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Netflix Is Publishing Anonymous Love Letters From Fans of To All the Boys I've Loved Before


If you spent all weekend watching To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before and obsessing over Peter Kavinsky, then you’re not alone. Everyone is currently hooked on Netflix’s latest original rom-com and the actor who plays Peter, Noah Centineo. Of course, the movie is a hit for many reasons besides him: It’s delightful, very funny, and a step in the right direction for Asian representation in Hollywood. Also, Lara Jean’s communication tool of choice—love letters—is just so pure and lovely in a time when we need things that are pure and lovely. I’ve never felt the urge to write a love letter, but after watching To All the Boys I want to send out thousands.

I’m not the only one, either. In honor of the success of To All the Boys, Netflix tweeted out a challenge for its viewers. “Email Feelings@Netflix.com with a message for your crush/BFF/hero, include their @ handle…and I’ll tweet my faves at your special someone—anonymously,” read the directions from Netflix’s official Twitter page.

And the people delivered. Netflix published several of the anonymous love letters fans wrote to the special people in their lives. One was to Lana Condor, who plays Lara Jean in To All the Boys. “You are endlessly beautiful and inspiring,” the letter from a fan reads. “Thank you for everything and for helping girls like me feel seen.”

Others were more personal, like this letter someone wrote to their office crush: “We’ve known each other for four years now and I’ve been head-over-heels in love with you from the moment I saw you at a meeting.”

The person who received the most letters was, unsurprisingly, Noah Centineo. “While they were all beautiful, I simply had to put too many stamps on this one and send it his way,” Netflix tweeted about the love note it shared, which actually will give you so many feels. Read that one—plus some other love notes—below:

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The To All the Boys I've Loved Before Cast Recreated Classic Rom-Com Moments


To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before is the latest rom-com to take Netflix by storm. The delightful adaptation of Jenny Han’s bestselling novel centers on Lara Jean (Lana Condor), a 16-year-old whose private love letters to her crushes mysteriously get mailed out. What transpires afterwards is a series of charming events that make To All the Boys feel like an eighties rom-com.

So it’s only fitting the movie’s cast recreated some of those classic rom-com moments for our viewing pleasure. “When I was on the set of #ToAlltheBoysIveLovedBefore, I coerced the cast into making these teen movie moments bc I’m a pushy queen,” Han tweeted Sunday afternoon (August 19), alongside a thread of four videos. The first shows Candor and Noah Centineo (who plays Peter in the movie) doing the iconic lift from Dirty Dancing. “(I’ve Had) The Time of My Life” plays in the background, of course.

Up next we have Israel Broussard (Josh in To All the Boys), doing Judd Nelson’s timeless fist bump at the end of The Breakfast Club. Is it me, or do we have another Brat Pack on our hands?

Below, watch Madeleine Arthur (who plays Chris) channel her inner John Cusack in Say Anything with this boombox moment:

And let’s end things with Centineo (again!), recreating Heath Ledger’s bleacher moves from 10 Things I Hate About You.

To All the Boys is streaming on Netflix right now. Go watch!

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Literally All The Things I've Bought This Week That Caused Me Anxiety


If there’s one thing every millennial with nonrich parents can relate to, it’s financial issues—or, more specifically, the ceaseless, dogged presence of money-induced anxiety that we keep closer to us than our Velcro wallets. Even when I feel like I’m in a decent place financially, a purchase as seemingly mundane as a tall Starbucks drink weighs on me. I have an ever-present guilt about my inability to save, and I’m constantly pulling my hair out over what the next decade of my life looks like. That, mixed with an inner-dialogue justifying why I deserve to splurge on an opulent Burger King meal after a great business meeting, is exhausting.

Plus, I live in L.A., where the wealth divide runs the gamut from a homeless state of emergency to Taylor Swift’s $25 million mansion. Every day I witness restaurant patrons drop hundreds on dinner—yet for me, spending even $20 on food feels outlandish, spoiled, and financially irresponsible.

Money is my most real and regular anxiety trigger, and overcoming it seems unfeasible. But in an effort to lay it all out and visibly witness how ridiculous my negative inner-monologue is, I made a list of everything I bought this week that sent me spiraling into a black hole of anxious darkness. Behold.

A Grande iced chai latte with soy milk from Starbucks: $5.05

Every time I go to Starbucks, I berate myself about being a selfish, greedy monster who might as well max out my credit card with a trip to the Amalfi coast that I can’t afford. I’m not a coffee drinker or caffeine addict, so a tea doesn’t feel like a necessity. Thus, even waiting in line makes me break out in hives. I harangued myself so much about this one purchase that I was actually under the impression I went to Starbucks every day this week. But after looking at my bank statement, it turns out I went only twice. Even so, I told myself, “You don’t need this, you gluttonous brat.”

