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Farsáli Liquid Glass Serum Is the Easiest Way to Get Glowing 'Glass Skin'


Farsáli is not a brand that’s particularly known for subtlety. You’ve likely seen their creations all over Instagram, dripping off hot pink Beautyblenders or lending their hypnotic sparkle to macro product shots. When the company famous for launching the aptly named Unicorn Essence came out with something called Liquid Glass serum, I had high expectations.

Liquid Glass is Farsáli’s interpretation of “glass skin”, which refers to the reflective, luminous, almost translucent complexion that’s the end goal of the 10-step Korean beauty routine. Founder Sal Ali used that as his initial inspiration, but wanted a single bottle that could replicate those effects. The result is another of Farsáli’s signature skin care-makeup hybrids—a formula designed to deeply moisturize your face while also imparting a mirror-like glow. The ingredients list reads like a how-to guide for retaining hydration: hyaluronic acid, plus watermelon rind, apple, and lentil fruit extracts.

In the bottle, though, that’s not what you’ll notice first. The $54 serum comes in the brand’s frosted glass vial, which includes a dropper for application. Even before you open it, you’ll see that what’s inside is extremely shimmery. The base is a silvery white hue, shot through with iridescent flecks of blue, pink, and purple. It’s colorful. It’s fun to swirl around. It’s also not exactly glassy, more the kind of thing that makes you think, “I’m going to be a disco ball after I use this.”

I can’t quite explain the mystery that happens between the product leaving the dropper and settling on my face, but somehow, that iridescence transforms as I pat it in. It doesn’t have the noticeably shimmery finish of similar liquid illuminators, nor does it impart the slick sheen of Vaseline or glass highlighter. Instead, it perceptibly plumps and refreshes my skin, giving it the illusion that it’s full of good health and radiating from within. It doesn’t matter if I haven’t slept in two days (which may or may not have happened in the photos below); a few drops later and you can’t even tell.

Ali tells me that that you can layer this on over moisturizer, mix it with your makeup and skin care, or try it as a topcoat on eyelids, lips, and cheekbones. I don’t care to wear foundation on a daily basis, so I simply dispense a tiny amount on my palms after applying my serums and creams and pat it on. If I’m especially sleep-deprived, I’ll apply a thin second coat on the high planes of my face as a highlighter substitute—I say highlighter, but really, it’s much subtler than that. Instead of a sheen or shimmer, it gives the impression that you just emerged from a full-service spa treatment before going to bed early. I rarely do either of those things, but at least now I look like I do.

The one thing Liquid Glass doesn’t quite accomplish is replacing my multistep routine. While I can appreciate the hydrating formula and lightweight feel, a small amount of this isn’t going to do away with my sleep masks, acid peels, toners, serums, essences, day creams, night creams, and SPFs anytime soon. But that’s okay—I like my daily skin care ritual to include 10 different products. Well, I guess now it’s 11.

Farsáli Liquid Glass, $54, farsali.com



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This Glass Highlighter Gives You Beautiful Glass Skin


We’ve played out most of the ways highlighter can be fresh. Blue, gold, liquid, loose powder—each new iteration that landed in stores, I was happy to welcome into my makeup bag with open arms. Even the avant-garde, out-there ones, like Fenty’s pigmented silver Diamond Ball highlighter, found their way onto my face. And then, right when I didn’t think there was anything out there that could surprise me, what looked like an empty pan came into my life, and I felt a love that was brand new.

My interest was piqued by Instagram (isn’t that always the case). I was scrolling along when I saw it: Models with skin so smooth, poreless, and reflective that they looked like an ad for “glass skin,” the kind you allegedly get from a meticulous, 10-step Korean skin care routine. The models’ skin glowed as they posed for the videos, their skin bouncing off light with the kind of sheen you usually only see in well-lit studios. They probably were, but still—I wanted that product on my face.

Just recently launched, Danessa Myricks’ Dew Wet Balm was the glass-skin maker behind the shots I’d spotted on Instagram, but in person, it looks like you’ve received a starkly empty metal pan. Flip the top open, and the balm reflects its presence. It’s a clear, hybrid highlighter and moisturizing balm that gets its power from jojoba oil and Vitamin E.

