrielle Union has been showing off looks from her latest upcoming collaboration with New York & Company on her Instagram, which seems to have a “eat/pray/love/travel/chill” vibe going on, in her words. Out in early January, her designs seem to encompass a range of styes, including seriously comfy (and cute) athleisure. But when she posted her latest sneak peek on Friday (December 28), a troll came for the actress with an ageist attack—and you can bet Union had the perfect response ready.

On Friday, December 28, the new mom shared a photo of herself sitting in what looks like a loose-fitting black sleeveless dress and chunky sneakers. She captioned the post: “All my unfinished work/projects from 2018 looking at me as I prepare my vision board for 2019 like ???And a glimpse of my upcoming @nyandcompany eat/pray/love/travel/chill collection available next week! Sneakers by @lining.official.”

But one user apparently wasn’t thrilled with Union’s look. Instead of keeping her thoughts to herself, she let the Bring It On star know it in the comments section: “Can you dress your age please,” they wrote.

Union—who knows her way around a clapback and, in fact, just took down a mommy-shamer on December 7—certainly wasn’t going to let that one slide. “Oh I’d loooove to hear what you think is age appropriate,” the 46-year-old actress responded. “Please gimme allll the age appropriate fashion advise I didn’t know I needed in my life.”

Union’s other followers had her back, too, dropping comments like, “Loving the look, I might steal it,” and “u look you good luv, u killed it ?.” She also got some sweet support from her friend, Khloé Kardashian, who commented this morning, “You look beautiful ?.”

Luckily, all that positivity seems to have shut the troll down. Here’s to Union’s spot-on clap-back talents, all the cute and comfortable-looking dresses a closet can hold, and Internet trolls knowing better in 2019.

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'I'm 23 and I Know I Don't Want Kids. Stop Telling Me I'll Change My Mind.'


According to a new report from the CDC, the number of women age 20 to 24 giving birth has fallen 4 percent since 2016 to a record low of 71 per 1,000. While some millennials are putting off motherhood, others don’t want children now or later—and Khaliha Hawkins is one of them. Here’s her story, as told to Juno DeMelo.

My 11-year-old sister was born when I was a freshman in high school. Being around for her birth and watching my parents—who both had full-time, demanding jobs—raise her, I was like, yeah, that’s not for me.

Don’t get me wrong: Of course I love and care about my sister, and I still babysit her. But my parents were straight-up with me about how expensive childcare is, and I was flabbergasted. And even though my mom had great insurance when she was pregnant, I was in shock about how much my sister’s birth cost.

I also know that you have to have a lot of patience to be a parent, and my tolerance for bullshit is low! I have friends who stop what they’re doing when they see babies, who have always dreamt about being parents, and that’s just not me.

People ask me all the time whether I want kids. I’m usually hesitant to tell them I don’t, because then they ask why, and I don’t feel like I need to give them an explanation. If I do respond, I simply say “no” and leave it at that. If you’re not my partner or a close friend or family member, it’s none of your business.

“I know that you have to have a lot of patience to be a parent, and my tolerance for bullshit is low!”

I have a really large family, and they bring it up every Thanksgiving. My mom always says you should have kids early so it’s easier on you and your body and so you can grow together, and I’m like, no! I can’t imagine it happening, but if I somehow decide down the road that I want to be a mother, I would just adopt.

Even though I’ve been warned that supposedly every man wants a child, I’ve actually been set up with a guy based on the fact that he also didn’t want kids. I’m not dating anyone right now. If I did meet someone, I’d make sure to bring up the fact that I don’t want kids before things got serious.

Obviously I’m on birth control, the importance of which was drilled into me early on. I used to be on acne medication, and I didn’t want to have to remember to take multiple pills every day, so I use a hormonal birth control I don’t have to think about as often.

I know how much you have to sacrifice to be a parent. Some of my friends think I’d be a great mom because I’m so passionate, but I’m passionate about art and politics and my career, not children! People always say it’s selfish to not want kids, whereas I feel like it’s the exact opposite. It would be selfish of me to bring a child into this world knowing I’ve had these convictions for so long.



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Blue Ivy Is the Only Person Who Can Get Away With Telling Beyoncé to Calm Down


Bruno Mars and Ed Sheeran may have swept the 2018 Grammy Awards—for whatever reason—but the real winner of the evening was Blue Ivy, who showed up fashionably late with her famous mama, Beyoncé. The 6-year-old superstar-in-training sat between Bey and Jay Z the entire evening, delighting the Internet with hilarious expressions. Every time the camera panned to the Carter family, Miss Blue stole the show, which is quite a feat considering who her parents are.

Of all the moments from Sunday’s show, though, there’s one that’s (rightly) blowing up social media. Right after Kesha’s powerful #MeToo tribute, Camila Cabello took the stage to give a brief speech about immigrants. When she finished, Beyoncé and Jay Z gave her a warm applause, but they were interrupted by Blue, who seemingly told her parents to calm TF down.

You can see it in the video, below. As Bey and Jay Z are applauding, Blue gives them a funny look and gestures with her hands something akin to, “Alright, alright: enough applause.” It’s instantly iconic. Check it out:

So what does this mean? Is Blue actually a Fifth Harmony fan? Is she still salty about Cabello leaving the group? Is she the only person on this planet who isn’t a fan of “Havana?” Regardless, Bey and Jay did stop clapping when Blue told them to, confirming once and for all who the real head of their household is.

Here are some of the funniest reactions to Blue reprimanding her parents:

If Blue Ivy is still on the fence about Camila Cabello, I recommend she listen to “Crying in the Club.” America slept on that song, and it’s lightyears better than “Havana,” TBH.

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