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Andrea Mitchell Is Still Waiting for a Woman President


When a woman succeeded, we took notice. It didn’t affect how we did our jobs, but we paid attention to that and we knew it was unique. I now am close to former Secretary of State Madeleine Albright, who was the first woman to hold that position. But even when she was first appointed, it left an impression on me. When she became Secretary of State in 1996, I was covering her swearing in, and I remember so well wanting to get an interview with her. I got to her on the street corner outside her house that morning before she went into the White House to be sworn in, and I got just a few words with her, but it helped the piece I was working on so much.

In the piece I wrote that night, I wrote that one of her commitments was going to be to increase the number of women at the State Department, which had been for generations a male-dominated institution. There was even a rule that a woman could not become an ambassador if her husband was an ambassador elsewhere; she was expected to follow him. It was just startling.

She was well aware of those dynamics, and I wrote about it and about how women in the foreign service were thinking about her appointment. That night, right after Nightly News, there was a reception in her honor. She invited the press, which was unusual, but she made it a point to have us there. And I ran into a very high level official who is still active in government and outside of government. And he said, “Where did you get that information? That’s just totally wrong. There’s no problem of sexism at the State Department. Who could have told you that?” And I just looked at him and thought to myself, “You are in for a really big shock.” And of course I was right, because that was the beginning of affirmative steps to improve gender equality at the State Department.

After Madeleine Albright, of course, there have since been more women at the State Department, and I have learned a lot from all of them. Condoleezza Rice was another remarkable woman and a great musician, which is something that I loved. She’s a wonderful pianist. We talked a lot about music, and she would have these little musical evenings at her apartment, and her friends would perform it. Later, Hillary Clinton held that position, and she came with the experience of having lived in the White House and worked to further women’s rights around the globe. For all the horrible things that happened with the war in Afghanistan, I saw something similar with Laura Bush. She worked with the State Department and the White House to help create the first co-ed institution of higher education—the American University in Kabul.

Just last week, I interviewed Anita McBride, Laura Bush’s former chief of staff, to talk about the new agreement between the Taliban and the Afghan government, which the United States has blessed. The fear is that it will undo the constitutional protections that the United States fought for under the Bush and Obama administrations, and it will put women in Afghanistan back in the Middle Ages, in terms of their rights.

Often, these stories are interconnected—the stories of female leadership and the conditions on the ground for women for women around the world. And I know that because I’ve seen it. I went with then-First Lady Hillary Clinton to Beijing in 1995 when she gave that famous speech and said, “Women’s rights are human rights and human rights are women’s rights.” I reported from Afghanistan under Taliban rule in 1998 and understood what women were dealing with there. In a crisis, women and girls are often the first to suffer. In Darfur, when I went there with Condoleezza Rice to a refugee camp, we met with all of these women who had been terrorized and raped and abused in refugee camps by the militias. You see it in Syria now with our withdrawal, what’s happening to women and children. And of course, we’ve seen it with the women and children on our own southern border, who’ve been separated and left unaccounted for and not reunited. I don’t think women have all the answers, but I do think that women leaders can often respond more affirmatively than men do. One of the few virtues of having been at this for as long as I have been is that I’ve gotten to experience these incredible social movements and transitions, for women in particular.



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Lifetime's Mistletoe & Menorahs Is the Jewish Holiday Movie You've Been Waiting For


Julianna: And what I love about Hanukkah is that Guy and I can come together for a quiet moment at the end of every single day of Hanukkah to light one candle on the menorah. It’s just nice to be able to put a pause and spend time together and celebrate this tradition that Guy has had since he was little.

Guy: There’s another bit that we put into the movie is me teaching Julianna how to do the prayers while lighting the candles on the menorah.

Julianna: In the film, Kelley [Jakle, who plays the main character, Christy] has a beautiful voice. When we were developing the script, it wasn’t initially intended to have the actor singing in that moment. It’s when we cast Kelley and we knew she’s so talented as a singer that we revised it to have her sing. It was the same with Jake. He’s a singer, too. So when “Oh Hanukkah, Oh Hanukkah” comes on… we changed all of that to be included because of the actors who were cast. They’re talented in so many arenas.

