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'Outlander' Season 3 Episode 6 Trailer: Here's Your First Look at Jamie and Claire's Reunion Sex


Outlander fans have been waiting for one thing (and one thing only) this season: Jamie (Sam Heughan) and Claire’s (Caitriona Balfe) reunion. Or, more specifically, all the sex that’ll happen once they reunite.

It’s been 20 years since the two have seen each other, but last night’s episode finally set things in motion for them to be together again. Claire used the standing stones to travel back to 18th century Edinburgh, which means she and Jamie are finally in the same century at the same time. This isn’t the only thing Outlander fans have to look forward to, though. The sixth episode, which airs October 22 and is titled “A. Malcom,” will be a super-sized 74 minutes, giving fans time to really enjoy Jamie and Claire’s reunion.

And what a reunion it is. Starz released both a photo and quick teaser trailer of Claire and Jamie’s rekindling, and they can be described in one word: hot. Like, insanely hot. So hot that you might want to grab a glass of water before you continue reading this post.

Let’s start with the photo, which Starz tweeted out on Monday (October 9) from Outlander‘s official page “When the love of your life is back in your arms, nothing else matters,” they captioned the pic. Jamie’s hair, as always, is looking 20 out of 10.

The video is even steamier. It’s brief, but it’s memorable. Their thirsty stares! The heavy breathing! Jamie suggesting to Claire that she “come to bed” with him! It’s all just too much…in the best way possible, of course. Watch it for yourself, here.

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Is it October 22 yet? There’s absolutely no way Outlander fans can make it until then.

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Sarah Hyland Had the Perfect Response to This Troll Who Thought Birth Control Is Just for Sex


Sarah Hyland has never been afraid to serve up some righteous justice/logic on Twitter. Case in point, her spot-on response to paparazzi who were trying to get her to bash Modern Family co-star Ariel Winter. “y’all digging for something you’re never going to get,” Hyland tweeted as a response, adding in the laugh-cry emoji for a splash of extra defiance. Then, there was that time this summer when she burned Vice President Mike Pence after he touched a casual bit of space equipment at NASA that clearly had a “DO NOT TOUCH” sign in front of it (the capital letters were real). So when a Twitter troll showed up on her feed in support of President Trump‘s egregiously awful rollback on the Affordable Care Act’s birth control mandate, she was not about to let him get away with it.

It started on Friday, when Hyland tweeted some outrage about the stripped contraception protections into the Twitterverse:

Of course, those on both sides of the issue had plenty to say, but one fan in particular really got her goat. His tweet has since been deleted, for reasons that will shortly become clear. But Hyland’s response hammered home an important point: birth control is not just for women looking to prevent pregnancy when they have sex. It’s for women looking to control abnormal or irregular periods, endometriosis, and numerous other medical conditions that all relate to the lovely functions performed by cisgender women’s reproductive parts.

The ability to afford birth control—or, thanks to the Affordable Care Act, the guarantee that it will be free through insurance—is necessary for some women who experience chronic suffering when it comes time for their periods. The user who sent the tweets later said that he tweeted apologies twice (and maybe he’s shifted his perspective on the matter after a torrent of tweets directed at his misfire).

Unfortunately, however, the fact that birth control has important, critical purposes beyond preventing pregnancy is something that the men who still largely control women’s healthcare just don’t get.

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The 2017 Sex Toy Awards


Aside from the fact that orgasms are, well, orgasms, we had plenty of reasons to pick 2017 as the year we kicked off Glamour’s Sex Toy Awards. Sex tech is predicted to be a multi-billion dollar industry by 2020, and more women than ever are launching their own companies to challenge how we view our sexual health. It seems like every other week we’re talking about a new, woman-run start-up that’s getting frank about sex and how we have it. And since 44 percent of women between the ages of 18 and 60 admit to having used a sex toy, right now seemed like the perfect time to go deep on something that impacts a lot of us. Below, you’ll find our experts’ picks for the best vibrators, accessories, and more— from the latest sexy tech innovations to the all-time classic “Cadillac of vibrators.” We hope you have as much fun reading the Sex Toy Awards as we had reporting them.

The Most Presentable-Looking Toys

By Sophie Saint Thomas

First things first: Do vibrators always have to look so damn explicit? Who among us hasn’t forgotten to put things away properly now and again? (Houseguest nightmare, by the way.) According to sex journalist Sophie Saint Thomas, they most certainly do not. Here are her picks for three sex toys that get the job done an are pretty enough to show off.

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Toy you won’t have to explain to a TSA agent

“Selfies from Maui look even better with a postorgasmic glow—great news, considering that according to the TSA, you can totally bring your sex toy on a plane. Still, no one wants airport security side-eye, so I like the Satisfyer Pro Penguin (above, $69.99), which is extremely cute and could pass as a little pore cleanser. It works by gently circulating air around your clitoris, like a tiny vacuum that gets you off.

