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Cameron Russell Speaks at Glamour's Women of the Year Live Summit


Cameron Russell took to the stage at Glamour‘s Women of the Year Live Summit to talk about why and how we have to hold men accountable for their actions—especially in the modeling industry, where women are often treated as less than human.

Standing in front of a giant banner bearing the words, “We Do Not Consent,” Russell said: “People rarely spend time together without speaking, but that is what modeling is. Being in front of the camera is being silent and still finding a way to communicate, to build a relationship, to become someone without words. The silence required by my job is often mistaken for being voiceless. The assumption is that I have nothing to say. Sometimes I believed that, too. There were many moments when I found myself speechless.”

She went on to enumerate the incidents of sexual assault she experienced at the hands of powerful men in the modeling world. There was the time a man kissed her when she was 16. And the time a casting agent said he couldn’t book her because she was a virgin. Once, someone told her he couldn’t be sure if he liked her until he saw her naked.

When news broke about Harvey Weinstein’s years of sexual harassment against women, Russell began using her Instagram account to help other models share anonymous stories about their own experiences with sexual abuse in the fashion industry.

“I received too many to post, so I asked for help. And again, I saw what real power can be,” Russell said. “Real power is the 70 volunteers who said they would continue to help break the silence by posting the voices of the most vulnerable, even if it didn’t get them the most likes, even if it made the people who decide whether or not they have a job tomorrow uncomfortable.”

She concluded by saying, We [women] are the majority, and although we don’t always have the titles or the resumes or the wealth, what we do have is of much greater value. We have the power to make a much more livable world.”

Watch the video above, then read the entire speech, below.

Good morning. My name is Cameron Russell and I’ve worked as a model for the last fifteen years.

At its best, modeling is a creative partnership.

Models must be trusting. We must find a way to submit to someone else’s creative vision and direction, so that when they tell us to close our eyes, arch our back, open our lips, we do it for them. We breathe in for them, out for them. And when we open our eyes and look into the camera, it’s to look at them. And when they tell us to jump, to dance, to laugh, we do it unrestrained. Other times, it’s being vulnerable enough to lead, and expose real feeling. There’s no script in modeling, the model must own their performance.

People rarely spend time together without speaking, but that is what modeling is. Being in front of the camera is being silent and still finding a way to communicate, to build a relationship, to become someone without words.

The silence required by my job is often mistaken for being voiceless. The assumption is that I have nothing to say.

…And sometimes I believed that too. There were many moments when I found myself speechless. Like when

______ said we need to shoot a Lolita story on you. I thought, don’t they know that was a story about rape? But I said nothing.

_____ kissed me when I was 16. So quickly I thought maybe I did the fashion double kiss wrong. Did he like you? my agent asked. Maybe, I said. But we didn’t shoot again.

_____ massaged my shoulders and told me I was jailbait. No man had ever touched me before so I wondered, is this what it’s supposed to be like.

________ told me they wouldn’t book me because I was a virgin.

My job was to be their wildest dream. Because there were, we were constantly reminded, a million girls in line behind us who would do anything to take our place.

______ said he wasn’t sure he liked me until he watched me get naked to change looks. He said, I thought you were too much of a prude before, like the other girl. She’s never been kissed.

______ served alcohol to a minor. Was more than twice my age. Was my boss. I said no, but then, I said nothing.

Even when I knew _________ , ______, _____ were predators I said yes, I’ll work with them, because it felt like they all were.

________ published pictures of me exposed, even though he promised to retouch them. When I message him, he says he remembers our agreement but it just didn’t work artistically.

Yes, he’s creepy, said an agent, but he’s a genius behind the camera.

_______ pressured me to appear nude against my contract, I said no, he trailed his hand along my back and let me know he was separated from his wife, and I smiled because money was on the line.

I did not consent to any of this. No permission was requested, so none existed to give.

Nor did I acquiesce, there were acts of protest.

Nor compromise, no dispute was ever formally acknowledged by both parties, intermediaries struck the bargain.

I think the correct word is tolerate. What is the difference between tolerating and consenting? Choice.

Without tolerating these things, I couldn’t work in this industry, couldn’t have gone to my professors’ office hours when I was in college, and I couldn’t go to parties or take the subway.

