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Sexual Assault Survivors on 'The Bachelor' Sharing Caelynn Miller-Keyes' Story


The following article, based on this week’s episode of The Bachelor, could be triggering for anyone who’s experienced sexual assault. If you or someone you know need help, call RAINN’s hotline at 800-656-HOPE (4673).

On the surface, the fourth episode of Colton Underwood’s season of The Bachelor was entirely typical. There were two romantic one-on-one dates, a chaotic group date, a trip to a stunning location, and the usual “villain” drama. That all shifted, though, when contestant Caelynn Miller-Keyes opened up to Colton about being sexually assaulted in college. This was different from anything we’ve seen from the franchise before, and The Bachelor got this #MeToo moment right.

During her date with Colton, Caelynn shared every painful detail of her story as she described being drugged and assaulted at a party during her sophomore year of college. “I woke up the next morning completely naked in my bed and had no memory of the night before,” she says. “I had a small vision of a guy in my bed, and I just had this pit in my stomach that something really bad happened last night.” Caelynn says she later learned through a friend what had happened, and that another student allegedly lifted her skirt and took Snapchat photos. “It was horrible,” she says. Her assailant, she says, was expelled from school but faced no other charges.

Caelynn explained that she tried to get a rape kit but said she was turned away from the first hospital she visited. “The reporting process is a lot more difficult than people realize. I had no idea what to do,” she told People in a later interview. “I was completely stranded, I was completely alone. I didn’t even think it was possible to be turned away from a hospital. Thankfully, I had a good support system and people went to a second hospital with me and I was able to get a rape kit and speak to authorities and go through that process. But it’s a lot more difficult than it seems.” (In addition to Caelynn’s experience, there’s a noted backlog of untested rape kits across the country, which interferes with prosecuting perpetrators of rape and assault.)

Caelynn’s story matters for a lot of reasons—but in the context of The Bachelor, it hopefully marks a turning point for how the franchise will address issues of sexual assault going forward. After all, this show doesn’t have the best track record. In 2017 the spinoff series Bachelor in Paradise was steeped in controversy when a producer brought forward sexual assault allegations regarding two contestants, Corinne Olympios and DeMario Jackson. Much of the public discourse surrounding Olympios was full of slut-shaming, and while the series did attempt to clear the air with a televised conversation about consent led by host Chris Harrison, the entire situation left a bad taste in many viewers’ mouths.

Last year news broke that The Bachelorette contestant Lincoln Adim had been convicted of indecent assault and battery. Warner Bros., the studio behind the franchise, issued a statement saying the production was unaware of the charges when he was cast. But the show never addressed the controversy; Adim was excluded from the “Men Tell All” special.

But Monday’s episode was poignant for many viewers, especially those who are sexual assault survivors—and there are likely many of them. According to RAINN, one out of every six American women (and three percent of men) have been the victims of an attempted or completed rape. What’s more, the vast majority of sexual assaults go unreported; out of every 1,000 sexual assaults, only 230 are ever reported to the police.

Anna, 25, a sexual assault survivor who asked Glamour to withhold her name for privacy reasons, said she “couldn’t breathe” while watching Caelynn tell her story. Like the Bachelor contestant, Anna woke up after a party with no memory of the previous night’s events but later had flashbacks of being assaulted by a coworker. “I never got a rape kit done, and I still have no solid conclusion as to what happened that night,” she says. “I fell into a deep depression for a couple years, but I’ve been able to slowly come out of it more recently.”



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Bohemian Rhapsody Tells the True Story of Mary Austin, Freddie Mercury's Soulmate


Bohemian Rhapsody follows Queen lead singer Freddie Mercury and his rise to worldwide stardom through the songs that made the “band of misfits” a household name. But there’s a lesser-known story in the film too, one about Mercury’s one-time fiancé and “soulmate” Mary Austin. Mercury was queer, yes, but Austin was unquestionably the love of his life. To this day, she’s reportedly the only person who knows where Mercury’s cremated remains are buried; she also still owns the London mansion he gifted her.

While many will watch Bohemian Rhapsody for its mesmerizing music and performances—and there’s plenty of that—I was fascinated by the deep dive into Mercury and Austin’s decades-long friendship and love. Rami Malek, who plays Mercury, even calls Austin the heart of the movie. “There’s a part of me that feels we would not have the Freddie Mercury we have today without Mary, and vice versa,” he tells Glamour.com. “That relationship was so vital to him—and to her. They were soulmates.”