Rub a finger in it and pat it on your cheekbone, and your skin takes on this subtle, glassy quality. It’s not totally unprecedented. Aquaphor is basically a thicker version of the same product. But if you’re not trying to reach quite that level of moist, the Wet Balm gives you the glowy look without the sticky finish, while reading more dewy than a shimmery highlighter. There are three shades: pearly Morning Dew, lightly copper Hot Water, and Clear. If you want glass skin without the intensive upkeep, it doesn’t get easier.

Danessa Myricks Beauty Dew Wet Balm, $22, danessamyricksbeauty.com

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A Talk Show Host Just Called Out Rihanna on Her Iconic Wine Glass Heists


Rihanna and four other members of the Ocean’s 8 cast—namely, Sandra Bullock, Cate Blanchett, Sarah Paulson, and Helena Bonham Carter—appeared on The Graham Norton show last night to promote the film’s much-anticipated international release. But the movie wasn’t the only heist (did you see those box-office numbers??) to be talked about on the show: The show’s eponymous host, Graham Norton, had a little bone to pick to Rihanna about her iconic, repeated, heist-y behavior of her own. Behavior that includes an alleged appropriation of wine glasses from public drinking establishments.

While Norton is just grilling Rihanna on her habit now, eagle-eyed RiRi fans have been loving her crystalline accessory on social media since 2016. One Twitter user in particular, Josh Edwards, went so far as to create a dedicated, comprehensive thread for the wine glass sightings instance on his account.

“All I’m saying is, watch yourself around Rihanna,” Norton started off by saying. “Now, Rihanna. I don’t know if you know how criminal you are.”

Norton then presented the audience with intense photographic evidence of Rihanna, time after time, smuggling glasses out of establishments and onto the street. He started with a 2013 photo of the pop powerhouse holding a glass on the street. (Yes, it seems this habit has been going on for at least half a decade.) He then proceeded, bravely, to ask RiRi, “Did you ask permission from the club when you left holding this glass?”

PHOTO: Michael Stewart

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Rihanna had an excellent retort: “That might have been one I took to the club.”

“What about this one? Did you ask about that glass?” Norton said after he showed his second piece of photographic evidence of Rihanna. He then proceeded to show four more instances in which the “Wild Thoughts” singer left with various different wine glasses in hand. Norton topped it off with the grand finale: Rihanna holding an entire bottle of wine.

Below, a few instances of Rihanna taking her wine to go:

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Celebrity Sightings in New York City - September 6, 2016

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September 2016

After sufficient proof of her “crimes”, Rihanna conceded his point. Mostly though, she was worried about what her mom, Monica Fenty, would think: “My mom is going to see this,” she conceded. “Sorry, Mom!”

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The Glass Runway: Our Exclusive Survey on the State of the Fashion Industry


Think of fashion and you most likely think of women—the stiletto heels, the supermodels, the feminist-​slogan tees. Stereotypical? Yes. But there is some truth to the oft-memed words “Women be shoppin’.” Fashion is fueled by women: We spend, on average, three times what men do on clothing for ourselves and others, according to The NPD Group, a global market research firm—more than $159 billion in 2017. So you’d think the top of the industry would be filled with female designers and executives, right? Sadly, not so.

According to one industry report, fewer than half of leading womenswear brands have a female designer at the helm, while another found that only 14 percent of major brands are run by a female executive. Some recent shakeups at the top have been heartening (Clare Waight Keller took the reins at Givenchy as the first female artistic director in the house’s 66-year history; Stella McCartney gained full control of her eponymous brand), but others were heartbreaking (Phoebe Philo, the designer many women felt understood them the most, stepped down from Céline only to be replaced by a man).

Source: Business of Fashion

To find out what’s holding women back in fashion, ­Glamour teamed up with the Council of Fashion Designers of America and the consulting firm McKinsey & Company to survey 535 professionals throughout the industry about their ambitions, opportunities, and setbacks. We also sat down with more than two dozen women and men at various levels to go deep on how, if at all, gender has impacted their careers, and to help develop concrete solutions to address inequalities where they exist.