The question is: What choices do we have? When whether you wanted to be a movie star or the President of the United States, you had to tolerate Harvey Weinstein, studio exec and one of the biggest donors to democratic campaigns.

If you want to be a supermodel. If you want to be a partner in a law firm, or an artist, or an entrepreneur. Or if you simply want to earn a living.…at the end of the day, way too many of the gatekeepers are abusing their power.

What is consent if the law protects him before it protects you? If you can’t speak his name because YOU will be sued. If you can’t speak his name because YOU will be fired, blacklisted, and called a problem.

What is consent when the fashion industry is 80% women but the women are almost never in charge? What is consent when worldwide 1 in 7 women who work outside the home are employed somewhere in the fashion supply chain and the majority of them do not make a livable wage? When most of these women are women of color, and yet the CEOs of all the biggest fast fashion companies and luxury brands are all men, and mostly white men? When 98% of agency represented photographers are men. 71% of creative directors are men? When there is almost no place where the women, doing the bulk of the labor, are in charge?

What is consent when selling my body and my face to the men in charge made me more money than my mother made building a company that changed an industry. Do you know other ways a young woman can come into this money? This celebrity? This access?

In seeking to get behind the gates, I tolerated harm to myself, and I was complacent in a system that too often exploits women. I didn’t think there were alternatives. I thought if I wanted to make change, first I had to be on top.

I recognize now that many others speak out with far fewer resources and far more severe consequences. It would be irresponsible of me to come up here and not acknowledge all those who have been working towards change, for years before me and at much greater personal and professional cost. Now I have the luxury of not having to care what the gatekeepers think when I start to ask: why am I waiting for their gates to open?

Why is it we want little girls to grow up to have the jobs these power hungry men have?

I wanted to be president when I was a kid. I had my favorites. When I was old enough to ask about their flaws, I was told they were “products of their time.” For example, the fact that FDR had been responsible for Japanese internment camps was unfortunate, but we learned mostly about the brilliance of the New Deal. Only later would I learn the real architect of labor protections was Frances Perkins, the first female cabinet secretary. Only later would I learn what an influence Eleanor Roosevelt had. Only later would I learn of Pauli Murray, the queer black woman who was a longtime advisor to Eleanor, and Thurgood Marshall, who was, in 1941, the only woman in her Howard Law School class, whose student paper provided the framework for the Brown v. Board victory. She knew exactly what was right and wrong. Was she not also a product of her time?

Have you ever let yourself think, maybe we shouldn’t all be looking at the predator-in-chief when he can’t get a single useful thing done?

I start to find my voice when I start to see these alternatives. When I realize the power of these few men isn’t the only power in the world. And more importantly, their power isn’t the kind that can heal, or love, or make the world more just and free.
The power of these predators is entirely structural. They cannot move people with their words or their work. They can barely make eye contact. They are not so creative, nor so uniquely talented. They are not irreplaceable. It is only because we have suppressed the vast majority that they appear this way.

There are other photographers. Jody, Christelle, Yumna, Shaniqwa, June, Jade, Zoe, Carlotta, Nadine, Oumayma, Amanda, Danielle, Amaal, Gabriela. There are other stylists, Jessica, Anatolli, Jamie, Tess. There are other creative directors. Hawa, Ashley, and Yasmin. Casting directors like Nafisa and Gilleon. Directors like Imani and Kate. Producers like Amy and Sylvia. I could keep going all day.

A month ago a friend and fellow model sent me her story of sexual abuse on set, and said, I want people to know what’s happening in our industry because I don’t want this to continue. She asked me to share it anonymously on Instagram. Less than 48 hours later, hundreds of individuals, inspired by her act of bravery, came forward too, with their stories to challenge the status quo.They told me of rapes and groping, requests for sexual favors, unwanted massage, they told me of agents who told them to stay quiet even if they were just 14, 15, or 16.

And I saw real power is making yourself vulnerable. Real power is the hundreds who came forward, even if it was painful, even if they had nothing to gain.

I received too many to post, so I asked for help. And again, I saw what real power can be. Real power is the 70 volunteers who said they would continue to help break the silence by posting the voices of the most vulnerable, even if it didn’t get them the most likes, even if it made the people who decide whether or not they have a job tomorrow uncomfortable.