Oh, and no matter what toy you take, make sure you either remove the batteries (or drain them, if it’s rechargeable) so you don’t cause any mid-flight vibrating. Even better, get something with a travel lock, which the German company Fun Factory includes on most of its products. You may also want to pack your toy in a ziplock bag to avoid germs. And remember, even though you might feel a little embarrassed, if you get extra screening and the agent asks what that pink thing is in your bag, just be honest. Taking control of your own sexuality is nothing to be ashamed of.”

Least intimidating toy for couples’ time

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“While vibrators are an amazing addition to sex (especially if you need clitoral stimulation added to the mix), introducing one in bed can be a little nerve-racking. A good place to start exploring the world of couples’ sex toys (see more below) is Eva by Dame ($105), a teeny yet intensely orgasmic hands-free vibrator that you can wear during sex. Oh, and it also looks like an adorable little beetle.

Toy that looks like an objet d’art

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“One night, when I showed my treasure chest of sex toys to an architect I brought home, she immediately pointed to the gorgeously sculptural Soraya ($239) by Lelo and exclaimed, ‘That design is beautiful!’

True, but even more beautiful is what it does: The Soraya works like a rabbit vibrator, combining internal, G-spot stimulation with clitoral vibrations. It’s surprisingly powerful for how pretty it is—it’s one of Lelo’s best-sellers—and while it’s not exactly cheap, if you’re looking to make an investment you could do much worse than something from this Swedish company.

The best part about Soraya’s sleek, modern look, though, is how you could totally leave it on a living room end table and play it off as modern art.”


The Best Subscription Boxes

By Gigi Engle

Sex educator and journalist Gigi Engle on why curated boxes are the next frontier of sex toy shopping.

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“Simply knowing where to buy pleasure products can be overwhelming. There’s a case to be made for going to a sex toy store, or purchasing online, but even then the sheer amount of options is staggering. Where do you start? That’s why, when I’m in the mood for something new, I love an adult subscription box. They’re like Blue Apron for your bedroom, and typically come chock full of toys and accessories specifically curated and delivered discreetly to your door. One of the best is the quarterly Unbound Box (above, $175 for three quarters). In addition to having high-end goodies, the company is woman-owned and has a bunch of awesomely feminist, frequently kink-friendly mantras all over their site and on their product descriptions. Plus, they have a groundbreaking line of cute jewelry items that double as sex toys (like a pretty massage ring and a chic necklace with sneaky nipple clamps).

I also really like the What’s In Your Box ($18 for a month), a more affordable monthly option that puts an emphasis on women’s sexual health. “By talking openly about sexuality, pleasure, prevention, and consent, we eliminate shame, normalize the conversation and empower all women to achieve the sex life they desire,” reads their site. There’s also the Nooky Box ($79 per quarter), a fun and highly approachable choice with products perfect for sex toy novices. Each box had a creative theme—like the “Sex Is Wet” box, which has ocean-scented items and waterproof goodies like the Mimic vibrator in it.”

The Best Oldies But Goodies

By Bex Caputo

Sure, there’s a hot new sex toy on the market every few months, but some of them—like the three picks below—are classic for a reason. Bex Caputo, toy retailer and founder of the site BexTalksSex.com, rounds up the all-time favorites.

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Magic Wand

“This iconic sex toy has been getting people off since the 1960s, when it was first advertised as a back massager. (Yeah, OK.) In 2015, Vibratex revamped it by adding more speeds, making it one of the most powerful vibrators on the market. It comes in classic ($60) and rechargeable (above, $125), but just one use of either and you’ll see why some devotees call it “the Cadillac of vibrators.”

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Pocket Rocket

“The textured head and surprisingly robust motor on the travel-size and affordable Doc Johnson Pocket Rocket (right, starting at $21) has earned this little vibrator a dedicated following.

Though the most basic model is just a single speed, many customers tell me it’s the only one they’ll ever need.”

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Rabbit Habit

“Made famous by the iconic Sex and the City episode, the Vibratex Rabbit Habit (left, $94) vibrator is basically a carnival ride for your bits. With external vibration via the two rabbit ears, internal rotation, and swirling beads inside the shaft for added texture, is it any wonder Charlotte didn’t want to leave her apartment after buying one of these instant classics?”


The Best Toys For You, Him, Anyone

By Kate Sloan

We know that not all sex toy users have vaginas, which is why it’s great that more companies are making and marketing gender-neutral products that’ll please everybody. No matter what you’re into or how you identify, Kate Sloan, founder of the sex-ed and toy-review site GirlyJuice.net, recommends three toys for exploring the possibilities. Do you—literally.

