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Khloé Kardashian Just Went to Her First High School Prom


Khloé Kardashian has had quite the busy weekend. While live-tweeting the most recent episode of Keeping Up with the Kardashians, she revealed two things: (1) She’s moving, which isn’t that interesting. (Well, it will be if she stays with Kris Jenner in the interim, like Kim and Kanye did, and the KUWTK cameras film it.) And (2) She attended her first high school prom. Yup, the Good American mogul confirmed on social media that she did, in fact, go to prom with one of her super-fans named Narbeh, who runs a Kardashian-centric Instagram account with more than 240,000 followers.

“My very first prom and I went with THE BEST date ever @NarbehKardash !!!!! We had so much fun!!! How handsome is my date???” she tweeted.

The prom took place at Hoover High School in Glendale, California, and for the occasion Kardashian wore a slinky black dress with a keyhole cutout. Narbeh was in a sleek black suit and, of course, bought his famous date a corsage. Naturally, they both shared a bunch of photos from the evening on social media. “Thank you for inviting me boo ?? it was perfect!!” Kardashian tweeted. “I loved meeting your family!! We can’t forget how gorgeous your Queen grandmother is!!!”

Narbeh documented most of his evening on Instagram. “Took @khloekardashian as my date to prom… so many more photos to come. I’m feeling over the moon ,” he wrote in one caption.

“Wow. Sharing my prom with @khloekardashian was an over the moon experience for me,” he later posted. “I want to thank Khloé, her team, @hoovertornados, my amazing mentor @mmelikian, and my family for making this all happen. Being w Khloé made me feel like i was with just one of my cousins. I’ll never forget this night! Enjoy these beautiful pictures! I’m so thankful! and Kokkkesssss you’re beautiful! ?”

I need to hear a play-by-play of their evening. Did Narbeh greet Khloé by quoting one of her classic KUWTK lines? Did they have in-depth conversations at dinner about the cultural impact of Kourtney and Khloé Take Miami? Did they slow dance to Kim’s song “Jam?!”

It’s not clear at this point how the prom date came to be, but maybe we’ll see it all on an upcoming episode of KUWTK. You may remember that Khloé’s sister Kylie Jenner also famously attended prom with a fan (and ex-BFF Jordyn Woods) back in 2017, which was documented on her short-lived show, Life of Kylie.

We’re sure it was a fantastic night for all in attendance at Hoover High, but especially for Narbeh, who told E!, “We had such a fun time! I’m so thankful and I’ll never ever forget my prom night!”





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The Dress Code, Aimed at Parents, at a Houston High School Is Being Called Out as Racist


This week, Madison High School in Houston instituted a new dress code policy—for parents.

Principal Carlotta Outley Brown sent a letter to parents on April 9 in which she outlined the new guidelines, and the stipulations immediately struck both local leaders and activists on social media as racist.

“No one can enter the building or be on the school premises wearing a satin cap or bonnet on their head for any reason,” Outley Brown wrote. “You also cannot wear a shower cap of any kind in the building.” In addition, the school banned: hair rollers, “pajamas of any kind,” jeans that are ripped to show too much skin, “leggings that are showing your bottom and where your body is not covered from the front or the back,” low-cut or revealing tops, “sagging pants,” and short-shorts and mini-dresses.

The rationale, according to Outley Brown’s letter? “To prepare our children and let them know daily, the appropriate attire they are supposed to wear when entering a building, going somewhere, applying for a job, or visiting someone outside of the home setting.” If the parents don’t follow the rules, she added, they will not be allowed inside the building. The Washington Post reports that the incident that spurred action from the school was a parent who arrived in a T-shirt dress and headscarf.

The outrage was swift; the new guidelines reek of racial undertones and class bias. Women of color in particular wear head wraps and scarves either as an aesthetic choice or a part of their haircare routines. “Having body parts exposed is one thing. Turning someone away because their hair’s in rollers…is a little ridiculous,” Zeph Capo, president of the Houston Federation of Teachers told CNN. “This is an issue of a principal issuing a dictatorial edict rather than having substantive conversation. Some of that stuff seems a little classist.”

On social media, the reaction was just as harsh, with parents pointing out that the dress code implies that some parents are better or more “appropriate” than others, simply on the basis of what they wear. “On today a high school in Houston, TX set this dress code for PARENTS. The other photo is the Principal who set the new rules,” activist Leslie Mac wrote on Twitter. “Reminder you can be Black and still create, write, enact & enforce anti-Black policies. nothing going wrong in that school has any connection to bonnets.” (Principal Outley Brown is African American.)