Note: I am one purchase deep and already sweating, looking at this seemingly endless trail of $1.99s and $4.99s.

A tuna sub from Jersey Mike’s: $11.67

I had just worked out super hard at the gym and decided to put my foot down. I needed to nourish myself with real food. So I got the full combo: a six-inch sub, chips, and a soda. If you don’t know what Jersey Mike’s is, it’s sandwich hell. It’s where hoagies go to die. Still, this was a splurge to me. This is how I “treat yo’self”: a sandwich with extra vinegar and no banana peppers. I wanted them, but they cost extra.

Ugh, this exercise is not helping—I actively feel bad about myself.

Groceries from Trader Joe’s: $13.46

I felt so guilty and downtrodden about buying myself a lump of sandwich detritus that I went straight to Trader Joe’s to buy two frozen dinners, praying that it would force me to stay in my cave for the next two days. It did, but it forced my grubby little hand elsewhere…

Amazon movie rental: $4.99

Now stuck at home with my groceries, I rented this lesbian movie on Amazon called Becks that I didn’t even like. I hated it so fucking much! It’s been a week, and I still haven’t been able to let it go—that I spent $5 on renting a movie, which I didn’t need, which sucked.

Gasoline: $40.23

Just slay me now. Split my head in two like a butterflied shrimp.

Friday night sister date—dinner and a movie: $40.22 Sometimes, I convince myself that I’m a human who’s allowed to feel joy and treat myself to companionship on the weekends. So I went to my favorite restaurant, Buffalo Wild Wings, and saw Blockers with my sister. This was supposed to bring me fleeting happiness, but instead it made me sweat thinking about the $40 I threw away.

Brunch with a friend who just got laid off: $45.65

This one really physically wounded me, especially because I had already spent $40 two days earlier. One of my closest friends was laid off a few weeks ago, and I’ve been wanting to take her out for a nice meal—yes, $50 is a “nice” meal—because that’s what you do when a friend is down. It feels good to help! I want to help. I want to feel confident enough in myself and my finances that I can take a friend out and not get as nasty with myself, but here we are. I am nearly $50 shorter for trying to be a good friend. You sicko.

A large Vita Coco coconut water: $4.79

I felt very dehydrated after another big workout and once again thought it’d feel good to quench myself and give my body what it needs instead of feeling drained and starved for basic nutrients. Wrong. In my fraught, broken psyche, it felt like I committed a war crime. You are every stereotype of an elitist Los Angeles prick, I told myself. You are owning yourself, lib.

ANOTHER ICED CHAI LATTE WITH SOY MILK: $5.05

You just can’t help yourself, can you bitch? You get a Grande instead of a Tall, which is basically a cup of ice with the mist of someone else’s coffee breath, and then you complain about needing rent money? Disgusting.

If anything, this exercise made me realize how bad I am at feeding myself. But I was also reminded of much I’ve been working out lately, which is extremely validating and makes me feel morally superior. As a person with mental health issues—including but not limited to anxiety and depression—I’m not sure how to grapple with the daily cost of living and the gloomy effect it has on my spirit. Sometimes I remember the mythological fallacy of being a homeowner, and I completely crumble. I’m 26 and can barely buy a fresh juice without convincing myself that I’m coastal elite trash. On that note, while checking my statements for this cute little exercise, I realized I’ve been donating monthly to the ACLU since the 2016 election. I canceled it. I’m so sorry, but I can’t afford rights right now.

Jill Gutowitz is a writer in Los Angeles. She has written for Vice, Broadly, Teen Vogue, AwesomenessTV, Dame Magazine, and more. Follow her on Twitter @jillboard.





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Jane Villanueva of 'Jane the Virgin' Is the Style Icon I've Always Wanted


I first discovered Jane the Virgin after watching Gina Rodriguez’s emotional, inspiring acceptance speech at the 2015 Golden Globes, where she won the award for Best Actress in a TV Comedy. I was compelled by her charisma and vulnerability. I felt moved by her mantra of “I can and I will.” I also couldn’t ignore that she was a fellow Latina, and that she won an award for playing a character who wasn’t a maid, mistress, or any other Latinx trope.

I immediately started watching the CW show, which is now on its fourth season, and I’ve been hooked ever since.