Crescendo

PHOTO: Gabriella Sanchez

“This flexible vibrator from sex-tech start-up MysteryVibe ($179) is hyper-adaptable and can be bent in almost any position. It can curl up to hit a G-spot, lay perfectly flat between two bodies during sex, or even wrap around a penis for a turbo-charged handjob.”

Transformer

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“A double-ended vibrator which almost resembles a pair of sleek headphones, Picobong’s Transformer ($129) has been billed as the first truly gender-neutral sex toy, and it’s not hard to see why. It bends into any shape for couples’ play, solo fun, or anything you like. According to its site, ‘It’s perfect for her, him, her & him, him & him, her & her, and every other combination possible.'”

njoy Pure Wand

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“Widely considered the best G-spot toy ever made, the njoy Pure Wand ($110) is a heavy, C-shaped dildo that can also be used to tease the prostate, or ‘P-spot.’ Since it’s stainless steel, its weight provides the perfect amount of pressure.”


The First Time Sex Toy Advice I Wish I’d Gotten

By Lane Moore

Comedian, writer, and musician Lane Moore on what every sex toy buyer should know.

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“I used to buy into the idea that penetration always equals orgasms, so when I first got into sex toys, I thought I would probably just put a dildo in there and call it a day. I was so wrong. I wish someone had told me that not only do most women not get off on penetration alone, but you also don’t need it in your sex toys if you don’t want it—and it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you. Some women love a combination of insertion and clitorial stimulation, but there’s nothing bad about just wanting some concentrated clit attention either—a good starter toy is the Iconic Bullet by Jimmyjane ($16), which is straightforward and not some major investment if it turns out that it’s actually not the thing you’re into after all. Remember: You’re not strange or broken just because you don’t want x, y, or z in your sex toy.”


The Best New Accessories

By Emily Morse

There’s a whole world of bedroom accouterments beyond vibrators. Emily Morse, sex therapist, author, and host of the podcast Sex With Emily names some of her favorites right this moment.

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Best Subtle Accessory

“My dream is a lube on every nightstand: It makes intimate encounters a hundred times better. That’s why I freaked out when I found the Amelia Lube Vial Necklace (above, $60) by Unbound, which lets you covertly carry the perfect amount of your favorite lube with you anywhere, anytime. It’s pretty, practical, and just may be the best conversation piece I’ve ever worn to a party.”

Best Toy-Friendly Lube

“Speaking of lube, Naturalove ($11) is USDA-certified organic and water-based, which means you can use it alongside any of your silicone-based sex toys without damaging them the way silicone-based lubes would.”

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Best Clean-Up Helper

“The Uvee Home Play storage box (above, $180) solves two sex toy buzzkills at once by charging and sanitizing your toys. Successfully funded through Kickstarter earlier this year, UVee uses a special UV-C light that’ll make for the cleanest orgasm you’ve ever had.”


The Best Sex Enchancers

By Suzannah Weiss

The addition of a toy to couple sex can take it to the next level. The three options below are the best of the best when it comes to partnering up—be it because of their hand-friendly shape, their app connectivity, or even just the fact that they’re easy to ignore when you’re getting busy. Glamour Sex & Relationships contributor Suzannah Weiss breaks down her favorites.

PHOTO: Gabriella Sanchez

Lily 2

“The small and sleek shape of Lelo’s Lily 2 (above, $139) fits pretty much anywhere you want—including right between you and your partner. Its strong but quiet motor vibrates with eight settings, and its ergonomic design makes it easy for you or your partner to hold, with a point at the top that focuses the vibration right on your clit. Another cool (if, yes, a little gimmicky) thing about this toy? It comes in three colors, each with its own scent to set the mood. You can get a pink one that smells like “Rose and Wisteria,” a lavender one with “Lavender and Manuka Honey,” and a black one with the scent of “Bordeaux and Chocolate.” (Apparently, these scents are aphrodisiacs.) At the least, using it means you don’t have to light candles.”

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Jopen Aries

“The Jopen Aries (right, $36.99) is a versatile little gadget that lets you and your partner do everything you’d normally do, from nipple caressing to finger play to hand jobs, but with an added oomph. Putting this small vibrator on feels a little like wearing a giant, upside-down ring, but once it’s doing its job it’ll just feel like part of your finger—except, you know, it vibrates. At least in the bedroom, it’s a cute accessory.”