The title of our survey, The Glass Runway, comes from a study about gender inequality in the fashion industry that discusses the language that’s often used to describe designers and their work—men’s designs tend to be praised as innovative and groundbreaking, while women’s are described as practical and wearable—but our survey found the biases go much deeper than words. Despite this, companies that manage to be diverse and inclusive are some of the brightest success stories in fashion and retail right now. Old Navy, for example, is one of the country’s fastest-growing apparel brands among major retailers. President and CEO Sonia Syngal says parent company Gap Inc. has “a culture of equality that’s demonstrated through hard facts.… We have a female founder, we have female leadership representation at every level, and we have equal pay for equal work.” All of which, she says, has freed up time and energy to focus on moving the business forward.In other words, tackling these problems is good for women but also good for business. So first, let’s take a good, hard look at the barriers.

The Awareness Problem

In our interviews, 100 percent of women said that gender inequality is a problem in the industry, compared with less than 50 percent of men. This disconnect, experts told Glamour, may be because a lot of women already do work in fashion. Unlike investment banks or tech firms, where the dearth of women is obvious at a glance, in designer showrooms and studios, women are everywhere. Enrollment at New York’s Fashion Institute of Technology, one of the country’s top fashion schools, was 85 percent female in 2016, and women overwhelmingly fill the entry-level jobs in the industry. One designer recalled that in her program, “there were maybe four male students. But,” she quickly pointed out, “at the top level of the industry there are very few women, and it is noticeable.”

Lack of senior leaders isn’t the result of some kind of ambition gap, either. At the entry-level stage in their career, women are 17 percent more likely than men to aspire to become top-level executives. But midcareer women hit a wall—and our survey found that, by the time they get to the VP level, men are 20 percent more likely than their female peers to aspire to be a top exec. That’s a tremendous swing.

Source: Glamour x CFDA Glass Runway Survey

Women we spoke to had countless examples of the big and small hurdles they faced. Designer Carly Cushnie, who cofounded Cushnie et Ochs in 2008, recalled reviews that focused as much on her appearance as on the dresses she sent down the runway: “So much of the criticism was like, ‘Oh, you have to look like you wear those clothes. You have to be a certain size.’ Whereas a man can do sexy and it’s genius.” She has also seen how the men-are-brilliant idea affects funding, and recounted her experience walking into a room of male investors who said things like, “So you’re running the company?” and, “There’s nobody else here?” She says, “It’s also harder for women to get financing, to get business loans. A lot of female designers are not looked at in the same regard as a man in terms of being both a designer and a businesswoman.… You’re looked at as more of a risk, especially in an industry that is generally risky for any investor.”

The “How Do You Get Promoted?” Trap

With women feeling so ambitious at the beginning of their career, it’s not surprising that they are also more likely than men to ask for a promotion at junior levels. But as women hit the middle- and upper-management levels, they seem to get discouraged, with women half as likely as men to go for a bigger job. Almost every female interviewee, even those who described themselves as assertive and highly ambitious, said they’d struggled with asking for promotions. Several female industry veterans said they’d felt “lucky” just to be hired or promoted at all.

Part of the challenge: the lack of clarity around what it takes to move up in many companies. After working at a fashion PR agency for several years, said one executive, “I was bringing in new clients and doing the work of a senior person, but I did not receive an increase in pay or a promotion.” A female manager at a menswear brand echoed her complaint: “I always ask for concrete guidance on how to be promoted. I do all those things right, and it makes no difference.” Even with two decades of experience, she says, she hasn’t been able to get clear answers about what it would take to get to the next level and whether her salary is aligned with her job description. “It’s hard to know what is fair if you don’t know [the criteria],” she says. Others said assignments and promotions could seem maddeningly arbitrary. A public relations executive said that as the only woman of color in the room, she was often singled out early in her career for streetwear projects, and while she took advantage of the opportunities, “It’s kind of like, Why do you assume I’m going to know what’s going on in that neighborhood?” she said. “I didn’t grow up there. I grew up upper middle class, but you’re pinpointing me to talk about the street campaign.”

