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Sara Blakely Worked at Disney World, Sold Fax Machines, and Did Stand Up Comedy All Before She Founded Spanx


But it was very, very hard to keep my spirits, and mindset, in the right place. I would listen to motivational tapes all the time in my car—from people like Brian Tracy, Zig Ziglar, and Wayne Dyer—that would help me get the courage to step back into the next office building. I was getting escorted out of buildings by security, I was having people rip up my business card in my face a couple times a week. It was really intense. But it was laying the groundwork for Spanx. I didn’t know it at the time, but it was really laying the blueprint for me to be able to invent something the way that I did. Because while trying to get something made with no expertise, no background in it, and not knowing a single contact in the industry—I heard the word “no” a lot. But I was so trained to not let that stop me, that I think that’s really part of why Spanx exists.

Own your desire for success.

Two years before I cut the feet out of my pantyhose to solve an undergarment issue [the initial inspiration for Spanx] I had literally written down in my journal, after one really bad day of selling fax machines, “I’m going to invent a product that I can sell to millions of people that will make them feel good.” I asked the universe to deliver the idea to me. And for two years after that I still sold fax machines. Then one day I cut the feet out of my pantyhose, and thought, “Maybe this is my big idea.” So that’s how that happened. I just thought, “Okay, this might be my idea that I asked for. I’m going to explore this idea.”

Then I told myself, “This is crazy, Sara.” I mean, there are billion-dollar companies where people sit around all day thinking up new products. There must be a reason they didn’t think of this one. If it’s such a good idea, why doesn’t it already exist? I played a lot of mental tag with myself; going back and forth between, “You should give this a go.” Then, “No, you’re crazy, don’t bother.” But I continued to fight through the negative self-talk and the self-doubt. And I think so much of that was listening to people talk about how to control your own mindset. But that doesn’t mean I never have moments of doubt. I’m 20 years into my Spanx journey. I still have those thoughts.

Believe in yourself, even if nobody else does.

When I started my company, I’d reach out to hosiery mills—which were all run by men—asking them to manufacture Spanx. I called them all on the phone at first, and they all pretty much gave me the run around. So I took a week off of work and drove around to all these manufacturing plants that were all mostly concentrated in North Carolina. I had my lucky red backpack from college with me, and I would walk in, and they would always ask me the same three questions. They would always say, “And you are?” And I would say, “Sara Blakely.” And they’d say, “And you’re with?” And I’d say, “Sara Blakely.” And then they’d say, “You’re financially backed by?” And I’d say, “Sara Blakely.”

Some of them would just escort me out and say, “We’re not interested.” But the way that I handled it was that I used very definitive, confident language. If you’re only given 30 seconds or a minute to try to make your pitch, you need to also figure out how you can make it about who you’re presenting your idea to, and what’s in it for them. So I did that all along the way of my journey. I would say, “I’ve invented a product that’s going to definitively change the way women wear clothes. It’s going to end up becoming an enormous program for you. You have to give me the chance for this to happen. I have total confidence that you’ll end up getting a great amount of business from making this decision.”

This interview has been edited and condensed.

Samantha Leach is the associate culture editor at Glamour. Follow her on Twitter and Instagram @_sleach.



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Sara Ramirez Says She's Open to Returning to 'Grey's Anatomy' as Callie Torres One Day


Last May, Sara Ramirez announced she would be leaving Grey’s Anatomy for good, putting her among other departed Grey’s veterans like Sandra Oh and Katherine Heigl. After 10 years on the show, Callie Torres exited from Grey Sloan Memorial Hospital during the season 12 finale, making up with her ex-wife, gaining permission to see their daughter, and moving to New York to live with her girlfriend. Although her run ended on a happy note, many fans (understandably) mourned the end of Callie’s storyline.

