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How to Deal with Stress, According to Your Zodiac Sign


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Scorpio | Scorpio rising

Scorpio moves into stealth mode at the drop of a hat, so when stressed you withdraw, becoming even more private than usual. Exposure leaves this sign feeling unsafe. Your emotions may be tumultuous and you imagine worst-case scenarios. As a fixed sign, you do not like change or letting go, and if you does, it’s a complete reinvention, like the phoenix. You handle challenges by observing, working out a strategy, then navigating solutions in unlikely ways, like a ninja in the night. Subterfuge was invented by this sign.

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Sagittarius | Sagittarius rising

You becomes scattered when stressed, Sag, as well as unreliable—but you know this. You’ll gallop off to get some space as you need to move her body and seek new stimulation in order to find solutions. As the sign of freedom, that’s your safety zone, which an be tough when you’re stuck indoors. This sign is adaptable so you’ll try various approaches to an obstacle. Your best bet: to keep your signature humor and remember your larger vision or higher purpose. Things will get better. When you remember that, you’ll have the fortitude to solve almost any problem or surmount any obstacle.

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Capricorn | Capricorn rising

Capricorn’s answer to most things is to work more, to seek control, take on even more responsibility, maybe even boss everyone around by barking (well-meaning!) orders. As a sign linked to lower moods in times of trouble, you could feel extra melancholy or bleak right now. However, Capricorn does love a challenge, and is a realist, always, so there’s no sugarcoating which can actually be helpful. Your biggest challenge right now: give yourself a break and find work-from-home/life balance. Capricorn also doesn’t like to fail, so knowing when to fold ’em or just let certain things go is essential at this time. Choose your mountain wisely!



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Hilaria Baldwin: ‘There’s No Right Way to Deal With a Miscarriage’


Hilaria Baldwin, author, yoga instructor, and cohost of the Mom Brain podcast, suffered two miscarriages last year—one around 10 weeks and the other at four months. Throughout both, Baldwin was radically open about her experience, sharing her losses in real time and inviting the women in her 700k-strong Instagram community to share their stories too.

In a Glamour exclusive, Baldwin opens up about the experience of hearing thousands of women’s miscarriage stories, the common threads of shame, and the power of speaking out.

Last April, I had a miscarriage at around 10 weeks. I have had a couple of chemical pregnancies in the past, but this was my first miscarriage after hearing a heartbeat. The first time my husband Alec and I heard that baby’s heartbeat, it was weak and became weaker and weaker with each ultrasound. Eventually it stopped. I knew that the weak heartbeat was not a good sign, but I was still incredibly sad when, at that final ultrasound, the heartbeat went silent.

Some estimates say 1 in 5 pregnancies end in miscarriage. I had 4 babies and now a loss—I was the perfect statistic. We tried again and I got pregnant a few months later. We found out the baby was a girl—a little sister for our six-year-old daughter, Carmen. I was so excited to be a mom again.

In contrast to my spring pregnancy, this baby had a strong heartbeat. We were excitedly making plans—Carmen was setting aside her old clothes, and Alec and I dreamed about what it would be like to have a girl again after so many boys.

At four months (16 weeks), I went in for my regularly scheduled scan. As soon as the sonogram image appeared on the screen, I saw that my baby had died. There was no movement, no heartbeat. She was crumpled up, lifeless in my womb.

I began to cry. The doctor told me to hold still as she tried to figure out what had happened. I couldn’t stop sobbing. I can’t remember much except that I got dressed, thanked everyone for their care, and asked for permission to go. I just began walking. I got in a cab at some point, making calls, scheduling a follow-up D&E, and canceling work accordingly. I felt like I was in shock. I went into this appointment excited to see her and share pictures with my family and friends—I left needing to tell them all that she had died. It was a surreal turn of events.

Even though I’d had a miscarriage before, I don’t think I could have fathomed how bad it could feel to have a miscarriage at 16 weeks. I had to go home and sleep with my dead baby inside of me. I felt sick, sour in my belly, and so devastated. I kept waking up and thinking it must have all been a very vivid bad dream. I cried so much that my eyes were nearly swollen shut. I didn’t know the body could make so many tears. This was a pain that I had never experienced before, and it felt suffocating.