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Mercury met Austin early in his career, and—as the film shows—she urged the rocker to embrace his sexuality and larger-than-life persona. “It was just such a relief to read [their dialogue in the script],” Lucy Boynton, who plays Austin, says. She’s referring to a scene that shows Austin encouraging Mercury to embrace his desire to wear feminine clothing. “We’re in a place now where we’re trying to be more forward thinking about the fluidity of existence, so to read this and know it was just how Freddie and Mary were [is so wonderful].”

While producer Graham King considers Austin to be Mercury’s muse, Malek doesn’t see her that way. “She’s so much more than that,” he explains. “To inspire someone, to give them someone they can depend on, relate to, and share the most intimate secrets with is something they did for one another. Between the two of them, they could be their most authentic selves. That’s a bond you rarely have in life.”

Case in point: Even after Mercury finally came out to Austin, ending their romantic relationship, she remained a huge part of his life. “Her strength was the biggest lesson for me,” Boynton says. “When you love someone absolutely and want them to be their truest self—even though that means losing them in some capacity—that is the most important thing. The fact that she was able to be so cognizant of that and put her feelings of loss over the love of her life, but then manage it so they were able to stay in each other’s lives in such close capacity…that strength is very admirable.”

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King echoes this, saying, “Freddie and Mary were so above their time. Part of the reason why I wanted to make this film was I wanted to show a young audience how Freddie lived his life. I remember showing my youngest daughter, who was 21 at the time, an early cut of the film. She said, ‘Dad, any kid 12 and up who is confused on their sexuality, confused at their life, will look at this movie as a guidance.’ That to me was the best compliment I could get about the Freddie/Mary and Freddie story. That’s what we looked to create.”

Boynton agrees. “I think [their relationship] shows us that love is a color spectrum,” she says. “As soon as we stop trying to put boxes and labels to every relationship and dynamic, we’ll be so much more liberated and at peace. That’s one of the biggest takeaways. If you stop trying to restrict yourself by defining yourself and love in other people’s terms, it’s the most liberating thing.”

The real Mary Austin, now in her late 60s, has remained out of the public eye, but King says she did read the script for Bohemian Rhapsody. “She is very private, and we want to respect her as much as possible,” he says. “[The biggest thing for me was] having that sympathetic view with Freddie and Mary.”

That privacy is why Boynton has never met Austin, but she hopes she eventually sees the film. “It’s such an incredibly powerful story to tell that reminds people to be your absolute self, as Freddie so seemingly effortlessly did,” she explains. “I think now more than ever that’s something we can afford to have drilled back into us.”

It’s also why King was intent on Bohemian Rhapsody receiving a PG-13 rating instead of R. “I want a young audience to discover who Freddie Mercury was,” he says. “I want people to walk out with the feeling that one can go through so much adversity in their life, but go out on top. The end becomes a real celebration of his life and what he went through, beginning with an immigrant kid who was bullied and then makes it against all odds.”

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“He’s a revolutionary,” Malek adds. “He’s this extremely complicated human being. Our deficits are not necessarily deficits at all. What this story will hopefully do is allow people to be more of their authentic self. Perhaps I got a drop or two of that from this [experience] as well.”



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The Romantic Story Behind That Photo Prince Harry Took of Meghan Markle


Kensington Palace posted a photo of Meghan Markle to its Instagram page yesterday, November 1, that Prince Harry took. It’s a stunning shot: The Duchess of Sussex is standing in the middle of a forest in Rotorua and cradling her baby bump. A giant Redwood tree is right next to her, as well, so people can really see the magnitude of their surroundings. The photo was taken on the tail-end of the couple’s royal tour across Australia, New Zealand, Fiji, and Tonga—a trip that Markle said left her and Prince Harry “inspired and reminded of how every single one of us can make a difference.”

And now, we know the story behind that beautiful photo. Omid Scobie, a royals reporter, was accompanying Markle and Prince Harry the day they took the pic and spilled the tea on Twitter. “At the end of our last tour engagement, Harry and Meghan walked ahead of their team, security and myself (who was the pool reporter). We were in the beautiful Whakarewarewa Forest and they wanted a moment to themselves. This photo, taken by Harry, was the result of that moment,” Scobie tweeted.