Another retail executive recalled a meeting with a more senior male exec in which he told a room full of mostly female staffers about how he got promoted from an assistant buyer to a buyer role in a year and a half. “He said his boss, who was also a man, liked him and how he’d planned a holiday party,” she recalls. “He was saying this like it was a source of pride or a bragging point. And we were all sitting around with our mouths hanging open because we’d watched our male peers race up the ranks while women at the company were rarely promoted.” They aren’t imagining it: Our survey found that at more junior levels, 25 percent fewer women than men get promoted without asking; by the time they reach management positions, 72 percent fewer women get plucked for a promotion without asking, compared with their male peers.

Source: Glamour x CFDA Glass Runway Survey

Tied to that, of course, is pay: Many women knew they were paid less than their male colleagues. “I always went into [salary talks] with low expectations,” one executive said. Even now, running her own company, another said she has “stress and doubts” when negotiating with clients: “As women, it’s something we have to heal in our programming.”

The Mentorship Gap

Navigating company culture and promotions often comes down to the advice employees are—or aren’t—getting from their superiors. At all levels, men get more feedback than women do on how to advance their careers, our survey found. And although research has found that, since the #MeToo movement, many male managers have stepped back from mentoring women, men in fashion (an industry in which gay men often hold a lot of power) seemed deterred by outdated attitudes: “As a man, I am worried about women being more sensitive and getting offended when I give them feedback, so I do it less often,” said one producer of fashion shows and other events. Disappointingly, this was a sentiment expressed by several male interviewees. Mentorship, however, has been proved time and again to help close the gender gap.

The Work-Life Balance Snag

Studies have found that becoming a parent can sideline a woman’s career and is the biggest factor in gender pay disparities. These trends play out in fashion too. One president at a fashion brand suggested that women were opting out of higher-level positions because of motherhood: “At the VP level, women may decide to lean back and be less inclined to ask for a promotion because they are juggling increased responsibilities at home.” Half of all VPs with children said that motherhood had been an obstacle to getting ahead, and in interviews many women said they waited, or planned on waiting, to have kids until they were in a senior-level position so they wouldn’t be “left behind.” One former retail executive told us that when she got promoted to the VP level, she put off her marriage for a year and didn’t think pregnancy was an option because the job was so demanding.

Unfortunately, our interviews found these aren’t totally unwarranted fears. “It’s horrible to say, but one of the things we always considered when we were evaluating several candidates for a job offer was whether they were recently married and likely to start having children soon,” admitted a former human resources manager for a fashion brand. “We were much more likely to offer the job to a single woman or a woman who was older; this never, ever came up with men.” Women with children were also often passed over for promotions, she said: “The manager would say, ‘This position requires more time than you’re able to give.’ ” (FYI, it is illegal to discriminate against an employee or prospective employee on the basis of pregnancy—current, past, potential, or intended. If this has happened to you, you may have grounds to file to a complaint with the EEOC or your state employee-rights agency. For info, visit workplacefairness.org.)

Mothers who did manage to make it to the C-suite said they had to make a conscious decision to let go of the inevi­table guilt of not being able to give 100 percent at home or work. “I expected the fact that there would be things that fell through the cracks,” said one retail CEO. “Women have been socialized to feel an immense amount of guilt about missing things—we have to stop giving anyone the idea that they have to be perfect.”

PHOTO: Mat Maitland

So How Do We Solve This?

Fashion, says Steven Kolb, president and CEO of the CFDA, needs to push for more gender equality at the top, especially since women are at the core of the business. But he believes the industry is well poised to do so: “We’re a creative industry, and I think creative people have a strong sense of humanity, and you see that in how we interact with each other,” he says. “Now we need to look at how to translate that to more tangible opportunities for women in their careers and in their lives so that they can continue to flourish and grow.” No one is saying it will be easy or that anyone will get it perfect on the first try (no company has nailed it—in fashion or any field). But our survey found there are ways to move the industry forward, and many of them are universal enough for any company—even yours if you don’t work in fashion. Some of the most important steps:

