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They Didn't Find Love on The Bachelor. Now They're Relationship Experts.


For Bachelor alum Taylor Nolan, it took getting off the franchise to find her voice. “I’m someone with strong opinions who isn’t scared of speaking her mind,” she says. But she found herself changing on the show. “I was heavily filtering what I was saying out of fear of backlash, out of fear of only half of what I was saying getting aired.” So Nolan uses her podcast, Let’s Talk About It, to speak openly about her dating life and mental health. “As long as one person benefits from something that my guest shared or something that I shared, that’s perfect,” she says. “There’s a lot of connection in shared pain.”

That extends to Instagram, too. When Nolan was still engaged to fellow Bachelor in Paradise contestant Derek Peth—they’ve since broken up—she made an effort not to post happy couple-y photos when things weren’t, in fact, so happy. “Our relationship was so highly romanticized on a reality TV show,” she explains. “Not posting those shiny, romantic photos when shit wasn’t actually good was fighting against some of that pressure.”

Instagram is fast becoming a cesspool of anxiety for contestants, making outlets like podcasts all the more appealing. “You get all this fame, overnight, and you’re riding this super-high high, and then the next season comes along and you lose hundreds of thousands of followers,” Gates says. “It does something to your self-worth.” The future of the post-Bachelor world, she thinks, lies beyond perfectly curated posts. “Fans don’t want the edits in photos, they want to see you as a person, which explains the rise of video, TikTok, people doing podcasts. I think everyone is craving authenticity.”

When Unglert launched Help! I Suck At Dating, he was more than happy to serve up said authenticity but was under no illusion that he had any expertise to offer. Fresh off a disastrous Bachelor in Paradise season in which he juggled two women, he had viewers call in and give him love advice. Fast forward two years: He’s graduated from the Bachelor franchise, in a committed relationship, and surprised to find that he’s become an unexpected resource for matters of the heart (something, he notes, wouldn’t have happened in “a million years” had he not gone through the show).

“I have a lot of friends who have started confiding in me a lot more for dating advice, which I think is really funny,” Unglert says, adding cheerfully, “I always preface everything by saying, ‘Look, obviously I don’t know anything I’m saying. But I think this is what you should do…’”

Thea Glassman is a freelance entertainment writer, with bylines in The New York Times, The Hollywood Reporter, Vanity Fair, and VICE. Find her on Twitter @theakglassman.





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'Love Is Blind' Didn't Show Us Every Couple Who Got Engaged


Love Is Blind, Netflix‘s latest foray into the world of reality programming, is the show that everyone’s talking about on your social media feeds—and with good reason.

If you haven’t yet watched, here’s the deal: 15 men and 15 women agreed to take part in a social experiment wherein they try to find a spouse without first seeing that person. In the early days of the show, the cast basically goes through rounds of speed dating where they sit in “pods” and get to know each other to find out if they’re possible soulmates, but they have no idea what they other person looks like. The men and women live in separate quarters where they often shared their feelings about who they were clicking with.

We get to see many of the Love Is Blind contestants get engaged within days of meeting each other—and at that point they are finally allowed to see each other and then jet off on a vacation in Mexico. Interestingly, though, viewers didn’t get to see all of the eight couples who got engaged.

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“We only have so much time to tell a story, but there are lots of interesting stories. There’s the guy, Rory who features in a couple of scenes,” series creator Chris Coelen told Entertainment Weekly. “He actually got engaged to a woman who you only see for a brief moment early on named Danielle. They were together for a little while and then they broke up and she ended up dating the guy who appears at the very beginning of the show, Matt. I think they were all curious. One of the things I love about the show is, ultimately, when they go on their romantic getaway, they do get to see what the other ones look like and Jessica gets to see Barnett in the flesh for the first time and you get to see whether that matters and if maybe she made the wrong choice. I love that element of the show and I think that in real life, they were all really curious to know what the others looked like.”

The entire show is quite a wild ride, but it must also be crazy to go through the process and have your love story edited out for time. Danielle certainly thinks so, based on her Instagram.

Love Is Blind is now streaming on Netflix.



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Kate Middleton and Prince William Reportedly Didn't Like the Royals Jokes Made at the BAFTAs


Remember when Brad Pitt‘s speech at the BAFTAs included a joke about Prince Harry and everyone laughed? Including (seemingly) Kate Middleton and Prince William, who were in attendance? Well, it turns out that the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge may have been putting on a happy face at the BAFTAs this past Sunday (February 2). According to one source, the couple was not pleased with the jokes made at the royal family’s expense.