Through this pain, I knew that I needed to feel better. I needed to heal. I had to—for my babies, my husband, my loved ones, and myself.

When you feel so sad, you just want to crumble, and it is hard to be your own advocate—but you must be. I had to tell myself that I deserved to heal and to be happy again. This lesson became my mantra. Processing and going through grieving was important, but I didn’t have to be condemned to a life of emotional punishment and suffering.

As a woman, in charge of housing and growing a baby, it’s easy to feel guilty—as if you did something wrong to cause the miscarriage, no matter how many doctors tell you that’s not the case. Sometimes it’s easier to make ourselves the enemy, to blame ourselves, than it is to accept support and care.





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Natasha Pickowicz Makes Fundraising For Planned Parenthood a Sweet Deal


It was November 9, 2016, and Natasha Pickowicz woke up with an emotional hangover. She felt stunned. Drained. Mad. Donald Trump had just clinched the election, but she still had to pick herself up, endure her normal hour-long commute, and go to her job at Flora Bar, as if nothing had happened. But at work, no one could focus. Instead the chefs, managers, and staff met to figure out how to turn pain into purpose.

So Pickowicz—the executive pastry chef at Flora Bar and Café Altro Paradiso best known for her black cardamom-heavy sticky buns—went back to basics. She proposed the idea of a bake sale. “I was like, what if we did something that everybody could relate to this nostalgic, timeless idea,” she tells Glamour. “Whether you were little and it was in your church basement, or in middle school for your field hockey team, everyone’s had the experience of setting up your table, hanging out with friends, and raising money [with baked goods].”

Simple in theory, sure, but the bake sale Pickowicz, 35, pulled off would put any PTA mom to shame. Gone were traces of Betty Crocker or Pillsbury Funfetti. Instead, in the spring of 2017, Pickowicz invited 18 world-renowned pastry chefs and friends to come together and bake 50 items each. People like Bon Appetit‘s Claire Saffitz and James Beard award-winning cookbook author Dorie Greenspan all joined forces to sell their signature goods and raise funds for Planned Parenthood of New York City with each spoonful of sugar. That afternoon, Pickowicz collected $8,000—and an annual tradition was born.

In 2018, Pickowicz raised $22,000—once again all in $5 increments. And for the third, which was held this past spring, Picowicz set the ambitious goal of $40,000. She met it, and then some, raising $96,000. The growth has been exponential, but there are certain pillars that have anchored each event. It takes place at Café Altro Paradiso, it lasts one (long) shift, and proceeds benefit Planned Parenthood of New York City, not the national organization. “It was important to me that it was about our community and what’s happening here. This way I can find out first-hand how our funds are getting used,” she says. “The money is going towards more hormone therapy centers in the boroughs. They’re also building a fleet of mobile health centers, these trucks that will park and and be based in underserved areas. So it’s these hyper-regional things that PP NYC is working on.”

And while Pickowicz’s bake sale has remained focused on New York, for New York, more and more bake sales like hers are popping up nationwide. She’s frequently tagged on Instagram in photos from bake sales in Nashville or Charlotte, or someone emails her for advice. “I’ve had young women reach out to me and be like, ‘I had a bake sale at my local park!’ And then there’s the bigger ones, like in New Orleans where they raised $60,000,” she says. “People are also doing them in red states, where they’ve gotten a lot of blow back from people in the community who are offended by it. Like this summer we saw a lot of them for Yellowhammer Fund and [to protect reproductive rights] in Alabama.”

As she begins planning for her 2020 bake sale, Pickowicz dreams of seeing even more people follow in her footsteps—and for the sale to have an even larger impact. “With the presidential election next fall, it’s going to be a really, really crucial year. And with four years having gone by, I hope that next year explodes more than ever,” she says.

This year has made one thing clear: Women are showing up, stepping up, and taking what they deserve. From politics to pop culture, women aren’t just leveling the playing field—they’re owning it. As we ramp up to our annual Women of the Year summit, we will be highlighting women across industries who do the work every day. Whether it’s the CEO of a multinational retail corporation, a James Beard Award–winning chef, or the World Cup champions, here are the women you need to know right now. So far, we’ve celebrated women in sports, beauty, and style. Up now: 12 women who have made the food world more equitable, more ambitious, and so much more delicious. From an MIT-trained flavor scientist to a chef who’s created a new canon in Southern cuisine, these women have expanded our minds and our palates. Mmm. Dig in.