First, recognize the problem. If 100 percent of women say there’s a problem, then guys, it’s time to listen up. Tracking and sharing gender-related metrics is one of the most essential steps a company can take toward creating a more equitable workplace, experts told us. After all, if you don’t know where the problems are (or assume, like many, that you don’t have any), it’s unlikely anything will get fixed. Take the experience of one top retail executive, who recalled ordering a companywide salary review several years ago and was surprised by the sometimes “bizarre” pay gaps between people in similar positions—female employees working in the menswear department were paid higher than their female counterparts in womenswear. The company was able to level the playing field but only once it was armed with the data to do so. A few other companies have helped set the bar for pay transparency and fairness: In 2014, Gap Inc. became the first Fortune 500 company to announce that it had achieved equal pay for equal work (three out of its five brands are led by women). At Tapestry (which owns Coach, Kate Spade, and Stuart Weitzman) chief executive Victor Luis was among the more than 400 to sign the CEO Action for Diversity & Inclusion pledge, promising to make concrete changes in the workplace. Key to these programs is that they’re all ongoing; they aren’t one-​and-done solutions to a continuing issue. Tracking metrics helps everyone stay accountable in the long-term.

Make the criteria for success clear. Companies of all sizes can reduce how bias affects promotions and salary negotiations by making compensation and review processes as straightforward and transparent as possible. Larger firms might take a cue from Kering, which owns brands like Gucci and Balenciaga, and have their HR team train managers to prepare for evaluations and share concrete examples of employees’ performance. Even at relatively small companies, several executives said that formalizing evaluations and including more objective criteria has made the process less of a burden over time and given employees and managers the opportunity to have valuable conversations about goal setting and career advancement. It’s also critical to retaining great talent: Women, our survey found, were up to three times more likely than men to say they have considered leaving fashion altogether in order to get better access to leadership roles.

Build mentorship opportunities. Women are more likely than men to say that they never interact with senior leaders. If you’re a senior leader, you can change that! One PR executive said that when she’s hiring new employees, she makes a point of ensuring that women of color in particular are in the candidate pool: “It’s the first group that’s canceled out in terms of consideration.” Having a diverse company also gives her an edge over other, more homogeneous teams; it’s a business decision as much as a matter of principle, she says. “There are different groups of editors to invite, different groups of influencers, different people out there to reach.” In other words, more possible customers.

Many interviewees also shared the advice they give to those who are struggling with asking for a promotion or advocating for themselves: “Nobody else is going to do it for you—it’s you or nobody,” said one. Another said she’s found that sometimes your direct manager isn’t the best person to go to, so it’s worth developing a good rapport with someone up the chain. Finally, one said she tells employees (particularly female ones) not to settle once they’re in a role: “Push yourself and tell [your boss] you’re ready to do something if you want to do it…. Spell it out.”

PHOTO: Mat Maitland

Be an ally. Fashion may celebrate the individual, but no one succeeds without a little help from those around them. In interviews it became clear that both male and female allies can play a role in creating an inclusive workplace. Remember those guys who said they were afraid of how women react to feedback? They might try taking notes from a former boss of Old Navy’s Syngal. When she began managing her peers for the first time, it was, she says, “a big transition.” “I remember one time bursting into tears in my boss’s office and of course being so embarrassed afterward. He just looked at me and said, ‘Women cry and men yell. It’s sort of what we do,’ ” she recalls. “He completely understood the societal behaviors that we all live in, and he was fantastic.” Whether women react with anger or tears at work, they tend to be penalized for it more than men, so leaders who can take both in stride are particularly valuable. Men and women alike also need to be allies by calling out bias where they see it, whether it’s a sexist comment in the boardroom or inappropriate behavior on a photo shoot.

Get behind work-life balance programs. While a bootstrapped operation may not be able to match a billion-dollar brand when it comes to, say, paid parental leave or skills trainings for women in leadership positions, there are other areas where even small companies can excel, like offering flexible work hours to employees and fostering an inclusive environment from the top down. Numerous studies have shown that things like flextime tend to increase productivity and boost companies’ bottom line, yet less than a third of the men and women we surveyed said their companies have any such policies. (It’s also possible that many don’t know about them—employees we surveyed struggled to identify concrete equality initiatives at their companies, and more men than women said their employers had them in place, suggesting leaders need to make their policies much clearer to everyone.)

And while offering things like flextime is a start, Brian McComak, Tapestry’s senior director of inclusion and diversity, says, “It is important for leaders and people managers to demonstrate their support and lead by example.” One fashion-events producer, who has worked for both corporate and boutique firms, said the best experience she’s had has been at a small women-owned-and-run company because motherhood hasn’t felt like a taboo subject to discuss. “The comfort of being able to talk openly and freely about the demands of children has been one of the biggest reasons why I’ve continued working with them and why I feel so happy to be in a place that’s supportive.”

