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8 Signs of Infertility: Symptoms to Watch for in Women & Men


“Chemotherapy or pelvic radiation can cause rapid loss of eggs and some women may have an earlier menopause,” says Westphal. She recommends speaking with a fertility specialist prior to cancer treatment in order to discuss your fertility preservation options. (Some of these options include IVM, ovarian transposition, and ovarian tissue cryopreservation.)

Signs of Infertility in Men

Infertility in men can be more difficult to pinpoint due to a lack of obvious symptoms. However, according to Westphal, infertility in men accounts for roughly a third of all cases (another third are related to the female partner, with the final third pointing to both), and is just as important to diagnose and potentially treat.

Swelling or Pain In the Testicular Area

One of the easiest symptoms of infertility to diagnose is swelling or pain in the testicular area. There are a number of reasons for this (including infections, fluid buildup, trauma, and cancer), but not all necessarily indicate infertility.

Another cause, however, is varicoceles—an enlargement of the veins in the scrotum. “This can cause overheating of the testicles and lead to lower sperm production,” says Westphal. “About 15% of men have varicoceles, but most will have not had fertility problems.” If it is associated with infertility, surgery can likely correct it, she adds.

Ejaculatory Dysfunction

Men who experience ejaculatory dysfunction of any kind (such as premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, retrograde ejaculation, and anejaculation) may struggle with infertility.

Take retrograde ejaculation, which is when the sperm can stream into the bladder instead of out the penis. “Health problems like diabetes or a spinal cord injury can cause this, or previous surgery on the bladder, prostate, or urethra,” Westphal says. Medications can sometimes help, she explains, as well as finding other ways to retrieve the sperm to use for IVF.

As far as premature ejaculation, a study in Reproductive Medicine and Biology found it usually doesn’t affect fertility, but often co-occurs with fertility struggles. (Retrograde ejaculation and anejaculation are more likely to actually cause infertility.)

Low Sperm Count

Issues with semen and sperm count are sometimes related to ejaculatory dysfunction issues. Other times, low sperm counts are due to infections (like epididymitis, orchitis, and certain STDs).“Some infections can affect sperm production or cause scarring that could block the passage of sperm,” says Westphal. She also mentions that certain medications, like ones to treat high blood pressure, depression, arthritis, and cancer can affect both sperm production and/or delivery. “Testosterone replacement or medication to treat prostate enlargement (BPH) can reduce sperm, too. When possible, stopping or switching to another medication may help improve sperm,” she adds. Always talk to your doctor before making any changes in medication.

Additional causes include anti-sperm antibodies, hormone imbalances, chromosome defects, tumors, celiac disease, certain medications, and previous surgeries.

Fortunately, many of these causes of low sperm count and infertility are treatable. Infections (like gonorrhea) can be treated with antibiotics. Hormone treatments can be offered, surgeries can be performed to correct certain issues, and medications can be prescribed for others. Additionally, assisted reproductive technology can be used to obtain or extract sperm for IVF.

Unhealthy Lifestyle

Just like in women, taking lifestyle choices that negatively affect personal health can often cause issues that affect fertility in men. “Tobacco smoking, marijuana use, and alcohol use can decrease sperm production,” says Westphal.

Tobacco is well-known to negatively impact fertility, sometimes causing abnormal sperm morphology among other things. Alcohol also has deleterious effects on male fertility, including reducing testosterone levels and affecting other hormones. And studies have also shown that cannabis use can reduce sperm count and concentration, among other things. Additionally, obesity has been linked to hormone issues that can cause infertility, though these seem to be reversible. Overall, it’s advised to reduce or eliminate use of substances such as the ones noted, and actively make health-conscious lifestyle choices (such as exercising and reducing stress) in order to improve fertility.


Experiences of infertility always have one thing in common: uncertainty. The countless visits to doctors, the months (or years) of planning, the tens of thousands of dollars, never add up to a guarantee. Even under the best of circumstances, there’s only so much about a pregnancy you can plan, and in the midst of a global pandemic, the idea of planning anything seems foolish. For National Infertility Awareness Week, we’re exploring the uncertainty—and the hope.