But now, Grey’s fanatics might have a reason for celebration…well, maybe. In a new interview with Entertainment Weekly, Ramirez said she isn’t completely opposed to Callie coming back. “When Shonda [Rhimes] and I last spoke, we agreed to keep the conversations going, and she knows I’m open to keeping those conversations going,” she said. Nevertheless, she doesn’t have any regrets about leaving when she did. When asked if she thought her Grey’s departure was the right decision, she answered, “Absolutely.”

A year and a half ago, Ramirez told EW in a statement that she was leaving the Shondaland flagship to focus on other endeavors. “I’m deeply grateful to have spent the last 10 years with my family at Grey’s Anatomy and ABC, but for now I’m taking some welcome time off,” she said at the time. And since her exit, she has remained off the small screen, working instead on advocacy, outreach, and legal issues in the LGBTQ community.

“It has been a really full year,” Ramirez said. (She came out as bisexual last October.) “There were a lot of important events that I got the opportunity to be a part of.” These included participating in an ACLU-run Austin, Texas rally against anti-trans legislation, speaking about intersectionality at the Equality March in D.C., and accepting a Trailblazer Award from the LGBT Center in New York.

After such a monumental year, Ramirez made her television return on Madam Secretary on Sunday, where she debuted a new character, Kat Sandoval, who is a political strategist that took time off until she returned to the State Department. She hasn’t given any more intel on Callie’s potential return, but if Cristina, Izzie, and George’s post-exit “cameos” were anything to go by, there’s a possibility we might see Callie a lot sooner than we expect.

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After Exposing 'Lui' for Sexual Harassment, Sara Sampaio Demands Accountability


When Victoria’s Secret Angel Sara Sampaio posted to Instagram on October 19, the world took notice. In a six-part post, the model shared a detailed account alleging that French men’s magazine Lui published nude photos of the model without her consent. Sampaio said that she agreed to the shoot so long as no nudity was involved—yet the magazine ignored her terms and took them anyway. Sampaio’s story was another addition to the list of women who have come out swinging for obvious reasons. And by calling out the specific publication and men who violated her consent, she made an important message clear: She’s going to hold her harassers accountable.

Since sharing her statement two weeks ago, the post has accumulated over 3,000 comments, and furthered the conversation about sexual harassment started by fellow model Cameron Russell’s #MyJobShouldNotIncludeAbuse campaign. Today, Sampaio will take the stage at Portugal’s Web Summit conference to discuss abuse in the modeling industry and the activism we’ve seen from celebrities this year. Ahead of her appearance, Sampaio exclusively shared with Glamour why she chose to speak up about Liu, what she’s heard from other models since coming forward, and how she hopes the industry can learn from her experience.

Glamour: Tell us about your decision to share that Lui had published nude photos of you without your consent. How did it feel to go public with your account?

Sara Sampaio: Honestly, I was hesitant; I didn’t know how people would react or if they would understand my point. I had been thinking about doing it for a few weeks. Then when I started to see all of the brave women speaking out about harassment and Cameron Russell sharing anonymous stories of abuse in the fashion industry on her Instagram, it made me realize I could do something important by sharing my own story.

Publicizing my experience with Lui is about choice. There was a clear agreement in place for there to be no nudity on the shoot, which Lui violated. It was put in place to protect me and my choice about my body and my image. I’ve been modeling for a while now, and realized if something like this could happen to me, I can’t imagine what is happening to young models who feel like they have no voice. Regardless of success or status, everyone has the right to make their own choices and be respected.

My hope was that by sharing my story, I would be able to protect other models from having a similar experience. I felt that it was important to call Lui out by name and to hold them accountable for their actions.

Glamour: What has the response been like since you shared your story? What is the most meaningful response you’ve received?

Sampaio: I’ve been sincerely overwhelmed with so much support, in which I wasn’t expecting. All I wanted to do was prevent the same situation from happening to someone else. Seeing so many of my model friends and colleagues commenting and texting and thanking me for speaking out, sharing their own relatable stories with me, brought me to tears. It felt good to know we could all support each other.