Important question: fruitcake plays a big part in this movie. Was it as good as it was made out to be?

Julianna: We tried to make sure that the fruitcake wasn’t that bad because it’s definitely not a great dessert. I think part of Guys writing was to try to bring fruitcake back.

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Guy: I love fruitcake. I really do. And that is something I discovered from Christmas is how much I love fruitcake.

Julianna: Oh, I’m not a fan. But the latkes and jelly donuts were fantastic. We tried to make sure that the actors like them so that they wouldn’t have a look of of anything on their face but joy.

And what’s next? Would you like to do another film for the holidays next year?

Guy: I would like to bring a Passover movie [into the fold]. There’s holiday movies all year around…spring movies and summer movies. But as far as Hanukkah, there’s still a lot of stories out there that can be explored. Whether it’s romance stories that involve someone being Jewish or two people being Jewish or just somebody going to a Hanukkah party, [I’m interested]. When pitching season comes around, I certainly hope to have a bunch of ideas.

Mistletoe & Menorahs airs Saturday, December 7 at 6 P.M. ET on Lifetime. Jessica Radloff is the Glamour West Coast editor. Follow her on Twitter @JRadloff.





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Missed Miscarriage: What It’s Like to be Waiting to Miscarry


Ten percent of all known pregnancies end in miscarriage. So why does the subject still feel so taboo? For women dealing with the complicated grief of miscarriage, it’s not the stat that’s comforting—it’s the knowledge that they’re not alone, that there is a space to share their story. To help end the culture of silence that surrounds pregnancy and infant loss, Glamour presents The 10 Percent, a place to dismantle the stereotypes and share real, raw, stigma-free stories.


After suffering three pregnancy losses over the last year, I’ve become a bit of a reluctant expert on miscarriages. There are the really early ones, sometimes called chemical pregnancies, which you might not even know about unless you take an early pregnancy test. There are the sudden, unexpected ones—the ones every pregnant woman fears. And then there’s the missed miscarriage, the kind of loss that takes its time, leaving women like me in a state of stagnation as we wait, sometimes weeks, for our pregnancies to end.

I would have been about seven weeks pregnant when I found out about my own loss. At the time I was vacationing in Spain with my husband and 2-year-old son, but all I could think about was going home to my doctor so I could get an ultrasound and see the baby’s heartbeat. I worried over every twinge until I woke up one morning with cramps so sharp I made an emergency appointment with an OB at a hospital on the outskirts of Barcelona.

I’d become all too familiar with transvaginal ultrasounds during my first pregnancy, and that moment of holding my breath before the doctor smiled and pointed out my healthy baby and its beating heart on the screen. Except this time the Spanish doctor didn’t smile and instead told me that the pregnancy had stopped progressing weeks earlier.

These types of pregnancy losses come without the obvious symptoms of a miscarriage. I’d experienced no bleeding. No cramps until that morning. Nothing to indicate the ball of cells growing inside my uterus had abruptly stopped without so much as a whisper goodbye. For this reason, missed miscarriages like mine are typically diagnosed by ultrasound, says Scott Sullivan, M.D., director of maternal-fetal medicine at the Medical University of South Carolina. It’s an experience that’s becoming more common. “When I started my career [20 years ago], our ultrasound abilities were limited—we couldn’t even see what was going on at five, six, seven weeks,” Sullivan says. Thanks to better technology, women are now getting their first ultrasound at 12 weeks, if not sooner—a significant jump from the 16- to 18-week window of the past. “I suspect that in years past people had miscarriages that they didn’t know about,” Sullivan says. It’s not that missed miscarriages are getting more common; it’s just that we’re more likely to know about them.

In Barcelona the doctor advised me to prepare to complete the miscarriage within a week, and I booked an emergency flight home the next day.

Back in the comfort of my home, I braced myself for the bleeding, but nothing happened—for five weeks. I looked and felt normal as the pregnancy hormones dissipated, but my routine now included weekly visits to my OB for check-ins. I’d wait with pregnant women in my doctor’s lobby, staring at the photos of newborn babies hanging on the walls before going into the ultrasound room that had been such a joyful place during my first pregnancy. And there, visit after visit, I’d see that there was still a five-week-old embryo hanging out in my womb, apparently in no hurry to leave. My doctor confirmed that I was experiencing a missed miscarriage, which seemed a funny way to describe something that hadn’t technically happened yet.