PHOTO: We-Vibe

We-Vibe Sync

“You don’t have to worry about holding this one, since half of it fits inside your vagina during sex while the other half covers your clitoris. The We-Vibe Sync (left, $199) is bendable and can be controlled either through the buttons on the device, via a remote, or through the app, We-Connect. The latter lets you do all sorts of other fun things, like sync the vibrations with music and customize your own patterns.”


The Best of High-Tech

By S.W.

Sex tech has never moved faster—teledildonics, anyone?—but while plenty of them are futuristic, some tech toys are downright Space Odyssey. Below are three that, in addition to being mind-blowingly advanced pieces of technology, will also just blow your mind.

Lioness

PHOTO: Gabriella Sanchez

“Think of the Lioness (above, $229) like a Fitbit for your sex life: This smart vibrator contains sensors that detect your vaginal movements, temperature, and pressure. After each session, it collects your data on an app and charts your arousal process—complete with a spike to represent orgasm contractions. People have used it to learn things like when in their cycle they orgasm most easily and how long it takes them to get turned on.”

PHOTO: Lovense

Lovense Teledildonics

“If you’re in a long-distance relationship, these toys are the closest thing to IRL sex. The set includes a rabbit vibrator called Nora and a sleeve called Max (above, $170 for the set, $89 each) that move in response to each other’s motions remotely. That’s right: While one partner’s moving Nora in and out of her, the other will actually feel Max pumping air around him to simulate vaginal contractions. And when he slides in and out of the sleeve, the head of her vibrator rotates with the speed of his thrusts. These also come with an app that lets you video-chat for super-realistic cybersex.”

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OhMiBod Club Vibe 3.Oh

“You’ll never get bored at a concert or club with this music-responsive vibrator in your pants. The Club Vibe (above, $199) comes with a set of panties to tuck it into, and when in “club mode,” it’ll buzz each time its accompanying remote detects a beat. You can also just wear it at home and test how it responds to different Spotify playlists, or run with it in and feel its vibrations timed to your footsteps. There’s also a “wireless remote control mode” that works like a normal at-a-distance vibrator.”

This story originally appeared in the October 2017 issue.

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Outlander Season 3, Episode 4 Recap: Melodramatic Possibilities and a Seriously Problematic Sex Scene


This article centers on Season 3, Episode 3 of Outlander, “All Debts Paid.” If you’re not yet caught up with the show, be warned: Spoilers abound.

Good news this week, guys: There is some reasonably hot sex in this episode of Outlander. Bad news: That sex does not happen between Jamie and Claire, and the circumstances begetting the sex are…uncomfortable, at best.

Most of the interesting stuff happens in 18th-century England this week so let me quickly summarize what is happening in 1968. Claire, Brianna, and Roger (the deceased Reverend Wakefield’s son from Season 2) work on finding Jamie in history now that Brianna knows her true parentage. They learn he was in prison until 1756 when the prison closed. After that, the trail goes cold. Brianna and Roger and Brianna and Claire grow closer as the three search various archives for more word of Jamie, but have little luck. After a particularly disappointing dead end in Edinburgh, Claire worries she is going to spend her life chasing a ghost, exactly as Mrs. Graham (Reverend Wakefield’s housekeeper) cautioned against in Season 2. Brianna doesn’t want to give up, but Claire says, “It’s time to go home,” and she and Brianna head back to Boston. We’re four episodes into the season but this show is clearly going to carry out this grand tease a bit (or a lot?) longer.

Now to the good stuff. In 1756 England, Jamie is working as a groom at Helwater, an English estate, in service of the Lord and Lady Louisa Dunsany and their daughters Geneva and Isobel. Because of his reputation as “Red Jamie,” Jamie is now going by the name Alex MacKenzie. There’s always a twist or three to every plot in Outlander, and this episode is no different: Lord Dunsany tells Jamie to keep his involvement in the Jacobite rebellion to himself because he and Lady Dunsany lost their son, Gordon, in the war. The Lady Dunsany is still grieving and would not take well to knowing there was a Jacobite in her service.

All things considered, life doesn’t seem too bad at Helwater. The name is a bit misleading and as with last season, this show loves a good period costume—whether it’s the British aristocracy or French nobles or Scottish Highlanders in their kilts. Visually, this episode is sumptuous, and the attention to detail is meticulous.

We quickly learn that Geneva is what you might call a “difficult woman”—imperious, haughty, demanding. When she wants to go for a ride, the grooms always draw straws because they hate her so much. Geneva is promised in marriage to the Earl of Ellesmere and after her betrothal, she insists Jamie accompany her on her next ride like a predator playing with its food. As they trot around the grounds, Geneva asks Jamie provocative questions and insists they ride further when Jamie wants to turn back, reminding him, “You have to do my bidding.”