“I have on one of these banned items nearly every day at drop-off and often at pick-up. Am I not mom? Am I not a mother who kids in the school community should respect or even admire? This is the most racist/classist ish ever,” writer and activist Jamilah Lemieux tweeted. “No one would ever create such a dress code for class mobile moms who often wear the same sort of stuff, and the fact that so many of y’all are okay with the idea of instituting rules that are exclusive to folks that are/perceived to be poor or “low class” is just….”

As the dress code story went viral, others agreed.

The bottom line is parents who want to participate in their children’s education and be present at school shouldn’t be punished for aesthetic choices that a principal doesn’t agree happen to agree with. And when a set of policies seems to penalize black women in particular, that should raise a particular alarm.



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Boys Being Boys: Imagine a World Where We Can Forgive a Few High School Indiscretions


The world exploded with commentary when news broke about Christina Blasey Ford’s accusations that Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh had attacked her in high school. Soon enough, there it was: Fox News contributor Ari Fleisher, trying to speak “with a lot of sensitivity,” asked, “How much in society should any of us be held liable today” for an “issue that took place in high school? Should that deny us chances later in life? Even for a Supreme Court job, a presidency for the United States, or…you name it?”

It’s the question countless men across America have been asking: Isn’t there a statute of limitations for the dumb shit we did way back when? We know men are pondering it—publicly or privately—because we’ve heard it before. Brock Turner’s father used the same defense when he said his son shouldn’t be incarcerated for “20 minutes of action,” a.k.a. sexually assaulting an unconscious woman behind a dumpster. Listen closely to the clip of Fleisher, and it sounds like someone on the Fox set might be applauding.

To be fair, I think we all made mistakes in high school that we’d rather forget. And behavior that inspires a pseudonymous character—Bart O’Kavanaugh, who pukes in someone’s car—in a friend’s book about high school drunkenness and hookups probably makes that list. I’m sure he’d like some takebacks, just as I’m sure he doesn’t ever want his daughters to feel as terrified as Blasey Ford says she was that night.

That high school “issue”? Blasey Ford has been unable to forget it. There’s been no statute of limitations on her trauma. She told The Washington Post that what happened that night caused her to struggle to have normal relationships with men, led her to spend hours (and presumably thousands of dollars) in therapy. We don’t know what chances all of that might have denied her later in life.

To ask if we can just close the book on teenage antics means normalizing bad behavior. (Even today the tendency is to let guys off the hook or let the past be the past: In a Glamour/GQ survey, only 38 percent of men said #MeToo had made them reevaluate their past sexual experiences; a full 84 percent said they worried accusations of sexual misconduct could harm the reputations of men who don’t deserve it.) We need to ask why we still cannot create a world where Christine Blasey Ford, or the more than 320,000 women who are assaulted each year, feel comfortable coming forward.

I’ve reported on stories of sexual assault and violence for years, and time and again women have told me how no one believed them, or how they were told there wasn’t evidence damning enough to get any attorney to take their case. Imagine if a detective like Andrea Munford, who listened to each and every young woman who had been molested by Larry Nassar, had sat with Blasey Ford, taking down information, phone numbers, and details to build a case. Imagine she interviewed the eyewitness at the party who quoted in his yearbook a line from a Noël Coward play: “Certain women should be struck regularly, like gongs.” Let’s imagine that, instead of the current rate of just one percent of cases being referred to a prosecutor, it was commonplace to send credible cases up the chain, and that a district attorney would have seen no risk to his chances for reelection if he took the case.

In a justice system like that, it’s reasonable that the attorney could have gotten a conviction. That the judge wouldn’t have suggested that she was “flattered by the attention.”

If all that had happened, we wouldn’t be debating why Blasey Ford and so many other sexual assault survivors hesitate to come forward. We wouldn’t be gambling on whether the second nominee by President Trump (a man who hasn’t been denied any chance later in life, even the presidency, for an adult decision, let alone a high school one) would be confirmed; with this evidence in the FBI files, Kavanaugh never would have gotten the nomination. It’s likely that he wouldn’t have gotten the opportunity to work with Kenneth Starr. He probably wouldn’t have been selected for a coveted clerkship in Justice Anthony Kennedy’s office. He might not have been accepted to Yale University or Yale Law. Has Kavanaugh been denied chances? Not a one so far.