Perhaps what’s most remarkable to me about Jane the Virgin is how it showcases a Latinx family in a way that I relate to—save for the less-than-normal circumstances under which we meet the titular character. But when I was growing up, Latinx representation on mainstream television was limited. The Brothers García was the only show I recall watching with a predominantly Latinx cast. Beyond that, you had to catch Latinx characters where you could: A.C. Slater (Mario Lopez) on Saved by the Bell, Matt Santos (Jimmy Smits) on The West Wing, and George Lopez on his eponymous show come to mind. You may have noticed those are all men. That’s because, for many years, I felt that Latinas were largely missing from the television landscape—and even when they were on screen, they were often typecast as seductive sexpots (i.e. Gabrielle Solis on Desperate Housewives) or frumpy, vindictive maids (like Rosario Salazar on Will & Grace.) Then Jane came along.

When I watched Jane the Virgin, it felt like being reunited with my long-lost twin: She’s bookish, a perfectionist, and an aspiring writer. She comes from a family of immigrants and works her way through college. But the similarity I was most struck by—and still am, three seasons in—is how closely Jane’s wardrobe resembles my own. She may lead an abnormal telenovela life, but her clothes are actually, well, pretty normal. And that’s precisely why I love them.

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Seeing that normalcy represented through fashion is important to me because, for far too long, Latinas on TV have been stylistically one-dimensional. They were in skin-tight dresses, uniforms, or chola garb. I don’t ascribe to any of those sartorial depictions of Latinas, but they were the only ones available to me as a kid. And because these were the only ones I saw, it made me question my own latinidad on more than one occasion—after all, I was a brown girl from Nebraska who didn’t speak Spanish, was of mixed race, and didn’t have many Latinx friends. I wore glasses and shopped at Target, Old Navy, and TJ Maxx. My clothes were generally unimpressive, although I definitely tried way too hard to be trendy: If prep was in, I’d wear polos; if it was punk, I’d rock the plaid. Fashion was my way of fitting in, especially in a world where I constantly felt exoticized—so while my clothes didn’t necessarily reflect my personality at the time, at least I belonged.

Yet even when I did see characters on screen that dressed like me, they didn’t look like me. And if I couldn’t see myself reflected in the stories I was consuming, did that mean my story wasn’t worth telling? And was I Latina enough if I didn’t look, act, talk, or dress like the ones on TV?

I wish I could say that I eventually reached the definitive answer of, “Yes, of course I am,” but it’s honestly a question I still grapple with. Fortunately, Jane Villanueva has helped alleviate some of those insecurities. She isn’t a caricature or a cliché. And through sense of style—which is largely unremarkable and isn’t a plot device on the show—I’ve finally found a Latina style role model who doesn’t just get me, she is me.

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“It’s absolutely ridiculous that Latina women have been put into this over sexualized box,” says Rachel Sage Kunin, costume designer for Jane the Virgin. “I feel privileged to be able to show off a character like Jane.”

In earlier seasons, she explains, Jane gravitated toward a variety of prints:We saw her in everything from florals and tie-dye to stripes and polka dots. She even rocked pineapple prints a couple of times. And although Jane doesn’t come from wealth or affluence, she’s almost always put-together, proving that great style doesn’t have to break the bank. “I shop a lot at Target and Kohl’s for her,” Kunin said. “I also do a lot of sales hunting. Even if Jane could afford an expensive dress from Neiman Marcus, she’s too practical to buy it at full price.”

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Just like Jane, I’ve done my fair share of experimenting with prints, especially in my early twenties, when I was figuring out my post-college sartorial identity. I’ve since outgrown them, and now favor pieces with minimal or more subtle patterns. And, as Jane made the transformation from 23-year-old pregnant virgin to young mother and widow (does that count as a spoiler?), her wardrobe followed an evolution similar to mine.

“She may have chosen a polka dot dress then, whereas now she’d opt for something a bit hipper or more modern,” Kunin says. “She may have chosen a fit and flare dress before, but now she’d opt for a sheath dress.”

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After Michael’s death last season and the subsequent three-year time jump, the costume designer explained that viewers saw a more grown-up Jane. “Jane has had to mature since Michael’s death,” Kunin said. “She’s always had a cute sense of style, but it’s evolved quite a bit.”

In the second half of the third season, for example, she wears sleeker silhouettes in solid colors like blush, magenta, and orange. She still incorporates florals and stripes occasionally, but other prints have largely disappeared from her new adult wardrobe.

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When Jane chose this slinky Lovers + Friends mini dress to commence her fling with Fabian, an incredibly attractive telenovela star she meets on the set of her father Rogelio’s show, I related to her line of thought: I’ve definitely worn uncharacteristically provocative pieces to give myself that little ego boost before a rendezvous. It’s a sartorial move that’s a clear departure from, say, her super-casual denim-and-knit look back in season one (which, to be fair, I proudly own a version of). But that’s part of what makes Jane’s style feel so refreshing to me: She mostly wears accessible, cute, and on-trend apparel. When she does get dolled up, it’s feminine yet modest. She’s rarely outrageous or oversexed, unless it’s part of the storytelling—like with the aforementioned Fabian plot or with any of the show’s numerous fantasy sequences.