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‘Us’ Movie Review: Lupita Nyong’o Is the Horror Heroine We’ve Been Waiting For


Horror movies aren’t the best when it comes to diversity. The genre’s been slow to add women in fresh ways, and black people, typically, don’t fare well. Female characters are often reduced to stereotypes: scream queens in short skirts who screech and squirm their way through blood-soaked landscapes before meeting an untimely death.

But Jordan Peele’s new movie Us, in theaters now, presents a new kind of horror heroine—one who doesn’t scream, doesn’t squirm, and definitely doesn’t need a man to save her. Her name is Adelaide Wilson, and she’s played by Oscar-winner Lupita Nyong’o. The actor’s performance in Us is award-worthy, like everything she does, but it’s more than that: It’s a powerful portrait of a black woman who—spoiler alert—survives Peele’s terrifying, topsy-turvy world and teaches women how to fight back on their own.

Us breaks horror tropes left and right with intelligent characters who make good choices. Adelaide moves through the movie with her eyes and ears open. When her not-so-better half, Red, also played by N’yongo, wants to air her grievances, Adelaide listens intently and, as a result, learns important information to help her family survive. She’s a shining example of how staying calm and asking the right questions is the key to getting what you want. Screaming at monsters rarely works, even in movies.

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Don’t be fooled by Adelaide’s listening, though: She’ll cut you as soon as she has the chance. Old-school scream queens usually waited to be saved, but newer horror heroines—think Michonne (Danai Gurira) on The Walking Dead—are sharp. When the moment comes to attack, Adelaide strikes without fear and without over-the-top aggression. Her daughter Zora, played by Shahadi Wright Joseph, also knows how to hold her own. With their eyes on the prize (i.e., survival), Adelaide and Zora fight when they need to but are smart enough to hold back when the cards are stacked against them. And get this: They do it all without screaming.

Resilience is another important theme in Us, and Adelaide has it in spades. Despite the fact her alter-ego, Red, is the physical embodiment of her fears, she never backs down. Time and time again in the movie, we watch Adelaide address her demons head-on—charging forward, even when she’s terrified. That’s so incredible to see from a female protagonist. Facing your fears is difficult, but it’s necessary for survival, both in horror movies and real life, where the fight is just as scary.

 Evan Alex Lupita Nyong'o Shahadi Wright Joseph in Us.
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Scary movies often end with a fine line between the killer and the victim: In order to defeat the monster, characters become the monster. But Adelaide doesn’t do this in Us. She never forgets the people she’s fighting are just that: people. She recognizes they have wants and desires, and recognizes they bear their own burdens. Make no mistake: This doesn’t stop Adelaide from kicking some serious ass, but her empathetic approach with the villains is something we rarely see in horror movies. Maybe it’s time that changed.

In a world full of threats—especially for women—we need more onscreen heroes like Adelaide. When done properly, like in Us, horror movies are the perfect place for women to see how to be brave in the dark. Strength, patience, resilience, empathy: These are all traits Adelaide has in Us, and they’re what we need to fight the monsters in our own lives. Representation matters, and Peele’s writing and Nyong’o’s acting bring to life a woman who’s powerful, bold, and balanced: exactly the woman we need to see in 2019. Adelaide Wilson is spearheading a new path in horror, one that shows female characters conquering the shadows in their life once and for all.

Susan X Jane is a media, race, and pop-culture commentator. Follow her on Twitter at @susanjane19.





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Liberté Is the Size-Inclusive Lingerie Brand You've Been Waiting for


Amber Tolliver has modeled for lingerie brands for 17 years, working with companies like Jockey and Aerie on various underwear campaigns. (She appeared in the latter’s first-ever un-retouched #AerieReal ad back in 2014.) In the almost two decades she’s spent in the industry, she’s vacillated between being considered straight-size and curve. And that made a real difference, both as a consumer and as a model, in what lingerie she was able to wear.