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After Abortion Ban in Alabama, State Representative Rolanda Hollis Introduces Bill Requiring Vasectomies for Men at Age 50


In May 2019, lawmakers in Alabama passed a wide-ranging abortion ban that would, among other things, punish doctors who performed the procedure on women at any stage of pregnancy with up to 99 years in prison. (A federal judge blocked the ban from taking effect in October 2019 until the matter is settled in the courts.)

Now, in response, a Democratic state representative in Alabama has introduced a bill that would require men to get vasectomies within a month of turning 50, or after their third child is born—whichever happens first. Per HuffPost, Rep. Rolanda Hollis acknowledges the bill is not a serious proposal, but rather a symbol meant to “send a message that men should not be legislating what women do with their bodies”—either through a straightforward abortion ban or through smaller incursions into women’s reproductive freedom.

“Year after year the majority party continues to introduce new legislation that tries to dictate [rules for] a woman’s body and her reproductive rights. We should view this as the same outrageous overstep in authority,” she said in a statement.

Senator Ted Cruz (R-Texas) responded to the proposed legislation on Twitter—and was then summarily mocked for his hypocrisy, given his support of limiting women’s reproductive rights. “Yikes. A government big enough to give you everything is big enough to take everything…literally!” he wrote. “Alabama Democrat proposes bill mandating all men have vasectomy at age 50 or after third child.”

“Yes, the government shouldn’t be involved in private reproductive health choices, yes, that’s a great point you made, yes,” historian and author Kevin Kruse replied to his tweet. The actor Patricia Arquette wrote, “Thought you wanted to stop unwanted pregnancies.”

“Wow how awful that the government is trying to interfere with bodily autonomy! What’s that feel like?” another Twitter user said.

And just in case the irony was lost on Cruz, one person laid it out super clearly for him. “This bill was not meant to pass; it was introduced to demonstrate how wrong it is to restrict people’s reproductive rights. In other words, the argument you’re applying to this bill shows how your own views on women’s reproductive rights are indefensible!” he wrote.

Cruz, unsurprisingly, has not responded to those calling out his double standard. Meanwhile, the assault on women’s reproductive rights continues.



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Sia Just Gave a Master Class in Asking Men For Casual Sex


So! You want to have sex but don’t want to ruin a friendship? Well, you’re in luck: Australian music mogul Sia has written a script to help you get what you want. Tailor it to your needs, memorize it, and before you know it, all your chandeliers will be turned into sex swings.

For the longest time, TV and movies have shown us that sex is something men get when they beg, and something that women endure in the hopes of locking down commitment. But in reality, all kinds of people want to have sex with all kinds of people. Nobody is trying to wife you up, Todd.

For many women, locking down high-quality sex in a world that expects you to doth-protest-too-much is tricky. But consider this: Say you’re an international songwriter and performer with a penchant for wigs, and you have taken a pledge to be single for the rest of your life. You just adopted a son, but you would still like to have sex with your close friend and business partner, Diplo.

That is the position Sia found herself in recently, according to a story she shared in a profile of Diplo from GQ.

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“Much of our relationship is just being spent trying not to have sex so that we wouldn’t ruin our business relationship, because he’s super-duper hot,” the hit singer-songwriter told GQ. “This year I wrote him a text, and I said, ‘Hey, listen, you’re, like, one of five people that I’m sexually attracted to, and now that I’ve decided to be single for the rest of my life and I just adopted a son, I don’t have time for a relationship.… If you’re interested in some no-strings sex, then hit me up.’ ”

Brava. There you have it: A perfect sexual proposition for a horny and litigious world. Let’s break it down:

Sia is in a tricky situation because she and Diplo work together. She made sure their hookup could be truly consensual by clarifying she wouldn’t allow it to affect their working relationship (“no-strings”) and by leaving the ball in his court (“hit me up”).

She succeeded in writing something that’s extremely direct, but not explicit. Elsewhere in the piece, Sia described Diplo as “one of the most insecure boys I’ve ever met.” Her text is a risk—but if she hadn’t written it, she would’ve risked never getting what she wanted.

Diplo attends the 2019 American Music Awards at Microsoft Theater on November 24 2019 in Los Angeles California.
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Overall, it’s a well-crafted message: She started with a compliment and then got right to the point, laying out clear parameters of what their relationship could be. She was honest with him about her boundaries. She wasn’t pushy. She put it in writing, so that he didn’t have to respond on the spot. She was vulnerable. Hey, you heard she was a wild one (but come on, if she took you home, it’d be a home run).