It looks like we are the majority, and although we may not have the titles or the resumes or the most whiteness, maleness, straightness or wealth…what we do have is of far greater value. We have the power to make a more livable world.



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Lupita Nyong’o Speaks Out About Harvey Weinstein


Oscar winner Lupita Nyong’o is the latest woman to come forward with allegations of sexual harassment and assualt against Hollywood producer Harvey Weinstein in a New York Times op-ed published Thursday.

“I have been following the news and reading the accounts of women coming forward to talk about being assaulted by Harvey Weinstein and others,” she wrote. “I had shelved my experience with Harvey far in the recesses of my mind, joining in the conspiracy of silence that has allowed this predator to prowl for so many years … I had felt very much alone when these things happened, and I had blamed myself for a lot of it, quite like many of the other women who have shared their stories.”

Nyong’o details several meetings with the disgraced producer, starting with a 2011 awards ceremony in Berlin when she was a student at the Yale School of Drama. “A woman who was a producer herself cautiously advised me to ‘keep Harvey in your corner,’” Nyong’o wrote. “She said: ‘He is a good man to know in the business, but just be careful around him. He can be a bully.”

The actress says Weinstein invited her to lunch, where he tried to coerce her into drinking alcohol. “‘Let’s cut to the chase. I have a private room upstairs where we can have the rest of our meal.” I was stunned. I told him I preferred to eat in the restaurant. He told me not to be so naïve. If I wanted to be an actress, then I had to be willing to do this sort of thing. He said he had dated Famous Actress X and Y and look where that had gotten them.'”

“‘You have no idea what you are passing up,’” he said. “With all due respect, I would not be able to sleep at night if I did what you are asking, so I must pass,” I replied.”

The producer later invited Nyong’o to a private screening at his home in Connecticut. Minutes into it, Nyong’o wrote, Weinstein brought her up to his bedroom and told her he was going to give her a massage.

She explained how she offered to give him one instead and left his home when he attempted to remove his pants.

“I share all of this now because I know now what I did not know then. I was part of a growing community of women who were secretly dealing with harassment by Harvey Weinstein,” she wrote. “But I also did not know that there was a world in which anybody would care about my experience with him.”

Lupita also wrote, “Now that we are speaking, let us never shut up about this kind of thing. I speak up to make certain that this is not the kind of misconduct that deserves a second chance. I speak up to contribute to the end of the conspiracy of silence.”

Earlier this month, several reports alleged the Hollywood producer had sexually harassed or assaulted a number of women, including Gwyneth Paltrow, Angelina Jolie, Rosanna Arquette, Mira Sorvino, and Italian actress Asia Argento—said they also were harassed by Weinstein, who was fired from The Weinstein Company in October.

Read Lupita’s entire op-ed here.



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Michelle Obama Speaks Out Against Donald Trump Without Even Saying His Name


Michelle Obama usually avoids explicitly calling out Donald Trump, but she’s found subtler ways to make her opinion clear. During a conversation with Shonda Rhimes at the Pennsylvania Conference for Women on Tuesday, she got in a sharp jab at Trump without even naming him.

“Many of the young people today, they only know Barack Obama as their president and what that standard felt like and what kind of messages were being talked about,” she said. “They grew up only under hope and possibility and options and opportunity and creating more space. … I think they will feel some of what’s happening now as intrinsically not what they were taught.”

That doesn’t mean, however, that Trump has shaped the next generation’s worldview. In fact, she thinks young people have the potential to change things. “They are more open, in ways,” she said. “I think they are less tolerant of obvious inequities. I think that this generation will look at what is happening now in the world and they will say, ‘This doesn’t feel right because this wasn’t what I was taught.'”

But she didn’t just take aim at Trump. One source of the problem, she said, is a lack of diversity in Congress, especially among Republicans. “It’s a feeling of color, almost,” she said. “On one side of the room, it’s literally gray and white, literally, that’s the color palette on one side of the room. On the other side of the room, there’s yellows and blues and whites and greens. Physically, there’s a difference in color in the tone. Because one side, all men, all white. On the other side, some women, some people of color.”