“When I was a straight size model, I had tons of options in terms of lingerie brands that carried my size,” Tolliver says. “But as my body changed and my bust grew, the options grew to be almost nonexistent.”

She recalls one instance where she had booked a modeling gig with a store that carries multiple lingerie brands. She was curve at that time, and says she immediately noticed a difference between what she would be photographed in versus what the straight-sized models were going to wear. “I just remember walking up to one of the racks and [saying] wow, all of this lingerie is really beautiful—it’s colorful, it’s lacy, it’s feminine. And they said, ‘Yeah it really is, but that’s not your rack.'” Her rack, she tells Glamour, was pretty much exclusively “black, white, and nude panties and bras that came up to my clavicles. At that point, I was like, ‘This is it. I’m not going to be a bystander.'”

That experience drove her to launch her own intimates brand, where size doesn’t limit what product you have access to. And so, Liberté was born.

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At Liberté, there aren’t any plain-old nude undies. Instead, the bras have playful mesh and lace accents, the undies have sophisticated panels, and all pieces come in several different colors. The collection feels mature, but not matronly; supportive, but not overly constructed. The price point is sweet, too, ranging from $45 to $130.

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From launch, the direct-to-consumer brand has offered an expansive size range, with a special emphasis on products for larger busts. Bras start at 32C and go up to 38H, while panties are available in sizes small to 2X. Tolliver’s intention was this was to offer sizes that shoppers couldn’t typically find in stores: Too many brands, she says, promise to expand their sizing without following through, so “it was a part of the brand ethos to let women know that this is who we are out of the gate. You don’t have to wait; you can get your size.”

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“Aerie allowed me to recognize a very large opportunity in shifting the paradigm that exists within the lingerie market when they launched their Aerie Real campaign; that took off like wildfire,” she says. “Knowing that doing something different could also be successful […] opened the door for me to design and curate a collection that spoke more to myself versus a younger demographic.”

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Liberté is French for “freedom,” and it’s a word that has special significance to the brand’s founder. “I go to Paris twice a year for this trade show, and I have an unbelievable love of the language, [as well as of] my Haitian roots,” Tolliver explains. “Just coming up with the French word, liberté, made sense to me,” she continues, given the brand’s goal to offer shoppers a specific type of personal freedom: “The freedom to love who you are as you are.”

Down the line, Liberté hopes to expand into other intimates-adjacent categories, like sleepwear and swim—all of which would be size-inclusive, like its core lingerie. That way, “if your body changes you don’t need to change your brand,” says Tolliver. That’s pretty freeing, too.





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Why Meghan Markle and Prince Harry Are Waiting to Find Out the Sex of Their Baby


Meghan Markle received so much love today (January 14) about her baby on-the-way during her visit to Birkenhead, England—so much love that she spilled some tea to well-wishers. We reported this morning the Duchess of Sussex revealed exactly when her and Prince Harry’s first child is expected to arrive (end of April, early May). Now, she’s talking about the baby’s sex.

Before you get too excited: No, Markle didn’t confirm if she’s having a boy or girl. Rather, she told a fan that she and Prince Harry are opting to keep the baby’s sex a surprise until she gives birth.

This fan, a 9-year-old girl from Rock Ferry, told People magazine, “Meghan came up to me and asked me how old I was and where I went to school. I could see her bump and I asked if she was having a boy or a girl and she said, ‘We don’t know whether it’s a boy or girl, we are keeping it as a surprise.’”

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Markle and Prince Harry choosing to stay in the dark about this actually follows royal protocol. “Traditionally, the royal couple does not learn the sex of the baby until the birth,” Myka Meier, founder and director of Beaumont Etiquette, tells Glamour. “Beside the people in the delivery room, it’s tradition that the queen is first to be told of the new arrival via phone call. While there are many royal baby traditions that have been broken in recent generations—such as Princess Diana being the first to birth a royal baby outside of a palace and, instead, in a hospital—saving sex reveal for the day of birth is likely one that will stay for generations to come.”

Looks like we’ll all have to wait a few months to learn anything definitive about Markle’s royal baby.

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