Geneva rides ahead, leaving Jamie frustrated and following. Suddenly, Geneva shrieks and Jamie rides to her rescue, finding her passed out on the ground. After Jamie picks her up, Geneva starts giggling and says, “I knew you’d do as I told you.” Jamie, none too pleased at being toyed with, dumps Geneva in the mud. She says, “I look forward to our next ride,” which, of course, she does. Jamie is extremely attractive and uninterested in nonsense, which is a novelty to someone like Geneva, who has never had anyone stand up to her before.

As he promised in the previous episode, Major John Grey visits Jamie, and the two play chess. Conveniently, Grey’s brother, Lord Melton, happens to be perambulating with Geneva and Isobel while Grey and Jamie are talking. Geneva quickly realizes there is more to Jamie’s story, and not one to pass up an opportunity to make trouble, she later pays Jamie a visit in the stables as he is, literally and metaphorically, shoveling shit. Geneva is going to be married in three days and she doesn’t want her first time to be with the crusty, old ass man she has been promised to. She orders Jamie to come to her bed and deflower her. Who can blame her?

Jamie’s delicate sensibilities are offended by Geneva’s “indecent proposal,” but Geneva refuses to take no for an answer. She threatens to have Jamie’s parole revoked. When that doesn’t sway him, she threatens his family at Lallybroch, and family is his Kryptonite, so he acquiesces, reluctantly.

The whole situation is really problematic. The show is depicting a gentler kind of rape than what Jamie endured at the hands of Black Jack Randall, but it’s still a violation. Jamie does indeed go to Geneva’s room that night and quickly disrobes. He is gallant and tender. He asks Geneva if he can touch her and when Geneva is nervous he says they don’t have to go any further. She firmly says, “No, I’m doing this for myself. I want my first time to be with someone like you.” Jamie warns her that “the first time can be vexing,” and assures Geneva that it won’t hurt as much “if I take my time.” It’s all very erotic—beautifully shot and well acted—but incredibly uncomfortable because of what precipitated the events.

It is a strange, awkward juxtaposition to see Jamie saying and doing all the right things while robbed of his own right to consent. It’s an equally strange, awkward juxtaposition to see a woman asserting her agency over her body and her sexuality, something we see far too little of in popular culture, when she is coercing her partner (without his consent) at the same time. If the roles were reversed, people (myself included) would be absolutely up in arms about a man coercing a woman into sex and then having the resulting scene portrayed as somehow sexy and romantic. This is a grating tension in the episode that cannot be neatly resolved. It is, in fact, not a sex scene we are witnessing, but a rape scene, and no amount of script and screen manipulation can make it otherwise.

After they have sex, Geneva is feeling the afterglow and tells Jamie she loves him but Jamie’s all, Nah girl, you’re just dickmatized. I mean, basically that’s what he says. He goes on to explain, “Love is when you give your heart and soul to another and they give theirs in return.” He doesn’t mention Claire, but it’s obvious that she is to whom he refers.

Months later, Geneva returns to Helwater to visit her family and is heavily pregnant. Outlander is never, ever subtle, and it’s crystal clear Geneva is carrying Jamie’s child, because, of course. The night she goes into labor, and of course there are complications, so the Dunsany family rushes to her side—led by Jamie, of course! It’s all completely plausible, right? Right.

Jamie learns he has a “fine healthy boy” as a son, but Geneva dies. Just like that, this character becomes a martyr despite all her bad behavior. And look, I understand Geneva and her difficult personality. Being a woman in the 18th century was a really confining experience, and though she was confined in luxury as a woman of breeding, she was confined nonetheless. But does that justify how she became pregnant? Or is the show suggesting that when a woman takes control of her sexuality, the consequence is death? It’s all a mess.

The Earl of Ellesmere threatens to kill the newborn in a fit of rage, holding a knife to its wee body as he screams at Lord and Lady Dunsany, “You promised me a virgin. What I got was a whore.” Turns out, the Earl and Geneva never had sex, so he knows the baby isn’t his. Before long, Lord Dunsany has whipped out his pistol and Ellesmere is gonna stab the poor baby. Jamie steps in, takes the gun from Dunsany, and kills Ellesmere to save his son—even though he can’t fully admit the baby is his. Honestly, this episode is amazing, but it is also one of those episodes where the most melodramatic possibilities come to pass.

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Not long after, Lady Dunsany and Isobel are out on a walk with the baby and run into Jamie. Isobel tells him they named the baby William and Jamie says it’s a fine name. He is so close to his son, yet so far. He has a few moments alone with the boy and says loving things that make him even sexier than he already is, but most importantly, he tells his son, “I am here.”

