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Yvonne Orji: I Didn't Have $7 to Buy Pizza. Then God Sent Me a New Life Plan.


At Glamour’s 2018 Women of the Year Summit, Yvonne Orji opened up about how her faith led her to a starring role on HBO’s Insecure. Her story, below.

I’m Yvonne Orji. So some of you may know me as Issa Rae’s very messy best friend Molly on HBO’s Insecure. Thanks for watching! But what you may not know is that the journey to get there was entirely faith-led. Like, y’all, I could not have this life or anything. Nothing about the six-year-old girl who emigrated from Nigeria to America who was destined to be a doctor…if you know anything about Nigerians, you’re a doctor, lawyer or engineer. My mom is still praying, “Just one day. Maybe just one day…” It’s like, no. But nothing about my story pointed anywhere to comedy.

And that is where God comes in. Y’all that was all His idea.

I was raised as a Catholic, so God was always kind of a part of my life in a way. But as a freshman in college, I attended a Bible study that completely changed my life. That’s where I became a born-again Christian. Now, I know some of you are like, “In college?” Yes, because nothing about freshman year says Scripture, OK? Because I had a plan, so I was like, where are the boys? But I attended a bible study, and the minister there kept referring to God as, “Daddy.” I’ve never heard anybody refer to Him so intimately, and I’m really competitive—I have three older brothers—so for no reason I was like, “I want what she has.”

One night, when I was trying to figure out what was next and needed some clarity, I heard Him say, “Do comedy.”

I wanted that level of intimacy, so I said yes to the invitation—and from that, I too developed a very intimate relationship where I hear God. And one night, when I was trying to figure out what was next and needed some clarity, I heard Him say, “Do comedy.”

I’m sorry, what?

Because I wasn’t funny. I was like, nobody laughs at me. They used to laugh at me. Nobody was like, “That Yvonne is SUPER funny.” But at that point, I was on my way to becoming a doctor. I was stalling because I got my masters in public health. This is what you do when you’re the child of immigrants—you go to school to avoid going to school. And then after I got my masters, I was still not ready to be a doctor. I wanted to go to Liberia, which was just finishing a war, because it was easier for me to go to a war-torn country than tell my parents that I wasn’t going to be a doctor.

So I was wrestling. I was wrestling with God’s words. I was like, “What do you mean you want me to do comedy?” Here’s the thing, how many people have challenged God and won? You know, you can’t wrestle with Him. I’m not a fighter, look at me. So clearly I took His advice and I did comedy.

Sounds daring and fun, but pretty soon after I moved to New York I found myself with zero dollars and zero leads. Let me tell you right now: That’s not sexy. OK? Because Sallie Mae wants her money, like all of it. So one day I found myself incredibly hungry. I was in Harlem, and if you live in New York you know about 2 Bros. Pizza. It feeds the artist and the homeless, guys. It was $1 a slice of pizza, and if you’re really fancy you can get two slices and a soda for $2.75. I see some people shaking their heads. 2 Bros. Pizza is where it’s at! But here’s the kicker: I’m living in Queens at the time, and I didn’t have the $4.40 to take the subway to get there and back. Here I was, 25 years old, with two degrees, and not even the $7 to get a slice of pizza.

I was like, was this really the life I risked it all for? I have a family that loves me and cares about me, and I am broke. I am poor.

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Orji on ‘Insecure’

But God must have sensed my doubt because, in that instant, I promise y’all I got a download from Heaven…I grabbed a pen and paper, and I wrote everything I heard as He dictated plans for my life. And in that moment, it was like, this is amazing…I took a nap, and when I woke up I was like, I’m just going to say yes.

What followed was a series of saying yes. Because if He has plans for me, then I should just go with it. So I said yes to the temp job I hated but allowed me to perform comedy at night. I said yes to taking over a stand-up show in New York City. I said yes to a residency in a college production in Richmond, Virginia, that gave me two days to get there. I said yes to being a writer in the writers room for a TV show in L.A. At the time I didn’t know what that was, but, guys, it’s pretty self-explanatory. That’s what Google is for.

Say yes. What’s the worst that could happen?