As for how Prince Harry snapped the pic, Scobie says both he and Markle are iPhone users.

This royal tour has been a bit of a whirlwind for Markle and Prince Harry. Right before they started it, Kensington Palace confirmed the couple is expecting their first child together. “Their Royal Highnesses The Duke and Duchess of Sussex are very pleased to announce that The Duchess of Sussex is expecting a baby in the Spring of 2019,” the palace posted on Twitter and Instagram October 15. “Their Royal Highnesses have appreciated all of the support they have received from people around the world since their wedding in May and are delighted to be able to share this happy news with the public.”

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Kim Kardashian Just Apologized for Using the R-Word on Her Instagram Story


Kim Kardashian found herself in the middle of a social media controversy on Thursday (November 1) after using insensitive language in one of her Halloween Instagram Stories.

In the posts from her sister Kendall Jenner’s Halloween party, Kardashian is dressed in a Pamela Anderson costume with best friend Jonathan Cheban as Anderson’s ex-husband Tommy Lee. It’s a very famous, but super specific, look from the 1999 MTV Video Music Awards that apparently didn’t resonate with many of the younger partygoers. “Nobody knew who we were,” Kardashian says in a video post. “You are all too f***ing young. This is so sad.” Then, in a now-deleted Story, she told former assistant Stephanie Shepherd, “Nobody knows who I am” before dropping the R-word.

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The backlash to the R-word—which is offensive to the special needs community—was pretty immediate, and Kardashian has now apologized via a statement to TMZ. “I want to apologize for what I said in a recent video post that is inappropriate and insensitive to the special needs community,” she said. “I try to learn from my mistakes and this is one of those times. Please know that my intention is always pure, and in this case, it was a mistake. I’m sorry.”

Social media users and fans were upset that Kardashian used that word. Some even posted photos of their special needs children to express their pain about hearing the R-word. Others compared its use to calling one of Kardashian and Kanye West’s children the N-word.

“Imagine someone calling your child the N word,” one person wrote. “That’s how It feels when you say [the R-word] like you are insulting my 2 children with special needs.”

Kim’s sister Khloe also had to apologize for using the R-word in July 2018. Hopefully both she and Kim have learned a lesson about how much pain that word gives people.

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Busy Philipps Is 'Bummed' at How the Media Is Covering Her Story About James Franco


Busy Philipps‘s brand-new memoir, This Will Only Hurt a Little, has earned rave reviews from countless friends and fans since its release earlier this month. But on Thursday night’s episode of Watch What Happens Live, the actor expressed some dismay at the level of coverage a certain excerpt is receiving.

In one section of her memoir, Philipps details the abuse she allegedly suffered at the hands of James Franco when they both starred on the show Freaks and Geeks as teenagers. Philipps told Cohen that she was disappointed by the media’s incessant coverage of the story, not only because it overshadowed the rest of her book, but also because it put so much attention on a man’s story rather than on the woman who wrote that story. “It really bummed me out because I felt like, I’m a woman in this industry who wrote a very personal book about my experiences in life and in this industry,” she said, “and the headlines were all about a man. I was like, that was my point the whole time.”

The incident in question allegedly happened on the Freaks and Geeks set, during a scene where her character hit Franco’s character in the chest. That action, she wrote, prompted him to scream, “Don’t ever touch me again” at Philipps before allegedly throwing her to the ground. Philipps told Cohen that Franco had apologized and that she hasn’t spoken to the actor in some time. She added that she was particularly surprised by the reaction to the Franco story because she’d actually already told the story on, coincidentally, a previous episode of Watch What Happens Live.

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Philipps also addressed the issue on Instagram earlier this month. “My book is 308 pages, not one paragraph,” she wrote. “The Franco story is used to illustrate a larger point about the way women are treated in this business and in life. There are no ‘allegations’ and no ‘accusations.’ It’s a story that I have been telling for years. James apologized. I accepted.”

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The Story Behind Susan Alexandra, Instagram's Favorite Handbag Brand


Nothing captures the essence of Susan Korn’s accessories label, Susan Alexandra, like the designer’s favorite creation: the Merry bag.