Even if you don’t work in fashion, you interact with the industry in other ways, whether it’s through the clothes you shop for, the magazines you read, or the Instagram accounts you follow. And when more women are involved—not just as workers but as business owners and creative visionaries—we all win. Before Maria Grazia Chiuri took the reins at the house, it would have been tough to imagine a model walking down the Dior runway in a T-shirt reading “We Should All Be Feminists.” Trailblazing women have likewise been behind the push for a more size-inclusive industry (thank Chromat’s Becca McCharen-Tran and powerhouse plus-size modeling agent Susan Georget, among others) and for more awareness of ethics and sustainability (Stella McCartney and Vivienne Westwood, to name two). Independent women-run brands have moved the needle through their designs too: Rosie Assoulin has proved that evening wear can be both whimsical and wearable (and include pockets!), while Rachel Comey has made block heels and wide-leg jeans cool-girl staples. When we support brands like these, we show that women are a priority—and our wardrobes are all the better for it.

Hilary George-Parkin is a journalist in New York City who writes about fashion, culture, and technology.



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'Jane the Virgin' Star Justin Baldoni Wants to End Toxic Masculinity: 'The Glass Ceiling Exists Because Men Put It There'


Since the shocking sexual harassment allegations were first reported against Hollywood mega-producer Harvey Weinstein in October, there’s been an avalanche of accusations against other power players in media, business, and yes, Hollywood. (If you, too, are having a hard time keeping up, we created this—horrifying, frankly—list of the latest men facing allegations, which we’re updating.)

In the wake of all these accusations, the concept of “toxic masculinity” has become a hotly debated topic. How are we (or “the patriarchy”) as a culture subtly reinforcing the kinds of stereotypes that may lead to detrimental behavior patterns? These stereotypes, like the idea that men are supposed to be “strong” and never show emotions, can easily lead to misogynistic ideas or acts. (Picture, say, a certain American president dismissing certain comments made on a certain Access Hollywood tape as “locker room talk”—typical male banter, made in jest, and not to be taken seriously.)

One of the emerging voices in this conversation is a surprising one: Justin Baldoni, an actor best known for his work as the—often shirtless—Rafael on Jane the Virgin.

At the TEDWomen conference in New Orleans, Baldoni gave an impassioned talk on the subject, saying the characters he’s often asked to play actually feel all too similar to the one he’s been encouraged to play all his life: a stereotypical man’s man. “This is the script that we’ve been given,” he said. “Girls are weak, and boys are strong…. I came here today to say as a man that this is wrong, this is toxic, and it has to end.”

Baldoni has started leveraging his impressive social following—1 million on Instagram, 160,000 on Twitter—to tackle this issue head-on, and, as he tells it, he got a really great response [from women]. In an effort to court more male followers, he started posting more content that felt stereotypically male—workouts, meal plans, etc.—and lo and behold, not only did men start to engage with him, but a men’s fitness magazine even offered to feature him as one of their “game changers.” (The irony of the moment was not lost on Baldoni.)

But Baldoni isn’t giving up. He’s developing an online talk show, titled Man Enough, and he’s putting himself out there at conferences like TEDWomen. “I believe that as men, it’s time we start to see past our privilege and recognize that we are not just part of the problem, fellas, we are the problem,” he said during his TED speech. “The glass ceiling exists because we put it there. And if we want to be a part of the solution, then words are no longer enough.”

I spoke with Baldoni at TEDWomen following his talk to discuss the correlations between these masculine tropes and pressing issues like sexual harassment in the workplace. (And yes, I asked if he ever worries about doing exactly what he rails against—taking command of a conversation in the women’s space and “mansplaining” it.) Read his responses, and watch his speech at TEDWomen below.

Glamour: Let’s first address that Glamour’s audience might not necessarily be the demo you’ve said you want to reach. What are the men’s brands you want to be interviewing you about this stuff?