“The feedback is that many of the stars stepped out of line in front of the patron, which is the Duke of Cambridge,” U.K. media commentator Neil Sean told Fox News. The most notable, heavily-reported Hollywood rib at their expense definitely goes to Pitt, who won Best Supporting Actor for his role in Once Upon a Time in Hollywood. He wasn’t able to attend, but Margot Robbie accepted the award and gave a speech on his behalf.

“[Brad] says that he is going to name [his award] Harry,” Robbie said. “Because he is really excited about bringing it back to the States with him… His words, not mine!” That’s when the camera panned, and we supposedly saw the duke and duchess react good-naturedly.

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“This was not met with the smiling faces that you saw on the final edited version of the show,” Sean said, seemingly alleging that the broadcast had been changed in some way.

But the worst moment for the royals, according to Sean, came from actor Rebel Wilson. The Cats star chose to poke fun at a much more serious royal scandal: Prince Andrew’s ties to convicted sex offender Jeffrey Epstein.

“It is really great to be here at the Royal Andrew… uh, Royal Harry, no, at this royal palace place,” Wilson joked while presenting the award for Best Director. The camera, of course, cut to Will and Kate.

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Apparently, the royals were so offended that they’re reportedly looking into ways to prevent moments like this in the future. “A mole also told me that to ensure that the royals are not embarrassed or made fun of again at such a prestigious event like this one…they will have a ‘moral clause’ inserted into their acceptance agreement ensuring that due reverence is given to the royal couple who gave their time and support to such a wonderful celebration of film and is respected,” Sean told Fox News.

Woof. At least Kate Middleton and Prince William’s exchange with actor Jaoquin Phoenix was delightful.



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10 Movies You Didn't Realize Were Based on Romance Novels


Romance is a billion-dollar industry. In 2016 these novels made up 23% of the overall fiction market, and they consistently out-perform all other genres. But while we’ve reclaimed the rom-com in film, these books are still often relegated to being “guilty pleasures” or considered “mommy porn.” This week we’re discussing these overlooked, often powerfully feminist books—that just so happen to have a happy ending.

Think back to some of the most romantic movies in recent memory. I’m sure a few titles come to mind: Me Before You, A Walk to Remember, Something Borrowed—the list goes on and on. And while these movies are different in terms of plot, they do have one commonality: They’re all actually based on romance novels. Yup: Before Shane West and Mandy Moore made you swoon in AWTR, their characters were just in the pages of Nicholas Sparks’ 2002 novel.

And there are more where these three came from. So many of your favorite rom-coms are actually based on these kind of books. The 10, below, are my personal favorites. Are they all traditional romance novels? No. But they all embody the core hallmarks of the genre: love, passion, and of course, sex.

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Christopher Rosa is the staff entertainment writer at Glamour. Follow him on Twitter @chrisrosa92.





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I Didn't Have My First Orgasm Until I Was 28, Thanks to Chronic Pelvic Pain


Finally, I thought, things were going to change. For once, I wasn’t anxious. I was relaxed. Ready. But as soon as he inserted his penis, I screamed so loud, I’m pretty sure I woke up all of the neighbors. I started crying uncontrollably, pushed him away, and ran to my bedroom, ashamed to admit that it hurt so much.

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One year, no sex, and lots of shame later, I started to see a talk therapist after experiencing severe anxiety and panic attacks that interfered with my daily life. I was always an anxious person, but until now I’d always been able to cope with my symptoms. Maybe anxiety really was behind my pelvic pain, and it was all in my head.

About six sessions in, I decided I trusted my therapist enough to open up about my chronic pelvic pain and fear of sex. It was the best decision. She told me this was very common, even though it’s rarely talked about. She asked me if I had ever masturbated, to which I emphatically replied, “Never.” I didn’t connect with that part of my body, except when I had to put on a pad during my period. I basically pretended I didn’t have a vagina; no way was I going to try and pleasure myself. The thought alone made me tremble with fear.

Talking about the pain and shame I felt surrounding sex helped. It wasn’t all in my head. I wasn’t the only one. But after months of talking, I was talked out. While I wasn’t as fearful, I still had immense pain. I had hit a wall. So my therapist suggested I make an appointment with a pelvic floor physical therapist. I didn’t even know these types of PTs existed. Why had no one ever mentioned this before? I immediately called and scheduled an appointment.