(If we want to talk about some other denied chances: Maybe there was another bright young woman who was thisclose to getting into Yale, but got rejected because they needed just one more white guy from a prep school. Maybe another woman studied her ass off, made law review, and was a finalist to clerk at the Supreme Court—but was told, “Nah, not this time, we like this other guy, whose parents both went to law school and whose mom is also a judge.” Opportunities denied? You bet.)

In a world where Blasey Ford felt comfortable coming forward, perhaps the detective and prosecutor of her case might have decided to settle the case in a plea deal. (Only 7 percent of sexual assault cases end in a felony conviction, according to RAINN, the Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network.) With a lenient 30-day prison sentence, Kavanaugh might have seen firsthand the effects of the school-to-prison pipeline, or realized that our gun policy in America should be based less on “text, history, and tradition” and more on what’s really going on in the streets and in schools. Or maybe in this fantasy world, Kavanaugh and Blasey Ford would have agreed to resolve the case through restorative justice: Kavanaugh listening to how terrified she had been that night, how it haunted her life afterward. Maybe he would have agreed to attend sexual assault prevention training, where he’d learn how to stand up to the grabby drunk guy at the party or a leering CEO in the boardroom, or really anyone who proclaims they like to grab women by the pussy.

And perhaps he never had to check the box. Perhaps he was still able to pursue his lifelong dream of practicing law. His ability to see issues from both sides impressed colleagues. His sensitivity about complex topics even won the attention of a White House that called for his advice on things like prison reform and sexual assault reporting. Maybe, just maybe, that led to a SCOTUS nod. In front of the Senate Judiciary Committee he had to make a case that, despite this flaw in his record 36 years ago, he deserved a spot on the highest court in the land.

A guy who faced his high school indiscretions and mistakes? I think I could get behind someone like that.

Wendy Naugle is the Glamour executive editor.

MORE: Read This Before Asking Why Christine Blasey Ford Waited to Tell Her Brett Kavanaugh Story



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'Eighth Grade' Is Awkward, Heartbreaking, and Beautiful—Just Like Your Middle School Experience


Watching Bo Burnham’s debut feature, Eighth Grade, evokes the same feeling of hearing your voice on a recording—it exposes you and cuts to your core. The film follows 13-year-old Kayla, played by a pitch-perfect Elsie Fisher, throughout her last week of middle school. Kayla’s a pimple-prone girl so shy she wins the “most quiet” superlative at her school’s assembly. (Has any award ever been so cruel?)

But she finds her community on YouTube, where she makes little-seen videos. In them, she muses about typical adolescent concerns—”putting yourself out there” and “how to be your true self”—and becomes the fullest version of herself. She has a false bravado, the kind I remember employing as a tween hiding behind my parent’s desktop screen on Myspace. Kayla ends each video with the catchphrase, “Gucci!” in the same way I made my AOL greeting “hey sexxi biatch!” because, at the time, it felt like a “cool” thing to do.

With the threat of high school looming, Kayla decides to take some of that online confidence IRL. She approaches her crush during a fire drill and tells him she sends nudes. She forces herself to attend a popular girl’s pool party, despite knowing she’ll be miserable there. While home alone she practices giving a blow job on a banana.

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I had to cover my eyes during some these scenes because they were so relatable. When I was Kayla’s age, I told boys lies to impress them, there were so many parties I had to psych myself up to go to—parties I still have to psych myself up to go to—and I’ll admit it, I tried out the banana trick.

But there was no scene more real or painful for me in the film than when a high school boy, Riley, offers Kayla a ride home. (Warning: Spoilers ahead.) Riley’s a floppy-haired bro who’s all rib cage and skinny limbs; he wears a flat-topped hat and you just know he has weed in his glove box. After Riley drops off the other passengers in the car, he tells Kayla that it’s pretty weird he’s all the way up in the front and she’s in the backseat. How can they get a chance to talk? So he pulls the car over, joins her in the back, and asks Kayla to play truth or dare.

Shocked, Kayla lets out a meek “OK” that sounds like it was caught in her throat. She picks truth to start, and when Riley asks her how far she’s gone, she can’t even look up from her lap. Things escalate when Riley dares Kayla to take her shirt off, and she compulsively shouts out, “No!” She’s clearly been holding it in for the duration of the game.