So there was a lot of hustle and there was a lot of setbacks. I’m not going to front. The road to comedy was not sexy. I make it look very sexy now, but it was hard. That show that I was writing on got canceled—but from that point forward, I just kept listening. … I put every idea I had into creating the trailer for a show called First Gen, a series about a Nigerian girl who drops out of Med School to become a comedian (sound familiar?). This was back in 2016, and the trailer for First Gen became my audition tape for Insecure. It’s what Issa was able to see and turn to the producers and say, “Give her a shot.” I didn’t have an agent, manager, anything, I had never acted. So this is HBO—Home Box Office—this is not like, a small production. And this thing that I hunkered down and accomplished was what Issa was able to be like, “Let’s try her out!”

So, I’m not a surgeon, I’m not. Don’t get sick around, I’ll probably just give you Advil. But I’m definitely fulfilling my purpose. Inside all of us exists some kind of compass—whether it’s divine or otherwise—but it’s something desperately trying to navigate you and all of us to the life we know we were destined to live. So I think the choice is pretty simple: Keep letting fear sidetrack you or take what you’ve been given, maybe even told from God above, and say yes. But whatever it is, keep going. Keep doing it. Why not? That’s what Glamour Women of the Year is all about—women who are not afraid to go after what they want.

Say yes. What’s the worst that could happen?


Find out more about Glamour‘s 2018 Women of the Year here.

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You Can Buy a Copy of Meghan Markle's Second Wedding Dress for $45


It’s been six months since Meghan Markle‘s royal wedding, but no one has forgotten her two stunning wedding dresses. Her second gown, by Stella McCartney for the reception, was a fan favorite—due to its instant popularity with onlookers, the designer announced she would sell a handful of replicas for $4,700 a pop. We’ve seen some halter-neck styles on the bridal runways since, but it’s about to reach a new level of ubiquity, thanks to Cardi B favorite FashionNova.

Not-so-subtly named the Royal Debut Dress, FashionNova has released its own version of Markle’s reception gown for the jaw-dropping price of $44.99. It’s a creamy, off-white dress with a high neck and flowing trumpet skirt—except without the upon-request price tag.

Fashion Nova Royal Debut Dress, $44.99, Fashion Nova

Though we really got only a glimpse of Markle’s custom Stella McCartney look when she was exiting Windsor Castle for her wedding reception at Frogmore House, it was enough to make an impression. FashionNova’s dupe is already sold out in all sizes except for large, 2X, and 3X.

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If you’re hoping for a restock, you’re in luck: You can sign up for notifications from the store when more sizes are available again—which, why not, because $44.99.

Fashion Nova Royal Debut Dress, $44.99, Fashion Nova

So when are we getting a Fashion Nova–ified version of Markle’s Givenchy ceremony gown?

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Best Camel Coats to Buy This Fall


Camel coats might not be revolutionary but they are timeless. And, as of this year, they’ll also be forever equated with outerwear enthusiast Meghan Markle. The Duchess loves a good coat and frequently wears a camel Max Mara version and this tan one by Sentaler, both of which fit squarely into a royal budget. Luckily, there are lots of other camel coats to choose from that’ll still leave some room in your bank account for fall statement pieces like snakeskin boots or neon clothing. A camel coat is as essential this season as a teddy jacket but without all the fluff, if you prefer simplicity.

In fact, it feels as though now, more than ever, a simple, beautiful coat is something we’re all craving. This need may have to do with that Phoebe Philo/Céline-with-an-é-shaped hole left in everyone’s hearts now that Heidi Silmane took over the beloved label (he’s big on the poufy black party dresses, not so much on the classic, roomy silhouettes). You can also chalk it up the fact that so many recent trends have been very large (bags bigger than your body), very loud (highlighter green) or very out there (bike shorts worn everywhere but on a bike). A good camel coat is a calming comfort in the current fashion storm.

Whether you want the exact Max Mara Markle, a luxurious classic by Helmut Lang, a currently on sale luxury coat from Tory Burch, or an under-$100 option from H&M, there is absolutely a camel coat out there for you. Shop below for the best camel coats you can buy this fall.