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The Bachelorette Season 15, Episode 2 Recap: What's the Deal With Luke P.?


Back to the group date: Hannah brings the guys to a roller derby rink and asks the stunning and talented Derby Dolls to teach these mediocre men how to skate. Then, Hannah admits the last time she went skating she broke her arm and hasn’t done it since. Um, why are we here? I thought the Bachelorette got a say in the dates? If it were me, I’d request only experiences that involve, like, eating cheese on a luxury yacht. Not activities that have literally broken my body.

That said, it is hilarious watching the guys wipe out. Not a single one can stay up on his feet.

When the game begins, everyone falls so much that it’s hard to call anyone a “winner.” Poor Dustin is the only good skater, but he flies too close to the sun and gets taken out with an injury. At one point the crowd chants, “Kill! Kill! Kill!” which makes me wonder what they were promised they’d see today.

That night the group goes to that random antique shop the producers always use for group dates. I guess when you’ve been doing the show for 15 seasons you start running out of locations, eh? The night is going fairly well for everyone—until Cam shows up to crash the date. Cam tells us “this is a very Cam thing to do.” What, be an asshole?

Even worse, he wastes his five minutes with Hannah by making the horrible joke that he’s getting “Hannahlytical.” Yeesh.

Obviously, the guys are annoyed Cam is there and they take turns telling him that was a shitty thing to do. But Cam is all, “I’m just being Cam!” It doesn’t help that Hannah reveals they’ve run out of time for the date, meaning some men didn’t get any time with her. At least she doesn’t give Cam a rose—that goes to Dustin.

The next day is the rose ceremony, and Hannah shows up to the cocktail party in tears. I thought at first it was because she has some sort of announcement, but it turns out she’s just overwhelmed by the week. I blame Cam. Or Luke P. Somehow, one of them is at fault.

Case in point: Cam continues to Always Be Cam by interrupting Kevin’s time with Hannah just to deliver some chicken nuggets.

Kevin tells Cam to go f-ck himself and dramatically throws the nuggets on the ground. Cam is ridiculous, but wasting chicken nuggets? A crime.

Later, Luke P. gives Hannah a massage before saying, “You’ll learn I’m really good with my hands.” Hannah suggests he take his shirt off so she can return the favor, but they start making out instead. Jed walks in on this, and it’s awkward to say the least. He’s surprisingly not fazed by it, though. “This is harder for you than it is for me, I promise,” he tells Hannah.

At the rose ceremony, she gives roses to Tyler C., Garrett, Devin, Connor S., Luke P., Dylan, Luke S., Mike, Peter, Kevin, Jonathan, Joey, Matteo, John Paul Jones, Grant, and Cam. (Jed, Tyler G., and Dustin already had roses from their dates.) That means this is the end of the road for the other Connor, Daron, and Matthew.

Cam makes a lame toast, and everyone groans. Even Hannah looks annoyed.

Hannah leaves to do her final interviews; but as the other guys go off to bed, Luke P. sneaks away to find her. She brings up the falling in love thing—sorry, starting to fall in love—and he promises everything he says is real. “You can trust me,” he whispers into her face.

And with that, I’ll see you next week—when Hannah literally tells Luke to slow his roll.



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How to Deal With Difficult People, According to Khloe Kardashian's Former Assistant and Other Unlikely Experts


This summer Netflix released the most honest film about what it’s like to work for a horrible boss since, well, Horrible Bosses. The beloved romcom Set It Up. tells the tale of Harper (Zoey Deutch), who is the assistant to Kirsten (Lucy Liu), a high-powered media impresario in the vein of The Devil Wears Prada‘s immaculate Miranda Priestly.

In one especially dark sequence, Harper runs around the office wearing Kirsten’s Fitbit—so she can hit her desired 10,000 step count—and has to order “that thing Kirsten likes from that place with that delivery guy” for Kirsten’s 11:00 PM second dinner. The film paints a dismal picture of what it’s like to work for a difficult person—but as the expression goes, real life is stranger than fiction. The tasks Harper is asked to do in the movie don’t hold a candle to the stories we heard while talking to the assistants and caretakers of the rich and famous.