Lady Dunsany tells Jamie he will not be held culpable for Ellesemere’s death. She offers Jamie his freedom by way of thanks for saving her grandson. Jamie offers his gratitude but says, “I will not go just yet.” He pretends it is so he can send money back to his family, but we know the truth. Jamie Fraser is our man in the storm.

And then it is 1764 and William, who goes by Willie, is the handsome young Earl of Ellesmere. Jamie teaches him to ride and they are obviously close. Lady Dunsany observes to a friend that Willie and Jamie spend so much time together that they’re starting to look alike. We all know what that means…it is time for Jamie to return to Scotland. Willie doesn’t take the news of Jamie’s departure well, but Jamie knows if he stays much longer, everyone will know Willie’s true parentage.

As Jamie gets his affairs in order, he meets with Major John Grey, who has figured out Jamie is Willie’s father. (It’s a little hilarious that everyone else remains oblivious to Willie’s true parentage. We are getting Clark Kent/Superman levels of subtlety here.) Jamie asks Grey to look after his son as a father and even offers himself to Grey in exchange, which is kind of rude when you think about it. They are clearly friends! Why do this? Grey tells Jamie he’ll always lust for the Scotsman, but doesn’t want Jamie out of duty or sacrifice. Good on John Grey for that and for recognizing what Geneva never did—true consent is whole hearted consent and not transactional.

Grey also has news of his own. He’s going to marry Lady Isobel and, conveniently enough, they are going to raise Willie. The two men have a sweet bonding moment and it’s nice to see how they’ve forged and sustained a friendship over the years.

Later, Willie visits Jamie in his quarters where Jamie is staring at a carving of St. Anthony. Soon the two are talking about “stinking papists,” and Willie says he wants to be Catholic like Jamie. Jamie christens the boy as William James and gives his son a carving of a snake with his name on it, promising Willie he will never forget him. It’s unbearable watching Jamie yet again do the “right” thing instead of what’s best for himself.

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As Jamie rides out, Isobel promises, “We’ll take good care of your son.” Willie runs after Jamie, begging him to come back, but Jamie, ever stoic, wills himself to not look back.

As we look ahead to next week, it’s interesting to see how Jamie and Claire have each made a family during their years apart—the very thing they longed to create together—even if those family dynamics are fraught. It will be interesting to see what their families become when they finally find their way back to one another.

Roxane Gay is the author of Bad Feminist, Difficult Women, and most recently, Hunger. She is also the author of World of Wakanda for Marvel and a contributing opinion writer for The New York Times.



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Outlander Season 3, Episode 3 Recap: A Major Character Dies in a Shocking Twist, But Alas, Still No Sex


The article centers on Season 3, Episode 3 of Outlander: “All Debts Paid.” If you’re not yet caught up with the show, be warned: spoilers abound.

The title of this week’s episode, “All Debts Paid,” ends up being quite prescient for Jamie, Claire, and Frank, as loose threads are tied and we end up well positioned for a Jamie-Claire reunion in the hopefully near future. Though many questions are answered in this week’s episode, the grand tease continues, which is to say there is no sex in this episode. None. The struggle is ever so real. The action in this episode alternates between the 18th century and the 20th century, moving years forward at a time, and we finally see much of what happened to our three musketeers during the twenty years Jamie and Claire are apart.

Jamie isn’t faring so well back in the 18th century, but it could be and has been worse. (Outlander has never been afraid of subjecting the show’s characters to all manner of trauma as a means of advancing the plot.) At the top of the episode, Jamie is in an English prison and there is a new governor—Lord John William Grey—whom Jamie, somehow, doesn’t recognize. Yes, this is the same Grey who owed Jamie a debt of honor. (He turns up at the most narratively convenient times, doesn’t he?) In prison, Jamie is the clear leader of the Scottish Highlanders, but the English still see him as the notorious “Red Jamie.” Murtagh is revealed to be still alive and among the other Scottish prisoners. Though he’s sickly, he still has the sharp wit we’ve come to know and love.

In a feeble attempt to create a bit more plot during this episode, there is a rumor of a cache of gold King Louis supposedly sent to the Jacobites, which is hidden somewhere in the Highlands. A raving old man, Ducan Kerr, was found wandering the moor, talking about the “cursed” gold, which intrigues the new governor. Grey knows that if he finds the gold, he can improve his standing with the crown. He summons Jamie, who speaks Gallic and French, to translate what the old man is saying. At first, Jamie declines, what with being honorable and uninterested in helping the English. Then Grey offers to have his irons removed, and to provide the sickly Murtagh with a blanket, and I guess when you’re in prison, it’s the little things, so Jamie agrees.