“That’s M-E-R-R-Y,” Korn spells out for me over the phone. Named for her mother, the handmade bag is small—8 inches by 9 inches—and boxy, with a square base and two top handles. Its simple construction allows for its most striking quality to shine: rainbow-colored, crystalline beads stacked in neat, sparkling rows.

It’s a bag that’s nostalgic. A version wouldn’t be wildly out of place in your grandmother’s closet or inside a kid’s dress-up bin thanks to just the right amount of kitsch and delight—two concepts that have found their way into fashion at this moment

“I designed it just thinking of pure, unadulterated joy,” Korn tells me. “I was thinking of sprinkles on a birthday cake when you’re little, and I was thinking of Christmas lights, and I was thinking of different sequins.” In other words, the bag—and really, all of Korn’s bags—“has all these things that just make your heart skip a beat,” she says.

The brand has been well-known in fashion circles for some time—it’s sold at Opening Ceremony and on Shopbop.com—but a key celebrity placement introduced Merry to the masses.

Late last June, Gigi Hadid shared an Instagram of herself on a boat in Mykonos, her Merry bag perched in the foreground. The picture was, as Korn told me, a “milestone” for the brand, as it would be for any designer—Hadid currently has 43.6 million Instagram followers. The rest is social media history.

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Susan Alexandra Ma Cherie bag, $275, available at Moda Operandi

Demand for Susan Alexandra is high—there’s currently an online waiting list for the next re-stock of the Merry bag—but Korn promises the craftsmanship makes the wait worthwhile: Every product is made by hand; it takes up to six weeks for Korn and her small team to piece together the 1,500-odd beads it takes to make a single unit. Then, of course, there’s the unrivaled happiness of wearing something so unabashedly fun.


Before designing the boxy bags which have expanded from rainbow beads to include a bunch of quirky motifs, like fruit prints and cowhide, Korn worked in the jewelry space. She assisted New York-based jewelry Jill Platner for a few years, before leaving to launch her own jewelry business.

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Susan Alexandra Lisa bag, $265, available at Susan Alexandra

It was a practical starting point for a designer who worked from her Chinatown apartment: “We’re in New York, no one has a lot of space, and jewelry is small,” she explains. “It’s something that I could make from my bedroom and then eventually expand further through my apartment.”

Korn managed to pack a ton of personality into the tiny items, which she still sells on her website. All her pieces use color enthusiastically; some have a clear sense of humor (like the bracelet she made for one of the “major loves of her life,” painted with a miniature likeness of Curb Your Enthusiasm star Larry David.)

When her jewelry business began to pick up, around 2017, Korn found the room to grow Susan Alexandra. Enter: the beaded bags, which range from $50 to $385.

“I carry a purse every single day. It’s part of my uniform,” Korn says. Just because it’s a necessity, however, doesn’t mean it needs to look utilitarian. “I feel like everything in your life should have meaning and be special, and the bags are just my version of what a purse should be.”

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Susan Alexandra Ash bag, $360, available at Shopbop

It’s not just that the bags are sentimental—they’re a response to the world as Korn sees it. “I live in a city that is pretty dirty, pretty tough,” she says. “So, at the end of the day, I’ll be sitting on the subway and just look down at my purse and I just feel sort of a sense of delight and calm. It’s my personal antidote to such a strange time that we’re living in.”

Korn’s bags, then, are a little slice of childhood; they evoke the time when serious, “grown-up” issues weren’t on her radar. “They’re very simple and sweet,” Korn explains. “It sort of harkens to a simpler, sweeter time when we’re so inundated with all this dark fear and bleakness.”

Susan Alexandra’s brand of optimism has generational appeal, the designer says: “I’ll have people say that their grandma is obsessed, and that their little cousin is obsessed, so it really attracts people from all over the spectrum.”

“I think there’s just something very human about loving bright color and sparkle,” she says.

If the Gigi’s and Bella’s of Instagram keep buying up her whimsical bags, that’s fine with Korn. She’ll still consider it a personal highlight to sell her bags to anyone who finds joy in them, no matter their follower count.

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Designer Susan Korn.

“I think what’s most surreal is looking through my tagged photos and seeing women literally from all over the world […] just such interesting, varied, wonderful people wearing the bags,” she says. “As an artist and as a designer, your dream is to touch a lot of lives and touch a lot of people.”





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