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Fall Outfits for 2018 You Can Buy on Amazon


If you’re anything like me, you are currently consumed by the idea of creating all the most perfect fall outfits. As soon as I feel the first breeze of fall, I start dreaming of the fall outfit essentials–boots, thigh high socks, oversized sweaters–only to be disappointed when I can’t find them in my closet. So in the past couple of weeks, I’ve started looking for those perfect fall outfit pieces on Amazon. I’m not going to lie, I just recently got Prime three weeks ago. I am 26 years old and so this statement elicited many gasps from everyone I told. They were so appalled it was as if I told them I just watched my first episode of Sex and The City–which I actually did last week, don’t @ me–but in all seriousness it’s true, I am late.

Up until recently the only thing I spent money on was clothing. I spent the three years after graduating college living at home to save up for an apartment which meant I had no real living or food expenses. I’ve since moved into a new apartment with my boyfriend. He just moved out of his parents’ as well which means we don’t have much of anything and still can’t cook. It shouldn’t come as any surprise that we are currently sleeping on the floor (on a Casper mattress, but still!).

And so Amazon entered my life and my empty apartment. My first order was a pair of lights for our balcony that I have since broken and re-ordered. Metal straws? I have two sets of eight and a cleaning brush. A red notebook comprised entirely of grids and lines? Just wrote it in four minutes ago. A portable fabric shaver and tiny travel steamer? I haven’t seen a wrinkle or a piece of lint in days. Teeny tiny glasses specifically made for orange juice? A necessity according to absolutely no one but me.

Since my clothing collection takes up a huge chunk of the apartment (I wish I was kidding) it only makes sense that Amazon would find its way into my closet too. Sometimes my boyfriend tells me to look for “home goods” and I mistake it for “wardrobe essentials.” I just can’t help that my every other lingering thought is about what I’ll be wearing tomorrow and the next day and the day after. Recently an Amazon search for clothing hangers led to an Amazon search for white cowboy boots which led to an Amazon purchase of one of my most essential fall outfit pieces ever.

Suddenly I started to wonder (I did just watch Sex and The City ) could I buy all of my basics for my fall outfits on Amazon? The answer is hell yes. Below are 18 items I guarantee will complete, if not totally transform, all your fall outfits (and wardrobe).



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Instagram Made Me Buy It


I first encountered the pale pink dress on Instagram, where a sunkissed Gwyneth type was smiling at me from a cropped promotional square, looking happy and relaxed in a way we might call effortless. Sleeper was the name of the brand. I’d never heard of it before. Were they selling bespoke melatonin? Luxury bedding? Nighttime facial products that would give me the glow of this grinning goddess?

Turns out, none of the above. Sleeper makes “the world’s first walking sleepwear”—bedtime attire that doubles as charming daywear. Think: delicate slips that could easily go to a gala. Think: puff-sleeved linen dresses that sort of look like nightgowns but also would be appropriate at the farmers market. Think: Exactly the kind of thing that appeals to my Brooklyn-meets-prairie sensibility; a personal style preference Instagram clearly understands.

This isn’t the first time the platform has suggested a brand tailored so precisely to my tastes, or, rather, my weaknesses. I have collections of wedding bands from companies that swear they’ve “reinvented” fine jewelry, custom-blended shampoo sitting on the ledge of my shower, and a silky leopard slip skirt that I saw on so many bloggers and fashion editors I finally just gave in one night while scrolling on my phone. Each of these things came into my life via Instagram, either through targeted ads, influencers, or suggested accounts to follow. Social media seems to know exactly what I want even before I realize that I want it. Welcome to the new frontier of e-commerce.

The retail-sanctioned name for purchasing through your social media channels appears to be, appropriately, “social shopping” and it’s gaining ground fast, with Facebook leading the charge likely thanks to its massive user base: 2.23 billion monthly active users and almost 1.5 billion daily users on average as of June 2018. But for brands seeking coveted millennial shoppers that often means Instagram, a platform of choice for younger consumers and influencers—a.k.a, those who are arguably more attuned to what’s cool. Of course, the 1 billion monthly active users and 500 million daily users doesn’t hurt.