In order to get a more diverse, forward-thinking group of people into politics, the Obama Presidential Center will support the development of young leaders, particularly women, she added.

Obama most famously called out Trump without naming him at the Democratic National Convention last year, where she explained how she teaches her daughters to process what’s happening in the news. “How we urge them to ignore those who question their father’s citizenship or faith,” she said. “How we insist that this hateful language they hear from public figures on TV does not represent the true spirit of this country. How we explain that when someone is cruel or acts like a bully, you don’t stoop to their level. No, our motto is: when they go low, we go high.”



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Megyn Kelly Speaks Out Against Gun Control After Las Vegas Shooting


Megyn Kelly Today was preempted for NBC’s coverage of the shooting that killed at least 59 people and injured at least 527 in Las Vegas the night before. But on Tuesday, Kelly went on air to address the attack. First, she expressed how upset she was to hear about the news. But then, she pivoted to some controversial statements about gun control.

“Now we inevitably struggle, in vain, to make sense of it all, trying to rationalize an irrational act,” she said. “I think we feel like finding the motive will help us understand better, help us feel like the next one may be preventable, if we can only understand this one. But the truth is, we never really change anything after these situations, do we? And the mass murders keep coming. They keep coming and they come and they come, over and over again. So many now that we stop and say ‘oh, god,’ when we see it, then we move on, perhaps a little too quickly.”

She continued, “I do feel helpless in these times. Do you? The mental health laws are not going to change, and we know it. The gun laws? Right. And even if they did change, you would still get people like this guy and we know it. From the look of things, this is a guy who was a lone shooter, no history of violence, no record, no red flags, no anything. No anything in this case, not yet anyway. A retired accountant who had a girlfriend, who was supposedly happy, decided to murder a group of innocent people here in the land of the free. So how exactly do we make sense of that?”

Her guest, journalist Tom Brokaw, expressed a different opinion. “We are where we are because of the power of people who wanted these kinds of guns, and the NRA managed to organize them and get them as a political force in America,” he said. “We’re a long way away from that second amendment in which we said that a well regulated militia is important to our country.”

Kelly cut him off “Got it. Gotta leave it at that, Tom. Thank you to our entire panel. We’re up against a hard break, apologies Tom Brokaw,” she said. “Sorry, they’re wrapping me hard because we got a hard break coming up. But listen, this debate will not end now. There are people who defend the second amendment who believe you can’t legislate against evil, and those who believe we have to have an honest conversation. Gotta leave it at that.”

Despite Kelly’s claim that this still would’ve happened with stricter gun control laws in place, research shows that these laws do affect people’s safety. There’s a correlation between state gun control laws and the number of gun deaths in each state, and the U.S. has a huge number of gun deaths compared to other countries. UN data show that the U.S. has over 21 times the firearm deaths of Australia, which has seen a dramatic decline in gun-related deaths ever since passing stronger gun control legislation in the 90s. And women in the U.S. are 11 times more likely to die at the hands of guns than those in other high-income countries, according to a study in the Journal of Trauma.

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People on Twitter have called Kelly out for mourning the lost lives in Vegas while also defending something that contributed to them—and then interrupting somebody trying to call attention to the problem.



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'Bachelor in Paradise' Season 4 Episode 3B Recap: Corinne Speaks


It’s another split episode of Bachelor in Paradise: an hour of fun on the beach, followed by an interview with Corinne Olympios about the scandal that caused the production shutdown earlier this season. Corinne addressed the controversy this morning on Good Morning America, explaining that, due to a combination of prescription medication and alcohol, she didn’t remember the events that caused a producer to lodge a complaint and shut down the show; however, after viewing the footage, she doesn’t have negative feelings toward DeMario Jackson, the man involved. Her claim that she was “a victim” was about the media.

It’s a messy situation that I wish the show had addressed in full before the season started, allowing the rest of the season to just be about fun in the sun—but instead it’s been sort of dragged out over the weeks, presumably for ratings. Hopefully tonight will be the last time Bachelor in Paradise uses the shutdown to create drama. (DeMario addressed the issue in an interview with Chris Harrison last week.)

But before we get to all that, let’s go back to the beach, where, as you may remember from last night’s episode, the guys have the roses, Matt left, and someone named Daniel just arrived.