Justin Baldoni: I think as a young man, I would collect Men’s Health and Men’s Fitness and GQ, Esquire, and all those magazines. As an actor, it was always kind of a bummer that none of them ever wanted to talk to me…. Part of it is also because I’m on a feminist show, primarily watched by women…. I’ve had my reps tell me, bluntly: “Men’s magazines are not going to write about you because you’re too feminine and because you don’t attract a male audience.” That’s just where it becomes frustrating because the men that I really want to have dialogue with are not listening unless their girlfriends tag them or their girlfriends send them something that I said…. And that’s a bummer because in reality I’m not telling them they have to be different. I don’t think that men have to change. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with men inherently; I think it’s what we’ve learned and the roles that we play.

“The glass ceiling exists because we put it there. And if we want to
be a part of the solution, then words are no longer enough.”

Glamour: I’m sure it’s anxiety-inducing to speak at TEDWomen because you run the risk of mansplaining a women’s issue.

JB: I actually hired a very good friend of mine who’s a very powerful feminist, and I had her tell me and make sure that nowhere in my talk was I mansplaining. There’s no way that I could have given this talk without the support and help of women, there’s just no way. By nature I would have mansplained something because I have the privilege of being a white male and I’ve been mansplaining my whole life—that’s just the way it is. I did everything I could to take out any part that could potentially be that, or to just be aware of what I was saying, because I really wasn’t trying to talk to women, I was really trying to talk to men.

Glamour: Working at a women’s media publication, we speak pretty openly about the “lady media” tropes that now feel incredibly not modern. For example, the myth of “having it all.” What are some of the men’s media tropes that you’ve run into?

JB: I’ve got to be honest, it breaks my heart when I look at both…. Men’s Fitness reached out to me to be a game changer, and what was interesting was that they knew about me for a few years, but it wasn’t until I started talking about working out—like how I tore my pec and I kind of followed my journey the whole way—that they were able to sell it up the chain. And that’s the bummer; it has to be, “Oh yeah, he’s a regular dude too,” because that’s the entry point. But at the same time that’s also a gift because I now understand the psyche of the system. If I want to talk to men, I do have to kind of be a man…. Because if I’m a “girly man,” then they’re not going to listen, but if i can do more pull-ups than you and if I can do that crazy workout that I guarantee can kick your ass, then you’ll listen to me, right? Like all right, cool, maybe I’ll start a whole fitness plan, maybe I’ll do something masculine-focused because I’m cool being a Trojan horse. I have to imagine that I was built the way that I was for a bunch of different reasons, but I have the heart that I have for a reason as well.

If I can be an entry point to help men recognize that being feminine and masculine is OK, then that’s beautiful work that I’m honored to do.… I hope that male fitness magazines and male magazines in general can put as much emphasis on men that are leading with their hearts, and men that are championing women, and men that are standing for equal rights as they do with the men that are making billions of dollars playing sports and men that are alpha males.

Glamour: In your talk, you also discuss sexual harassment and the “Me Too” phenomenon, and it must be acknowledged that women aren’t the only victims. Did you ever feel like you were harassed or victimized on set?

JB: When I was 21 or so, I was very new in the business. I had just done my first show and a girlfriend at the time had gotten me a spa certificate to go to Burke Williams in West Hollywood. I remember there were hot tubs and steam rooms and all kinds of stuff, and it’s kind of fancier people, wealthier guys. I went and jumped in the hot tub and I saw a guy kind of look over. I saw him look over at me, jump out of the other hot tub, and jump in with me, and he said, “Oh what do you do?” And I said, “Oh I’m an actor,” and he said, “Oh I’m a producer,” and he started talking about all of the movies he’s done and all the people he knows. He’s friends with Clooney, Cheadle, and this person and this person, and he slowly started to try to get me to take off my pants because I had my bathing suit on and he was naked.

And I remember the way he did it, using his power and what he does and who he knows as a way to make me feel less than, like I wasn’t going to be as successful as the other guys who’d been in the same hot tub with him, naked. I just remember that feeling and having a moment of saying, “Well, should I do that? And where does that lead?”… I remember a split second [of thought], and then going, “What? No,” and just leaving. I could imagine how hard and painful that must be for a woman. I mean I was stronger and bigger than the guy, and [then there’s] the fact that no one is going to believe you if you’re a woman because your voice is already not heard…. I’ve also experienced [harassment] as a man from women of power…. I’ve had my ass grabbed multiple times by powerful women.