Riley immediately stops, gets back in the front seat, and drives her home. He doesn’t push Kayla to keep playing the game, or try any other tactics to hook up. He gets that nothing’s going to happen, but that doesn’t mean he stops manipulating her. As they drive off he chastises her, saying, “Now you’re going to have your first hook up at a party with some asshole, and you’re not going to be good at it. He’s going to tell all of his friends about it, and you’re going to get made fun of and feel like shit. Do you want that? This was about you, I was trying to help you, OK?” Throughout the game, and the subsequent ride home, Kayla tells Riley she’s sorry eight times. How many times does he apologize? Zero.

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That subtle manipulation—boys trying to get me to do something I wasn’t ready to do—was something I encountered many times in my adolescence. There’s the time two boys offered me a shot of vodka and then started simultaneously feeling me up. When I looked uncomfortable they told me to relax because they were clearly just playing around. Or the time I stuck my hand down an older guy’s pants during a group game of Truth or Dare and blurted out that it was “hairy.” The whole group laughed; when I turned red, they all told me to chill. It’s just a game. In those moments I always thought I was the uncool one. I was just so desperate for a boy to pay attention to me that I was willing to fight through my apprehensions and do what they wanted. It wasn’t until much later that I realized they could tell how much I wanted their approval and were taking advantage of that.

Kayla and I aren’t alone in this. When I started speaking with friends about their murky first encounters with the opposite sex, they all had stories to tell. Morgan, a grad student from Washington, told me, “The boy I had a crush on convinced me to send him naked pictures of myself throughout the year. If he hadn’t received one recently, he blatantly ignored me at school and would walk past me as if I didn’t exist. If I had sent one, he made a huge deal of telling his friends how ‘cute’ I was.”

Or Shira, a teacher in California, who said, “A guy really pressured me to let him finger me. I’d never done it before and was so nervous, but I decided I trusted him. Once he started he laughed at me, telling me I should, ‘At least trim down there every once in a while.'” And Blake, a New York–based editor, who shared that, “Boys would always ask, ‘How far have you gone?’ Not wanting to sound uncool I felt pressured to lie and exaggerate my experience so I wouldn’t be overlooked.”

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Although Kayla had the courage to stop Riley when she no longer felt comfortable, that doesn’t mean she wasn’t taken advantage of. She was alone in the car, Riley is many years older than her, and her body language was very clear. Kayla was desperate for his approval—and his attention—and Riley traded on that currency to try to “get some.” It’s not an assault, but it is a boy directly wielding his power over a vulnerable girl, something we’ve discussed time and time again in the #metoo movement. And unfortunately, it’s a common experience in girlhood. It’s time we start having these conversations even earlier, with both boys and girls, about power and consent—before it’s too late.

Eighth Grade is in theaters everywhere on Friday, July 13

Samantha Leach is an assistant editor at Glamour.

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Education Secretary Betsy DeVos Says Trump's School Safety Commission Won’t Focus On The Role Of Fire Arms


In the wake of the Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School massacre that left 17 people dead, the Trump administration announced the creation of a federal commission to find “meaningful and actionable recommendations to keep students safe at school.”

However, while giving testimony before a Senate subcommittee on Tuesday, Education Secretary Betsy DeVos said that although the commission is prioritizing safety for students across the country, it will not be focusing on the role fire arms play in school violence.

In a perplexing exchange, Senator Patrick J. Leahy, Democrat of Vermont asked whether the commission would look at the role of firearms in violence at schools. “That’s not part of the commission’s charge, per se,” DeVos said, according to the New York Times. Leahy responded, “So we’ll look at gun violence in schools, but not look at guns? An interesting concept.”

Keeping the role of fire arms off of the commission’s agenda is particularly confusing as conversations unfurl about how school shootings impact students. According to a year-long analysis conducted by The Washington Post in March, more than 187,000 students attending at least 193 primary or secondary schools have experienced a shooting on campus during school hours since the Columbine school shooting of 1999. The same analysis also found that since Columbine, there have been an average of 10 school shootings annually, with a low of five in 2002 and a high of 15 in 2014.

This year has been especially jarring: There have been 11 shootings less than three months into 2018, making it the worst year on record. (A similar report released by CNN in May takes the number of school shootings in 2018 to 23.) Many students, particularly those from Marjory Stoneman Douglas High and Santa Fe High School, have called out politicians for avoiding the subject of gun control. But DeVos’s comments feel entirely out of step with the national conversation that survivors of school shootings have been sparking by demanding change and organizing through the March For Our Lives movement.

DeVos also seemed to contradict the White House’s initial announcement about the commission where they listed several areas the group would examine, including age restrictions on certain firearm purchases.