To deliver the ultimate guide in how to tolerate impossible coworkers, bosses, friends, and relatives, we spoke with the assistant who used to fetch Oreos for Khloe Kardashian’s impossibly ‘grammable cookie jar, the Upper East Side nanny who assisted in a parent’s weed delivery, and the Below Deck star who had to import a particular brand of nuts (from another country!) for a client while she and her crew were on the high seas. Below, their their wildest, weirdest stories—and their best advice for how to deal with difficult people.

Former Assistant to Khloe Kardashian

“During my time working for Koko, a lot of my job was to go grocery shopping. If you’ve ever seen Keeping Up With the Kardashians you know what immaculate kitchens the sisters have, and I was in charge of stocking up on the snacks, or what I like to call “prop food.” I remember one day in particular when I was tasked with buying organic fruit for a scene they were shooting in Khloe’s kitchen.

“At first, I was asked to buy fresh, organic pineapples (which were, of course, out of season). After driving 45 minutes to a farm on the outskirts of Calabasas I was able to procure the pineapples. But as soon as I returned to the house, I was immediately sent back out—without so much as a thank you—to purchase another out of season fruit, plums. Being in charge of tracking down hard-to-find foods was frustrating and often felt fruitless (pun intended), but I had to remind myself that even the small things that I was in charge of that seemed banal were all a part of the larger operation. Even if you’re doing something thankless and aren’t getting that “thank you” from your boss, know that you’re making their life easier—and day go smoother—and for that they’re immensely grateful (even if they don’t tell you).” — Anonymous, Los Angeles

Divorce Mediator

“As you can imagine, people are often not at their best when they are going through a divorce. I’ve learned to be compassionate, and to try to get a sense of what they are experiencing. It often involves a lot of fear of the unknown, of transitioning into a new life, and grief for the relationship they had (or thought they had.). I work hard to understand them, and to acknowledge their reality, while helping them stay positive and mange their emotions so we can keep the conversations we have during mediation positive and productive.

“When you’re working with highly emotional people, help them parse through their feelings. When people are upset, they can often express their feelings in an unhelpful way, like yelling. The best thing to do in that scenario is help your client find a better way to articulate what they want and need. You can even do this in subtle ways, like asking them simple questions to calm them down and get to the root of the problem. It will be better for you—because nobody likes getting yelled at—but also will help them get what they want much faster and easier.” — Joy Rosenthal, Rosenthal Law & Mediation, New York

Upper East Side Nanny

“Working for the elite families of New York City is a balancing act. On any given day, I’m expected to fill in for wealthy Upper East Side moms as they go to their boutique fitness classes, tennis lessons, or lunch meetings. That leaves me to pack snacks, cart along book bags filled with art projects and chapter books, and make sure we arrive to any activity the children might have that day. While that in and of itself is difficult, I have found it even more challenging to meet the demands of the difficult mothers. From having my bosses ask me to stay “a little late” while they head out to a party (only to be woken up at 4 AM), to picking up flowers for a bris ceremony, or being asked to check three stores for a specific brand of pasta for a two-year-old, my days are never boring. I’ve even been asked to use my discretion after watching parents meet with their weed delivery person in their son’s room!



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How to Deal with Work Stress and Care Less About Your Job, According to the Authors of 'No Hard Feelings'


Work stress is the phenomenon that’s launched a 1,000 articles (10,000? 20,000?) and spurred countless of tips, books, guides, and product recommendations. To ward it off, we’ve put ashwagandha powder in our lattes, we’ve listened to gurus who promised us that back-to-back yoga classes would cure all that ails us, if only we could squeeze them into our packed schedules. But here we are, still faced with one essential truth: All that green juice later, we feel overworked and overextended.

So instead of attempting to solve the perception of stress with a cup of tea or a new mindfulness app, it’s time we view it as an important tool that’s meant to tell us it’s time to step back from our desks and do less.