During our second session, the physical therapist did a pelvic exam—she didn’t use any scary speculums and went really slowly, talking me through each step. My pelvic floor muscles were shockingly tight, she explained, which was why I was likely having so much pain whenever I tried to insert anything, by myself or with a partner. Anxiety did contribute to that chronic state of tension but the solution wasn’t as simple as “learning to relax.” I needed to retrain the muscles.

We made a plan for 12 sessions of physical therapy and she sent me home with a set of dilators—smooth plastic, cylinder-shaped objects that come in a variety of graduated sizes—which are used to gently stretch the vagina. She suggested I start with the smallest dilator, about 3.5 inches long and a half-inch circumference, and use it for 15 minutes each day.

Suddenly paying so much attention to my vagina felt like a chore. Pleasure had felt like such an unreachable goal for years and when I started physical therapy, it finally felt possible. But this wasn’t fun, it was clinical. I was starting to experience less pain but pleasure was still totally foreign to me.

After a year of treatment, I could successfully insert a tampon. Yay me. But after all this work, I felt no closer to sex. No closer to the toe curling sexual pleasure I’d been hearing my friends talk about for years. Just to maintain the small but significant progress I’d made, I’d have to keep using the dilators.

Owning My Pleasure

After I’d finished physical therapy, I was having a conversation with a friend from college and mentioned my experience with dilators and how I didn’t even know what sexual pleasure was. She explained that she doesn’t typically have an orgasm when she’s with a partner—only when she is masturbating. I’d realized in talk therapy that I didn’t have a clue how to masturbate—thanks to the pain, my entire pelvic region felt off limits even to me. But for the first time I realized I didn’t necessarily need to insert anything into my vagina to get off.



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Taylor Swift Says She Didn't Really See Sexism in the Music Industry Until Red's Success


We’re just a couple weeks away from the release of Taylor Swift‘s latest album, Lover, on August 23. And in the lead-up to its release, we’re learning more and more about where Swift is at in her life—through Easter eggs left in her videos and commercials and in interviews, like her latest one for Vogue. (She graces the cover of the magazine’s September issue.)

In the interview, Swift opens up about various aspects of her career, including the shift she saw once she transitioned from a rising star in the industry to a powerful woman. When asked if she was always aware of sexism around her, Swift gives this thoughtful answer: “When I was a teenager, I would hear people talk about sexism in the music industry, and I’d be like, I don’t see it. I don’t understand,” she tells Vogue. “Then I realized that was because I was a kid. Men in the industry saw me as a kid. I was a lanky, scrawny, overexcited young girl who reminded them more of their little niece or their daughter than a successful woman in business or a colleague. The second I became a woman, in people’s perception, was when I started seeing it.”

“It’s fine to infantilize a girl’s success and say, How cute that she’s having some hit songs,” she continues. “How cute that she’s writing songs. But the second it becomes formidable? As soon as I started playing stadiums—when I started to look like a woman—that wasn’t as cool anymore. It was when I started to have songs from Red come out and cross over, like ‘I Knew You Were Trouble’ and ‘We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together.’”

In the interview, she also reveals a moment where she realized she wanted to be more vocal about her stance on LGBTQ+ issues. Swift describes driving in a car with her friend and collaborator, Todrick Hall, when he asked her what she would do if her son was gay. “The fact that he had to ask me…shocked me and made me realize that I had not made my position clear enough or loud enough,” she says. “If my son was gay, he’d be gay. I don’t understand the question.”

“If he was thinking that, I can’t imagine what my fans in the LGBTQ community might be thinking,” she continued. “It was kind of devastating to realize that I hadn’t been publicly clear about that.” Since then, she has spoken out publicly against certain political candidates and stood up for the Equality Act, along with more overt lyrics (and cameos) in her latest singles in support of the community, as well as a surprise appearance at the Stonewall Inn during Pride.

Swift explains why she wasn’t more vocal sooner, too. “Rights are being stripped from basically everyone who isn’t a straight white cisgender male,” she says. “I didn’t realize until recently that I could advocate for a community that I’m not a part of. It’s hard to know how to do that without being so fearful of making a mistake that you just freeze. Because my mistakes are very loud. When I make a mistake, it echoes through the canyons of the world. It’s clickbait, and it’s a part of my life story, and it’s a part of my career arc.”

You can read the full Vogue interview here.



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