Glamour: You’re speaking on a panel about the modern-day model at the Web Summit, and it seems that models are leveraging social media more than ever to speak out. How has social media changed the way that you interact with your industry?

Sampaio: Social media has had a huge impact on the industry. Models now have voices. We are connected directly to millions of people, and we are no longer just pretty faces modeling clothes. This has allowed us to reach a broad audience. This platform for models to connect directly with their fans has started to shift the power dynamic in the industry, but there’s still a long way to go. I think we are heading in the right direction, as more people start to see the value in inviting models in the creative and collaborative process.

Glamour: How do you think that opening up about your experience will change the modeling industry for the better?

Sampaio: I think we, as an industry, need to hold people accountable for their actions. I want people to realize that models have a voice, and a powerful one at that. I want all models to be treated with more respect because that’s what we all want—basic respect and to not be treated like objects with no will. I hope that models can be more empowered to say ‘no’ or give their opinion without being labeled as difficult. Modeling should be a collaboration. If the makeup artist, hair dresser, photographer and stylist all contribute, why can’t models? Why are we told to be quiet and do what we’re told?

Glamour: What changes do you think need to be made in the modeling industry to avoid further cases of harassment and abuse?

Sampaio: I think communication is key. I think people in the industry need to listen more and not look the other way when someone has a voice. We need to stop sending girls and boys to photographers or professionals who are known to be abusive. There should be a much more controlled environment in place for young models to protect them, and this should be led and supported by professionals in the industry. We need to create an environment in which models feel safe sharing information about their on-set experiences, instead of being silenced. Clients also have a responsibility to stop working with abusive photographers, stylists or any other industry players.

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Sara Sampaio Says French Magazine Published Nude Photos Without Her Consent


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Portuguese model and Victoria’s Secret Angel Sara Sampaio is ready to name names when it comes to sexual harassment in the workplace.

In an impassioned multiphoto Instagram post, Sampaio recounted a recent experience she had while working on an assignment with the French men’s magazine Lui. As the magazine’s autumn cover star, she agreed to appear under the strict condition of not being photographed nude. “My agency and I insisted on having a clear agreement in place to protect myself in order to control the choice I made around not being shot nude,” she wrote. However, even with this clause seemingly being agreed to, Sampaio says she was allegedly “aggressively” pressured by the Lui staffers on set to pose nude anyway—and when nudity managed to get by in few photos, Sampaio says the magazine used those images in the final spread against her will.

“Throughout the shoot day, I needed to constantly defend myself and reiterate my boundaries with no nude images, making sure I covered myself as best as I could,” she continued. “While reviewing the final images taken, I noticed that there were accidental exposures with parts of my body that I didn’t want exposed. I spoke up and was assured that those images would not be used. The magazine lied and proceeded to publish a cover image of me with nudity, which was in clear violation of our agreement.”

This wasn’t the first violation Sampaio says she’s experienced. “On many occasions where the shoot was to not have nudity, I would arrive on set and the photographer or stylist would pressure, cajole, or demand that I pose nude because I had done it in the past,” she continued in her Instagram post. But just because she consented to posing nude in the past didn’t equate to her wanted to do it in the present. “Many times, I was shown nude images of myself as examples to coerce me into posing nude, and whenever I stood my ground and refused, I was criticized and judged as being difficult.”

As a result of her mistreatment at Lui, Sampaio says that she, her agency, and her attorney are pursuing legal action against the magazine. “What they did to me is unacceptable,” she concludes. “I feel violated, mistreated, and disrespected as a professional and as a woman.”

Sampaio’s Instagram comes after the #MeToo social media movement, in which women (and occasionally men) are detailing how they’ve been sexually harassed and assaulted throughout their lives. It was birthed last week from news that Hollywood mogul Harvey Weinstein has allegedly mistreated and harassed women for decades.



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