Lacey immediately jumps onto Daniel who, we quickly learn, has ripped abs and is Canadian. He cracks a joke about Trump’s border wall, and now I’m just thinking about how, if I were on that show, I would be going after Daniel to get that Canadian citizenship-by-marriage. Lacey comes on to him pretty strong (“I’ve been waiting for you”), and Daniel refers to the remaining single women as “leftover scraps” so, pretty gross, eh? He rejected her like a cold Tim Horton’s or a glaze that wasn’t maple or a hockey that wasn’t…a moose…? I’ve never been to Canada.

Because he showed up “fashionably late,” Daniel compares himself to Beyoncé, which is heretical, in my book…

…and then mentions that an upside of dating virginal Christen would be that she is STD-free which, two things:

  1. Do we know exactly what Christen means by virgin? You can get an STD even if you never go P-in-V.

  2. Are you allergic to condoms?

OK so I don’t like Daniel, despite his access to a country that isn’t run by Donald Trump. He gives Lacey his rose. Jack Stone gives his rose to Christen.

THEN MATT COMES BACK to give his rose to “someone who deserves it” and help a girl stay on the show even though he’s leaving. He gives it to Jasmine, who rolls her eyes and accepts it with a salty “sure.” Derek gives his rose to Taylor, Robby to Amanda, Diggy to Dominique, Adam to Raven (not Sarah!), Dean to Kristina (over D. Lo), and Ben presents the final rose to D. Lo, meaning that Sarah and Alexis are going home.

WHAT JUSTICE IS THERE IF ALEXIS GOES HOME? SHE’S THE BEST ONE? ARE ALL THESE MEN DUMB?

Later in a bungalow, Kristina dares Dean to get a boner using only his mind. It’s profoundly weird.

The next morning, men in Luchador masks come running in and drag everyone out of bed, which feels both unnecessary and racially insensitive, especially since Christen repeatedly refers to them as “sumo wrestlers.” They give Daniel a date card that Lacey decides is for her. Then Daniel says some things. Things like:

“I’m here to date a girl. I’m here to maybe sleep with a girl? I mean,
I’m a guy, I like sex. I’m not here to be friends with these girls, I
can be friends with girls back home.” – Daniel

And:

“The last time I had a date was when Caitlyn Jenner was a man.” –
Daniel

And:

“I don’t wanna pour all my chickens into one egg and let it hatch into
a dinosaur or something.” – Daniel

So, those are things Daniel said.

At one point Kristina says, “You’re walking around with your date card, I see,” but due to her accent I heard “date card” as “dick hard” and was so confused. The date card does, indeed, go to Lacey. On their date, Lacey and Daniel go full GLOW and wrestle for a dozen or so assembled Mexicans who were, I hope, compensated for their time. They have the Best Time Ever.

Jonathan, the affable but un-self-aware “Tickle Monster” from Rachel’s season, arrives at Paradise with a date card in (tickle-ready) hand. All the guys from Rachel’s season literally refer to him as “Tickle” like it’s his name, but they seem happy to see him. We also learn that his real profession is “doctor” and he has met Ellen DeGeneres, so, point Tickle Dude. He and Christen make out. Well, they don’t make out. They exchange exactly one kiss. Then he gives her a date card and tickles her. On their date, T.M. impresses Christen with tales from the trade: He delivers babies and then takes care of them and he also surfs. Christen turns into the heart-eyes emoji. Eating this up by the spoonful. Well, by the handful. She’s still eating everything with her hands, and then with the tiny plastic hands the show gave her. Tickle Monster is an Innocent Boy. Not a monster. A Tickle Puppy. They’re good together because they’re both kinda 16 on the inside. When they return, Jack Stone pulls Christen aside and they make out and now Jonathan is a Tickle Madster

Dean is torn between Kristina (smart, sensitive, kind, invested, emotional) and D. Lo (hot, fun, attractive, hot, good-looking, feisty, also she’s hot). Poor Dean. Robby refers to the two women in question as “cars” that Dean is “test driving,” so now Robby’s on my shit list. Kristina finds it very “disrespectful” that, well, Dean and D. Lo probably banged. Where do we all fall on Deantina versus Dean Lo, the couple names I just made up?