So what will the commission look at if fire arms aren’t the charge here? According to The New York Times, “among other areas, the commission is slated to examine ratings systems for video games, the consumption of “violent entertainment” and the effects of news media coverage of mass shootings. The group is also charged with considering whether to repeal a package of Obama-era school policies targeted at addressing disciplinary policies that disproportionately affect minority students.

The commission is also looking to fund and bolster mental health and school infrastructure resources.”

While violent entertainment consumption and video games have been associated with school violence, Psychology Today points out that analyses of school shooting incidents—from the US Secret Service and the Federal Bureau of Investigation National Center for the Analysis of Violent Crime—do not support a link between violent games and real world attacks.

During Tuesday’s hearing, Leahy also seemed to take issue with the commission’s focus on things like video games rather than fire arms: “Well, you’re studying things like how much time they spend on video games and all that, but you can go to a lot of other countries where they spend just as much time but have only a tiny fraction of the shootings that we do,” he said.

Elizabeth Hill, an Education Department spokeswoman, appeared to walk back a few of DeVos’s comments after the hearing by telling the Washington Post, “The secretary and the commission continue to look at all issues the president asked the committee to study and are focused on making recommendations that the agencies, states and local communities can implement. It’s important to note that the commission cannot create or amend current gun laws — that is the Congress’s job.”

She did not respond when asked why DeVos’s statements at the hearing were different.

The commission, which includes Attorney General Jeff Sessions, Health and Human Services Secretary Alex M. Azar II and Homeland Security Secretary Kirstjen Nielsen, held their first public forum on Wednesday to solicit feedback and solutions for school safety. Many participants criticized the group for not considering the role of firearms in gun violence, according to CNN.

“We, the students, experience the American school system every day,” Alessia Modjarrad, a Montgomery County, Maryland high school senior said. “We used to sit in classrooms waiting for something to be done. I don’t want to be scared. I don’t want to think that, at any moment, someone with a gun could walk in and hurt us all.”



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Sarah Huckabee Sanders Holds Back Tears When Kid Reporter Asks About School Shootings


On Wednesday, 13-year-old Benje Choucroun made a special appearance at a White House press briefing for his role as a writer for Time for Kids magazine. And, as any good reporter would do, Choucroun came prepared with a few questions, one of which left White House press secretary Sarah Huckabee Sanders nearly in tears.

During the briefing, Sanders smiled, pointed to the back and called on Choucroun to ask his question. The middle schooler, who currently attends Marin Country Day School in California, proudly stood up and explained, “At my school, we recently had a lockdown drill. One thing that affects mine and other student’s mental health is the worry that we or our friends could get shot at school.” He then asked, “Specifically, can you tell me what the administration has done and will do to prevent these senseless strategies.”

Sanders immediately jumped into an answer — as press secretaries tend to do — but this time, her voice shook as she appeared to be holding back tears.

“I think that as a kid and certainly as a parent, there is nothing more terrifying than for a kid to go to school and not feel safe, so I’m sorry that you feel that way,” Sanders replied. “This administration takes it seriously and the school safety commission that the president convened is meeting this week, again, an official meeting, to discuss the best ways forward and how we can do every single thing within our power to protect kids within our schools and to make them feel safe and to make their parents feel good about dropping them off.”

Following the briefing, CNN’s Dana Bash commented that “It looked like it was going to potentially be a light-hearted moment. And he had the toughest question in the room.” MSNBC’s Hallie Jackson called it “an unusual moment from a very articulate young man.”

Since January, there have been at least two dozen school shootings across the nation, which according to CNN equates to at least one school shooting per week so far. But, in the wake of these tragedies, it appears to be the voices of children, not adults, that ring out the loudest. Following the February school shooting in Parkland, Flordia, students affected by the senseless violence have come together to push lawmakers to take action. And their efforts appear to be working.

According to the Sun Sentinal, since the Parkland shooting that claimed the lives of 17 people, “14 states have changed their laws, while six major actions have been undertaken by cities and counties. Meanwhile, 10 companies tweaked their policies related to guns and 19 businesses have cut ties with gun lobbying groups.”

President Donald Trump is expected to visit the survivors of the latest school shooting in Santa Fe, Texas on Thursday. That shooting, which took place on May 18, claimed the lives of 10 people, including both students and teachers. However, on May 4, Trump walked back on his promise to the Parkland students that he will be tougher on the National Rifle Association. Instead, while speaking at an NRA conference, Trump enthusiastically told the crowd, “Your Second Amendment rights are under siege. But they will never, ever be under siege as long as I’m your president.”

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