Kerr doesn’t say much that makes sense but he does mention a “white witch” who “seeks a brave man,” and “will come for you.” Jamie, of course, knows Kerr is talking about Claire. When Grey demands to know what Kerr has said, Jamie says the old man was speaking of white witches and superstitious nonsense. That answer doesn’t satisfy Grey, who threatens to make Jamie talk, but considering all that Jamie has been through, he is not impressed. Basically, he stares Grey down and is all, “Do your worst,” and that’s that.

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Grey invites Jamie to dine with him, as the previous governor did, and they enjoy a meal of pheasant, carrots, and dinner rolls. Jamie also asks for permission for the prisoners to hunt by setting snares when they’re cutting peat, and to gather watercress. Grey agrees to these conditions and it seems the men are becoming tentative friends. Later, in the cell, Jamie shares the details of the meal with the other prisoners and one asks him to go slow so he can “savor every morsel.” It’s all very grim.

On an outing to cut peat, the prisoners create a distraction and we realize Jamie’s request for the prisoners to hunt was, in part, a ruse for him to escape, which he does. Grey is incensed and tries to hunt Jamie down, to no avail. A few days later, Jamie sneaks up on Grey as he is relieving himself, and Jamie makes clear that he finally remembers who Grey is. He tells Grey that he didn’t really want to escape, he just wanted to see if Claire might have found her way back to him. In not finding Claire, he had no motivation to do anything but return to prison. Jamie gives Grey the opportunity to follow through on his promise to kill Jamie, kneeling in front of him. Grey picks up his sword but refuses, saying, “I am not a murderer of unarmed prisoners.” As with this season’s premiere, Jamie’s death wish is denied and thank goodness for that. There is still amazing sex to be had between he and Claire.

During another cozy evening together, Grey and Jamie play chess before a roaring fire. Grey admits he lost a very close friend during the Battle of Culloden, and it’s obvious he means he lost a lover, when he laments, “Some people you grieve over forever.” It’s certainly interesting to see the show introducing a queer character in the 18th century and the only shame of this storyline is that it is, as queer storylines often tend to be in popular culture, grounded in loss, sorrow, and unrequited feelings. Certainly, queerness in the 18th century was not accepted by society and the show is being accurate, but the point still stands. True progress for us in this time will be marked by more queer storylines that don’t doom queer characters to lonely misery.

As they chat, Jamie admits Claire was his wife and was never truly in danger when he and Grey first met (in Season 2, when Jamie pretended to threaten Claire’s life to make Grey talk). During a quiet moment, Grey gently places his hand over Jamie’s and Jamie stills. The effects of the trauma he suffered at the hands of Black Jack Randall clearly still linger. In a hoarse whisper Jamie says, “Take your hand off me or I will kill you.” Just like that, any friendship these two might have shared disappears. Jamie excuses himself and Grey is left alone, crying. Of course.

Shortly after that, the prison is shuttered and the Highlanders, including Murtagh, are shipped to the colonies to work as indentured servants, where after 14 years they can earn their freedom. Grey takes Jamie, however, to a different location—Hellwater, where Grey will check on Jamie every quarter to be sure he’s well looked after. It’s all an elaborate way of discharging the debt he owes Jamie, though he cautions Jamie to go by another name as he starts his new life. That’s how things are left in the 18th century.

In Boston, things are increasingly tense between Claire and Frank, as they try to make their marriage of inconvenience work. Frank prepares a traditional English breakfast for the family to remind daughter Brianna of her roots and Claire, feeling warm toward Frank, asks if he wants to see a movie. Frank admits he’s already seen both movies Claire suggests and we learn that Frank and Claire have come to an agreement. They are married but living separate lives, free to see other people. “I’m being discreet, Claire,” Frank says and that’s that. Claire is quite surprised and it’s interesting to see her grappling with this new reality where Frank isn’t just sitting around pining for her. For once, Frank has done something unexpected; he has a bit of tooth to him. Unfortunately, that tooth gets longer and sharper as the episode goes on. Hell hath no fury like a man scorned.

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On her medical school graduation day, Claire and Frank have a small gathering at home. The party is meant to move to a restaurant but Frank can’t go because of “work.” Frank, unfortunately, is a terrible liar and claims he had the reservation time wrong. Lo and behold, his side piece, Sandy, shows up during the party. Claire tries to smile it off and ushers everyone off to the restaurant but later that night, both she and Frank are drunk and angry and they have what is clearly a long-simmering argument but in the well-mannered way that English people fight. Claire says she was humiliated; Frank tells Claire that this turnabout is fair play because she has convinced no one that they are a happy couple. Claire asks Frank if he has fucked his “harlot” in their bedroom and Frank says, “I think our bedroom is far too crowded already, wouldn’t you agree?” With that question, we see that it was never going to be possible for Claire and Frank to work out. They had good intentions about staying together, but good intentions are never enough to make a marriage work. Jamie was and always would be standing between them. Claire suggests they divorce but Frank refuses because he will not lose Brianna. Onward, the marriage of inconvenience goes, but it is clearly a much darker, colder relationship.