There’s a lot of talk about the evils of “hookup culture”—the shallowness, the coldness, the end of romance, blah blah blah. But here’s an example of hookup culture done right: a business-text to a man in a cowboy hat, politely asking for sex and to be largely left alone.

Jenny Singer is a staff writer for Glamour. Follow her on Twitter @JeanValjenny.





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Miley Cyrus Told Women They "Don't Have to Be Gay" Because There Are "Good Men Out There"


Miley Cyrus has never been someone to shy away from controversy or speaking her mind. And the latest example of this comes from a recent Instagram Live that she did with her new boyfriend, Cody Simpson. In it, the singer joked that women “don’t have to be gay” because there are “good men out there.” People, unsurprisingly, have not responded well to this sentiment.

“Guys, I was being a little too, like…hardcore feminist vibes and, just like, I don’t know, not allowing anyone in, but now I am,” Cyrus said during her live-stream, per E! “There are good men out there, guys. Don’t give up. You don’t have to be gay. There are good people with dicks out there. You just gotta find them. You gotta find a dick that’s not a dick, you know what I mean?”

Simpson then laughed and repeated Cyrus’s “You don’t have to be gay” statement, and she responded with, “I always thought I had to be gay, because I just thought all guys are evil, but that’s not true.”

“There are good people out there that just happen to have dicks,” Cyrus continued. “I’ve only ever met one, and he’s on this live.”

Back in February, Cyrus talked to Vanity Fair about her sexuality in the context of her marriage to Liam Hemsworth. (The couple announced their split in August, and she then dated Kaitlynn Carter before getting together with Simpson.) “We’re redefining, to be fucking frank, what it looks like for someone that’s a queer person like myself to be in a hetero relationship. A big part of my pride and my identity is being a queer person,” she said. “What I preach is: People fall in love with people, not gender, not looks, not whatever. What I’m in love with exists on almost a spiritual level. It has nothing to do with sexuality. Relationships and partnerships in a new generation—I don’t think they have so much to do with sexuality or gender. Sex is actually a small part, and gender is a very small, almost irrelevant part of relationships.”

The reactions to Cyrus’s comments were swift. “Miley, this is so not it. Women don’t ‘have to be gay’ because they ‘can’t find a good person with a d*ck,'” one person tweeted. “Don’t use the queer community as a stop-gap because you couldn’t find a boyfriend. People aren’t queer because they ‘gave up’ on men. This is so insulting.”



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12 Men Share Their Abortion Stories


One of the little things that starts to get to you is all the thoughts of what could have been with the baby. In your brain, you know this isn’t the right time. In your heart, you start imagining and dreaming about what could have been.

Cazembe Jackson, 39, Atlanta

I was a junior in college. It was the week before finals, and I was walking home from the library, at probably like one o’clock in the morning. These guys were riding by in a truck and saying that one of their friends had just gotten out of jail and was looking for a good time. I always have been a trans masculine person, so I was dressed in “boy” clothes. The conversation ended up being like, “We need to show you how to be a real woman.” I got raped by four men and kind of left there, outside. They call it corrective rape, when they’re raping you to make you straight.

I found out I was pregnant. I was on financial aid and basically already hustling trying to graduate, and did not want to be pregnant, did not want to have a kid. I was very suicidal and depressed. I stopped school for a little bit and went home. There was a Planned Parenthood around the corner from where I grew up, and I just went there. When I told them the story of what had happened, they set me up with a rape crisis center. That was my first time ever going to therapy. I don’t know what I would do had I not started therapy.

My abortion cost $300. I was a struggling college student. I ended up having to take out a payday loan, which cost way more than $300 and took way longer to pay back.

Women are not the only people who get abortions and who need them. There are also trans men, there are also other nonbinary or gender-nonconforming folk who don’t identify as women who also need access. It’s important that our voices are heard around abortion access.

Michael, 23, Colorado

I was on team abortion pretty much the whole time, and she was trying to think it out. I just made my case. Like, “Hey, we both really can’t afford to have this kid at all.” She was 19. I was 22 at the time.