Plus, on Instagram, the shopping experience can be more pleasant than it is on Facebook, at least from an aesthetic perspective, as ads often double as aspirational lifestyle imagery.

The women I spoke with for this story all told me that they’d bought things directly from Instagram; things they’d probably never have sought out otherwise, from aesthetic dental apparatus and buzzy workout gear, to sustainable bedding, low-carb pizza crusts, and a whole lot of skincare—items some might say fit the millennial mold perfectly.

“The art of marketing is figuring out where the consumer is most receptive to your message,” says Alexa Tonner, cofounder of the New York-based marketing agency Collective.ly, who points out that, for decades, television was the ideal place to reach eyeballs. But not anymore. “[Brands are] looking for an environment where people are truly paying attention,” Tonner says. And in 2018, that place is Instagram.

Yet, while most of us can probably agree that the ads we’re served on our feeds and—as of September 2018, in Stories and on Explore—do generally suit our tastes, we probably don’t know how we’re getting them in the first place.

Let’s start with the assumption that most of us have already given up a lot of data about ourselves, whether through our social media accounts, our online browsing behavior, or our buying habits, and that the more time we spend online, the clearer our profile as consumers becomes to interested parties on the internet. We’re easy targets. That fact is both seemingly nefarious and oddly convenient.

Tonner says that the joke in her office is that if one person buys a pair of earrings on Instagram on Monday, on Tuesday the ad shows up in her colleagues’ feeds. “It can be creepy, but what’s likely is that Instagram knows that your colleague bought the earrings, and because you’re friends on [Instagram’s parent company] Facebook, they know you work at the same place if you’ve put your [employment] information out there, and so it’s not that hard to target you because they [assume] you fit the same demographic profile” she says. It’s kind of like you’ve tagged yourself with dozens of labels—your data—and brands are able to sift through and drill down on the things that you might like from there.

In my reporting, I talked to women who marveled at the way they’d compliment a friend’s bag and then somehow see it being advertised on their own Facebook page, and then their Instagram feed. Others admitted that these platforms are sometimes better at picking out things they desire than their partners, best friends, sisters, or any other humans who supposedly know us best. Sure, it can feel Big Brother-y. But whatever is going on behind the algorithmic scenes also accomplishes its mission: taking the work out of discovering things you want, which many shoppers find convenient in today’s oversaturated online retail space.

“I actually find it useful to be pushed suggestions for brands and clothing styles my social media profile has determined will be of interest,” Rose Levy, 33, who lives in New York, told me when I started canvassing. In the last three months alone, thanks to social ads and recommendations, she’s purchased: several Quips—which have been called the “Tesla” of toothbrushes—for her entire family, a nifty water bottle that disguises a bottle of beer so you can drink at the beach (her literal words when she saw the ad, right before Father’s Day, were “wow my Instagram knows my husband better than I do…”) and a Reformation swimsuit that wore her down through ads and content in her feed.

Mayer Kamatchi, the CEO of Adina’s Jewels, a three year-old jewelry label that has fast become a go-to for affordable sparkly little somethings that are innately ‘grammable, says zeroing in on target consumers has been integral to his brand’s growth strategy. “You choose exactly who you want to target. If I want to find 18 to 24-year-old females in the New York City area who drive a BMW, I can nail that customer specifically,” he says. “If you know your customer’s persona, even a small brand”—one that’s still finding its customer base—”can hit it out of the park.”

To underscore that point: Sleeper, the company behind the covetable pajamas, shared that 40% of its sales happen through Instagram. Prose, the bespoke hair care line that has developed a fan following among stylists and everyday consumers, told Glamour.com that Instagram represents 25% of total sales. Garland Collection, a fine jewelry label that also specializes in vintage pieces, attributed 35% of its 2018 sales to Instagram. Coco & Eve, a vegan cult hair mask made from raw virgin coconuts and figs, declined to share direct figures, but in an emailed comment, a representative said Instagram drives a “very high proportion of total sales organically through [their] feed,” even without the help of sponsored posts.