Claire and Frank celebrate Brianna’s 16th birthday, and then, it is 1966, and Brianna is graduating from high school. Claire is home after a difficult surgery when Frank has some news—he wants to take Brianna to England. Frank admits he has been offered a position at Cambridge. Claire is immediately stressed, saying she can’t up and leave her job, her patients, etc., and Frank drops the bomb—he’s not asking Claire to join him. Frank asks for a divorce, and admits he is going to marry his side piece, Sandy. As you might expect, there is cruelty left in him yet. He tells Claire that between medical school and her job, she hasn’t really been there for Brianna—as if that is a justification for taking her child from her. They have another terrible fight and Claire says Frank is free to divorce her, but he cannot claim adultery.

More bitter words are exchanged and finally, Frank says, “You couldn’t look at Brianna without seeing him, could you? Without that constant reminder, might you have forgotten him, with time?” Claire admits, “That amount of time doesn’t exist.” It is a chilling moment, at once true, and the most precise and cruel thing Claire could say to Frank. Frank grabs the keys and angrily leaves the house. With Brianna entering adulthood, there is nothing tethering Claire and Frank together and it’s painfully clear, as Claire points out, that Frank was just biding his time, waiting until he could be free of a marriage that was a pale shadow what he’d wanted with Claire. In the end, it seems like Frank stayed in the marriage more to punish Claire for not loving him the way she loved Jamie, rather than to be a father to Brianna.

Later that night, Claire is called into surgery. When she comes out of the operating room, her colleague Joe Abernathy is the bearer of bad news—Frank has died in a car accident. Claire runs to his side, and alas, it is the gesture Frank waited their entire marriage for, too little, too late. Claire tells him she did love him, very much. “You were my first love,” she whispers, before kissing his lips.

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And just like that, the episode is over. In some ways, it is a relief that Frank is out of the picture, but as with the show’s portrait of Lord Grey as the tragic gay man, killing Frank off is the simplest way to advance the plot toward an inevitable Claire-Jamie reunion. I cannot help but wonder how much more nuanced and textured this show’s storytelling would be if the writers didn’t always take the easy way out.

Roxane Gay is the author of Bad Feminist, Difficult Women, and most recently, Hunger. She is also the author of World of Wakanda for Marvel and a contributing opinion writer for The New York Times.



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Maude Is Making the Chic, Minimalist Sex Products You've Been Waiting For


When you need to restock your fridge, you’ll usually just head to the grocery store. But getting new sex products like lube, toys, and condoms isn’t always so straightforward. You’re lucky if you live near a sex shop, and even if you do, some people still find the experience of going into one uncomfortable. (Though the right shop will try to make you feel as welcome as possible!) If you buy your products online, you’re often faced with the overwhelming decision of where to order condoms, lube, or toys—and which brands and sites to trust. To solve these problems, Éva Goicochea, Dina Epstein, and Maya Bodinger are launching Maude, a one-stop shop for all your sexual health needs this October.

Their first products include a 100 percent silicon vibrator called “The Buzz,” a 10-pack of natural latex “Rise” condoms, and two kinds of organic “Shine” lubricants, aloe-based and silicon. You can get each of these items on its own, or you can customize a kit to be delivered to your door.

The founders say that Maude is distinct from other online sex toy retailers in that, rather than aggregating a bunch of different brands, the company makes and sells its own products. That way, it can be meticulous about their quality. “We’re a vertically-integrated, unisex, and design-forward brand,” Goicochea told Glamour. “While retailers focus on just curating products or offering many options, we work directly with some of the world’s best factories to create our edited line of sex essentials. Then, we reimagined the experience of buying these products through a modern website that focuses both on product and friendly content. In short, we put the customer experience first.”

Beyond just making our lives easier, Maude is hoping to change how we think about sex and its role in our overall health. “The current sex industry is based on an ideology that treats sex as a novelty—or worse, a taboo,” explains Epstein. Maude wants to show that, yes, addressing your sexual needs should be fun, but it should also be taken seriously. Epstein says they take “a wellness approach that makes people feel comfortable about sex, so they can integrate it into their daily lives.”

She adds, “By changing the conversation around sex, we are encouraging people to be more open about what they want [from] their partners and [for] themselves. Maude makes beautiful, easy-to-use items that give people the chance to stop compartmentalizing their sex lives—both in their heads and in their medicine cabinets.”

Plus, Maude’s products are so pretty and minimalist that we’d be totally fine leaving them out on the nightstand.

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