I just think the system is broken, but thank God we’re now at a place where, as gross as it sounds, the infected pimple is finally being popped and healing can actually begin…. And then the other thing men are going to have to start doing now is recognizing when they did it and didn’t realize it. I think that’s when the other side of the “Me Too” movement is “I’m Sorry.” I guarantee at some point in my life there is a woman or two that I in some way made uncomfortable by saying something or doing something that was chauvinistic or sexist. There is one million percent probability that that exists, and all I can do is say, “I’m sorry, I was naive, I was young, I screwed up, and I’ll try to do better.”

“We’ve built in this system—the opposite of accountability—and now
it’s time to figure out how, as men, we can break that system.”

Glamour: For men who may have been enablers—either inadvertently or because they were intimidated—do you have any script or recommendations for guys to help combat this behavior in the moment?

JB: Well, can you be man enough to actually say something? The fact is that so many of us men are so terrified of losing our standing with our other male friends or our standing at our jobs because, at the end of the day, it’s a fraternity. The hierarchy of power is just a big fraternity, and if you go against one of your brothers, then you’re breaking this thing they call “the guy code.” Growing up, how many times did I hear “bros before hoes”? Just think about it. First of all, how demeaning, how sexist. What are we saying about women, and how we’re saying the importance is us, not them. Right? It’s the worst thing you could say, but all young boys, teenagers, guys, we get it. So you have a 17-year-old boy that witnessed another boy date-rape a girl? Bros before hoes. Are you going to break the guy code? We’ve built in this system—the opposite of accountability—and now it’s time to figure out how, as men, we can break that system, and it starts with showing what a real man is. A real man is someone that says, “Hey man, we’re still friends, but that’s not cool.”

Or if it’s a director or someone that’s in power, you could say, “I want to bring this up because I’m worried about you and this could be perceived the wrong way.” Every situation is different…. Men have to start small because it takes a lot of courage to stand up to another man and go against everything you’ve been conditioned to say…. Or in some cases it’s so obvious that you do need to stand up and say something. Like if you’re hanging out and you see a girl who’s so wasted and your buddy’s not, say, “No, don’t take her home, man, what are you doing?” Stop him. I think that it’s going to take some strong men to be willing to stand up and do that, so, hopefully, now thanks to the bravery of women, that men will finally find the strength to do the same thing.

This interview has been condensed and edited for clarity.

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Trader Joe's Is Recalling Three of Its Pre-Packaged Salads Due to Glass and Hard Plastic Contamination


Attention Trader Joe’s shoppers: the beloved food retailer is recalling three of its prepackaged, deli-style salads due to the fact that some of them might inadvertently include pieces of glass or hard plastic, which would make for a very sad desk lunch indeed.

According to a statement released Saturday on the Trader Joe’s website, the salads included in the recall are the white meat chicken salad, the curried white chicken deli salad, and the turkey cranberry apple salad with use-by dates from November 10 through November 21 and inspection code P-40299.

The offending white meat chicken salads (SKU 98091) and curried white chicken deli salads (SKU 96426) were sold in Arizona, California, Nevada, Utah, Colorado, Louisiana, New Mexico, Oklahoma, and Texas. The potentially polluted turkey cranberry apple salads were sold in Arizona, California, Nevada, Utah, Idaho, Oregon, and Washington and have the SKU 60983.

If you purchased one of those salads with that inspection code in one of those states, Trader Joe’s is telling customers to throw them away or return them to a retail location for a full refund. You can also call customer service at (626) 599-3817 or email them if you have any questions.

The good news is that all of the potentially dangerous products have already been removed from stores, so no future customers should be at risk. Again, if you did buy any of those salads, but they have a different inspection code, Trader Joe’s says they should be fine.

This isn’t the first time the retailer has issued a recall of its products. Last year they had to recall some of their frozen foods due to a listeria outbreak that also affected Starbucks and Chipotle. But as long as they keep selling those dark chocolate peanut butter cups, anyway, something something tells us business won’t suffer too bad for this.

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