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When it comes to collaborating with Rodriguez, Kunin said that they’re usually on the same wavelength about Jane’s style evolution. “Gina and I find common ground on where Jane’s head is at,” she notes. “Often we’ll find something and agree that we should save it for down the road. It’s where we see her going, but perhaps she’s not quite there. Or we’ll agree and say, ‘That’s so Jane season two!’”

Rodriguez understands that relationships with fashion are complex and constantly changing: The actress previously told Glamour that because she “grew up as a tomboy,” she wasn’t sure how to engage with fashion.

“[I grew up] with a mother who didn’t really wear makeup and didn’t really put an emphasis on wearing labels or anything like that,” Rodriguez said. “If you asked anybody who knew me in college, they’d be like, yeah, she doesn’t care, she’ll throw on a T-shirt and keep it moving.”

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She acknowledged that she’s becoming “more adventurous” and learning how to embrace fashion as a tool for self-empowerment.

“I’m discovering myself and what I like,” Rodriguez said. “That’s huge for me. Fashion is about treating yourself well and being your own hero in your story.”

The fourth season of Jane the Virgin premieres tonight at 9 p.m. EST on the CW.



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This Might Be the Best Vibrator I've Ever Tried


There’s a new class of sex toy that’s unlike anything else—and not only is its latest incarnation the best vibrator I’ve probably ever tried, but I’m pretty sure the technology it uses will be the future of pleasure products. Unlike traditional vibes, toys like the Womanizer and the Satisfyer (which won a spot in our Sex Toy Awards) create airwaves around your clitoris to suck it upward. Nothing else has given me orgasms in under two minutes or multiple orgasms in one session, so it makes sense that LELO, the company responsible for some of the most high-end sex toys on the market, would create its own version of the suction vibrator. And let me tell you, it does not disappoint.

The LELO SONA Cruise, which the company dubbed a “sonic massager,” has a similar design to the Satisfyer and Womanizer toys, and at $108, its price point is right in the middle of those other brands. It’s got a handle with three buttons—one to change vibration modes, one to increase the intensity, and one to decrease it—and a head that looks like a little mouth, which goes over your clitoris. You don’t move it, you just hold it there and it does all the work for you.

Both the Womanizer and the Satisfyer vibrate very softly because their main function is suction—it feels like they’re reaching deep within your core, pulling an orgasm out of you. The LELO SONA Cruise feels more like a vibrator, with extremely powerful vibrations on the surface of the clitoris. This surprised me, since the press release emailed to me said it “stimulates the entire clitoris—even the parts you don’t see—with an eager, fluttering sonic hum, for a different kind of orgasm produced by the gentle deep-tissue massage of sonic waves.” That wasn’t my experience: The vibration felt very concentrated on the head.

This part of the press release, though, did ring true: “It’s a prolonged climax after a sensual build-up, an orgasm that comes from somewhere deep within you.” While its competitors aim to get women off quickly—and do a damn good job at it—the LELO SONA Cruise aims for more sustained pleasure. And it succeeds, too: My orgasms from this one take more like four or five minutes, rather than two or three, but they follow a very distinctive arc. Around a minute or two before climax, my vagina starts having singular contractions spaced a few seconds apart, each of which feels like its own mini-orgasm. I’d describe the process as more of a hill than a mountain with a sharp peak.

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Also unlike the Womanizer and Satisfyer, this one isn’t great for attempting multiple orgasms. The vibrations are so powerful it would probably leave your clit in a coma. I usually like to put vibrators up to the highest setting, but I couldn’t handle this one that way, likely because of another unique SONA Cruise feature: The toy’s name is a reference to “cruise control,” because it doesn’t lose power when you press it hard against you. Honestly, I could’ve done without this. It felt like more nerve cells in my clit were dying with each use (felt being the operative word—contrary to popular belief, vibrators can’t actually permanently desensitize you).

Another downside is that the whole thing, including the nozzle, is pretty hard plastic. The Satisfyer Pro 2, for example, is squishy where it comes into contact with your skin, so you can press it down without worrying about pain. But you’ve got to be careful with this one: Its power is unprecedented, and that’s saying a lot for someone who’s tried the alarmingly strong Satisfyer Pro 2: Next Generation.

I wouldn’t be surprised if even more toys following this suction model come out over the next few years. So far, though they have the same basic premise, none of the different models I’ve tried have felt too similar. The Satisfyer and Womanizer are pretty alike, but the LELO SONA Cruise provides a different kind of pleasure that’s not really better or worse, merely suited to different needs.

Personally? I’m going to cover all my bases and keep one of each in my bedside drawer.

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