“Right now, I think the orphanage was better than Paradise” – Kristina
being really friggin’ dramatic.

Lacey is literally sitting on Daniel’s lap while they make out when Jasmine decides to steal him for a second. If Lacey were smart. she would go to bed and make it clear that if you leave her, you don’t get her back—but instead she glowers at them from her perch above the beach, like the Count of Monte Cristo or something.

The next part of the recap is about the “studio edition” conversations between Chris Harrison, a handful of contestants, and Corinne Olympios, who will speak about the sexual assault allegations that briefly shut down the show. If you are upset or made uncomfortable by the discussion of these topics, please consider skipping the rest of the recap. And if you or someone you know is a dealing with trauma as the result of a sexual assault, call RAINN’s National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673.

Here to hang are Wells, Alexis, Amanda and Raven. Wells is like, “Yeah, who knows if I will date Danielle” and Amanda is like, “Meep moop meep meep,” and Raven is like, “If Sarah tries to take Adam away from me, I will cut a bitch, ha ha,” and makes some jokes about spoons and ALEXIS DOESN’T GET AN ANECDOTE EVEN THOUGH SHE IS THE BEST ONE?

(I love you, Alexis.)

Jasmine returns to confront Matt. They have zero new information.

Finally, Corinne appears. For those who didn’t watch Nick’s season, Corinne is a blunt, highly amusing, and probably harmless rich girl from Florida. She should have been the star of this season of Bachelor in Paradise, but instead, here we are. She smiles in a spunky white dress, considerably less confident than when she gave a similar studio audience bowls of cheesy pasta, but she is, in her words, “better.” Corinne explains that because she was drinking on a medication that (she realized later) shouldn’t be combined with alcohol, she doesn’t actually remember the events of that first day on Paradise. Looking back, she doesn’t feel that DeMario did anything wrong, and understands that he did not understand she was “mentally checked-out,” and it’s “no one’s fault.” It was an “unfortunate situation” that “really sucks.” She teared during a few points of the interview.

After talking a little more about how hard this situation was for DeMario, Corinne thanks the audience and her supporters. Then there’s a preview of the rest of the season. Good Lord, I hope it’s fun.

“Parting Thoughts: We’ll never know the full story of what happened, and we don’t have the right to. All that matters is that Olympios is satisfied with the outcome of the investigation.”



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Anna Faris Speaks Out for the First Time Following Her Split From Chris Pratt


It’s been over a week since Anna Faris and Chris Pratt announced their separation, and people still haven’t recovered. (My sister literally called me last night to talk about how much she loved them.) Like Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt’s divorce from last year, no one saw this split coming. It was basically pop-culture whiplash.

Pratt and Faris released a poignant statement about their uncoupling last week, but they’ve remained relatively quiet since then. Yes, Pratt gave a speech at the 2017 Teen Choice Awards Sunday night (August 13), but he didn’t mention the split or his personal life at all. Not that we were expecting him to—it was the Teen Choice Awards. Plus, Faris and Pratt aren’t obligated to say anything about their breakup…even though the entire world is in mourning.

But Faris did open up about the situation, briefly, during her Unqualified podcast on Tuesday (August 15). “Hey, dear listeners: I just want to thank you all so much for all the love I’ve been receiving, and I truly love you,” she said.

That’s all she directly said about her split from Pratt; however, an answer she gave one of her listeners loosely nodded to it.

When a woman called in and asked Faris how she should handle a problem with her boyfriend and one of his co-workers, Faris said, “Don’t be afraid of the future. You’re young. You’re in L.A.. There’s a lot of amazing people out there. Don’t feel afraid to feel your independence if things aren’t right.”

She continued, “I made that mistake, I think, a little bit feeling like, ‘I’m checking my relationship off the list,’ and, um—The final advice I could give you would be know your worth, know your independence, know that you’re young, and there’s so many people out there. There’s so much life experience. I hope you get to live it all and experience a whole lot of people. Life is too short for you to be in relationships where you’re not feeling like this isn’t fully right or somebody doesn’t have your back or somebody doesn’t value you in every way.”

Of course, we don’t know if Faris was referring to her relationship with Pratt—but the fact this topic even came up at all is ironic. And sad, too.

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