Which is all to say: Instagram works. Tara Dubbs, 31, is a copywriter who feels like, because she’s in the advertising business, she should know better than be sucked in. And yet: “My shoe collection is a result of targeted ads. It’s as if my Instagram knows how to infiltrate my willpower,” she says. “I do not need a deep commitment to Sunday Riley skin products. But I have one.”

Yes, it’s possible to opt out, albeit slowly: Instagram gives users the option to offer feedback (“not appropriate,” “not relevant,” or “I see it too often”) on ads, though I might sooner cut off my thumbs to spite my phone. Part of me wants the ads to slow down because of the money I’m spending, but another part can’t bear to miss out on discovering cool new stuff. It’s this conflict that makes me wonder: How are hyper-targeted advertisements, coming directly at us from our social feeds, shaping our shopping habits in the long run, and maybe even our psychology?

April Lane Benson, PhD, is a New York City-based therapist specializing in shopping addiction, as well as the author of To Buy or Not To Buy: Why We Overshop and How To Stop. She said that, while there isn’t yet enough data to understand the impact of social media on shopping addiction, her bottom line is this: “You can never get enough of what you don’t really need.” And Instagram has made trying to fill an unfillable sense of need as easy as it could possibly be.

Still, Benson stressed that there’s a big difference between impulse shopping or overspending and shopping addiction. Most ads on Instagram appeal to impulses—showing us things we want in the moment—that mirror our tastes in a way that makes them seem almost fated for our shopping baskets. A compulsion, on the other hand, is like a rule you’ve made for yourself that you have to do something (or, in this case, buy something) even if you don’t want to.

“Shopping is like any addiction: To stop doing it you have to understand why you do it: what triggers it, why you do it, what the consequences are, what the costs and the benefits of changing and continuing, knowing what your underlying authentic needs are rather than derailing them unsuccessfully by the shopping.” I asked if it’s worse that the items are in your personal feed and often tailored to you? “Absolutely,” Benson replied.

We’re also more vulnerable to buying things we don’t need than ever before. “Everyone has a smartphone, and we live on them, we give our power to them,” says Dr. Nancy Irwin, an addictions therapist at Seasons in Malibu. “The danger is that we’re on them so much, and the marketers know so much, and the ads have kind of taken over.” And, despite what we often tell ourselves, willpower isn’t a muscle that gets stronger the more you use it, adds Irwin: A lot of what drives our buying behavior happens in our unconscious mind, and that’s what’s being hijacked by our hyper-targeted feeds.

“Sometimes, you’re so sick of seeing that pink blouse that keeps cropping up that you get the fuck-its: You buy it because it’s the only way to relieve the anxiety of seeing it everywhere,” Irwin says.

Which brings me back to the pink Sleeper dress, which I haven’t hit “buy” on. Yet. It keeps showing up in my social feeds, almost teasingly. But other places as well: A friend sent me a link to it recently, with the subject line “this is so you.” I opened the email to find exactly the item I had put in my cart weeks ago, the one that continues to wear me down. When I asked my friend where she found it, she told me it found her. Obviously: On Instagram.

Elizabeth Kiefer is a New York-based writer and editor.



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Let This One Perfect Outfit Convince You to Buy a Tulle Skirt for Fall 2018


Street style can oftentimes feel formulaic: fancy dress with sneakers, pajama-like sets with heels, sleek suiting with slick boots…. It’s great for easy outfit inspiration, but it’s rare to come across a look that is stops-you-midscroll good. In recent years, though, Fashion Weeks outside of the four major cities—New York, London, Milan, and Paris—have been getting more attention, breaking up the monotony of faces and designers you often see represented in street photography and serving up even more unexpected styling ideas. Here’s one that we can’t stop thinking about, first spotted at Oslo Runway (the city’s equivalent to Fashion Week), on YouTuber Rawdah Mahamad, and then again at New York Fashion Week: a classic jeans-and-a-tee situation, made to feel instantly fancy (and a little whimsical) by the simple addition of a tulle skirt. It’s a move that’s part Carrie Bradshaw, part modern-day fashion blogger, but is incredibly accessible—you likely already own two thirds of the outfit, and can find that last third for under $100 at your favorite retailers (we’re talking Target, people).

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