It was so scary through the whole process. Getting the sonogram and seeing that she was actually pregnant, [I was] more sentimental than I thought I would get about it. Seeing that life that’s there, it doesn’t make it any easier than we thought it was going to be. A lot of old-school tropes really came into play, like, Are we killing this kid?

Diego, 27, Rockland County, NY

I had a serious girlfriend for a time. [Then at one point] she started acting kind of weird, distant. And looking back, I was kind of oblivious to the signs. You know, her breasts were getting bigger and she was getting nauseous and stuff like that. And then one night she just came out and said, “Hey, I had an abortion this week.” And I’m like, “Wait, what?” She thought that I just wouldn’t want to deal with it, which was not the case at all. I was pretty devastated. And I was just thinking, like, “Oh, my God. I lost my child.”

Before that moment, as a Christian, I had always had the standpoint of, like, “Yeah, abortion is wrong.” But it’s not really an issue that I was, like, clamoring for or hardcore on either way. Since then, I’ve become more knowledgeable and active in why I believe abortion is wrong, as far as what the Bible says, the arguments for pro-life and for pro-choice, and how we talk about the issue.

I’m hurt that that baby never had a chance. I’m hurt that my girlfriend thought that was the right decision to make, especially without consulting with me. Because even though America says this is a women’s issue, it’s as much a man’s issue because it takes a man and a woman to make a baby. And that’s something that we’re both going to carry the rest of our lives, the memory of what could have happened. I think about that baby—not like every day or every week—but I think about that baby a lot.

Dashiel Hitzfelder, 38, Durham, North Carolina

I felt really stupid. We know how the birds and the bees work, right? You have unprotected sex, there are consequences, and this is what happened. You put a seatbelt on when you get in a car, and if you don’t and you get in a car wreck and you get your face smashed in, those are the consequences that you live with when something really simple could have prevented it. I was just furious at myself.



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The Sexiest Thing on TV Right Now: Women Ignoring Men


Netflix’s Dead to Me and GLOW also focus on female friendships over a major will-they-or-won’t-they romance. There are relationships with men, sure, but they’re not at the center. Even Dead to Me’s James Marsden—who has a face created for the longing glances that define will-they-or-won’t-they couples—is mostly there to get in the way of Christina Applegate’s and Linda Cardellini’s characters. He’s simply an instrument used to create tension between the women.

Both Crazy Ex-Girlfriend and Broad City came to an end this year without the culmination of a will-they-or-won’t-they couple finally getting together. Crazy Ex-Girlfriend especially seemed like it might end with a romantic climax—the show did begin with a woman moving across the country for her ex-boyfriend, after all—but Rebecca’s romantic pursuits were in truth a reflection of her mental health, and that was the note on which the show ended. Meanwhile, Broad City expertly subverted the trope throughout its run: First with Abbi’s flirtation with her neighbor, which culminated in a single night, and later through her relationship with her former coworker, which ends with a rejected marriage proposal.

The will-they-or-won’t-they trope isn’t totally dead, though—it’s just evolving. There’s no better example of this than Killing Eve. If the Big Little Lies formula is about female characters finding deeper intimacy among their friends than their romantic partners, Killing Eve takes that and turns it up 10 notches. The show’s central will-they-or-won’t-they couple is a pair of female friends. That is, if Eve and Villanelle are friends? Or are they in love with each other? Or both? Whatever the case, Sandra Oh’s Eve, a British intelligent investigator with amazing hair, and Jodie Comer’s Villanelle, an assassin with whom Eve becomes obsessed, are one of television’s steamiest couples, with the question being: Will they get together? And, Won’t they end up killing each other?

Name a sexier duo than Sandra Oh’s Eve and Jodie Comer’s Villanelle.

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Phoebe Waller-Bridge’s Fleabag also found a fresh way to execute the trope. In season two, Fleabag’s love interest is the Hot Priest. (Oh, his beautiful neck.) Of the two, the Hot Priest is the softer, more sensitive, vulnerable character. He essentially takes on the characteristics of how female characters are traditionally been written, as he shyly flirts with Fleabag, torn between his infatuation with her and his religious obligations. Fleabag, on the other hand, is the pursuant. The flipping of the traditional roles, which in turn flipped the power structure, made for a thoroughly engaging dynamic.



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