We’ve spent countless hours reading up on how stress and the emotions that come with it intersect with our lives at work. (The result is our new book, No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotions at Work.) Two of the most frequent questions people asked us in the process were how to reduce job-related stress and how to press pause on their to-do lists without an avalanche of guilt. We wrote the book for them (and for you). We’ll get to our best tips in a second, but in the meantime:

Take this quick self-assessment. How many of these statements apply to you?

  • You get anxious if you haven’t checked your work email for 10 minutes.

  • When your friends ask you how you’ve been, you start detailing a minor work inconvenience.

  • Later, you dream about said inconvenience.

  • You obsess about work during dinner, at the gym, and when you’re trying to fall asleep.

  • Your mood depends almost completely on how work is going.

If you answered “a lot,” it might be time to take Drake’s advice: “You need to get done done done with work.“

Letting your job consume you is unhelpful and unhealthy. It makes small problems seem exceptional and places too much emphasis on casual conversations and interactions. Plus, it’s not just leaders or women or Virgos who care too much. Tons and tons of people are too attached to their work, and it’s—not to be dramatic—kinda ruining their lives. (Also, there’s little evidence it makes them better employees!) Enter our first new rule of emotion at work: Be less passionate about your job.

Why should you care less? Because it’s solves a lot of anguish. If you put just a little less emphasis on your responsibilities, you’re less likely to hyperventilate (and overthink) before a big presentation. You won’t be as frustrated by incompetent colleagues. You might even put your phone away at dinner with friends and you won’t have dreams about Slack as you backpack through Machu Picchu.

How to Deal with Work Stress and Care Less About Your Job According to the Authors of 'No Hard Feelings'

“Be less passionate about work” doesn’t mean “Don’t care about work.” It means: Care more about yourself. Carve out time for the people you love, for exercise, for guilt-free vacation. Remind yourself that few people look back at their lives and wish they had stayed at the office until 10pm.

But while “care less about work” is good advice, it tends to be easier said than done. So to start, we have some advice:

  • Touch email once: When you open an email, do you have to respond to it immediately? Liz used to read all her emails first thing in the morning and, in an effort to get right to work, would then mark them all as unread with a plan to respond later in the day. That meant she spent the morning obsessively thinking about all the emails waiting in her inbox instead of focusing on her work. Now she sets aside time to go through all of her emails, and then moves on to other projects with a clear head.

  • Block off a day: One day every week, Liz does not schedule meetings, calls, or even social events. This off day lets her catch up on her work, so the rest of the week doesn’t feel quite as hassled. If you can’t block off an entire day, try blocking off a few hours for focused work on your calendar, so that the time feels just as “real” as appointments or meetings.

  • Set up an after-work ritual: Your brain will benefit from a signal that tells it, “Work is over!” Walk or bike home, meditate on your commute, listen to music, read a magazine, or lift weights, which some studies show boosts your mood more than cardio. At the end of each day, Cal Newport, author of Deep Work, transcribes loose notes into a master task list, shuts down his computer, and then says the phrase, “‘Schedule shutdown, complete.'”

“After I’ve uttered the magic phrase, if a work-related worry pops to mind, I always answer it with the following thought process: I said the termination phrase,” he writes.

  • If you’re in a leadership role, set an example: After she had children, TV writer and producer Shonda Rhimes changed her work email signature to read, “Please Note: I will not engage in work emails after 7 pm or on weekends. IF I AM YOUR BOSS, MAY I SUGGEST: PUT DOWN YOUR PHONE.” Dan Calista, CEO of consulting firm Vynamic (whose motto is “Life is Short. Work Healthy.”), created an email policy called zzzMail. Employees cannot send each other emails on weeknights after 10pm, on weekends, or during holidays.
How to Deal with Work Stress and Care Less About Your Job According to the Authors of 'No Hard Feelings'

Finally, remember that time off—real, no-thinking-about-work time off—boosts your health and your productivity. Research shows that your productivity actually drops dramatically after you’ve worked 50 hours in a week. Working more than 10 hours a day dramatically increases your risk of heart issues. So if you’ve been burning the candle at both ends, consider this your permission slip to head home, put on sweatpants, and enjoy a night off. Your work will be there tomorrow.

Liz Fosslien and Mollie West-Duffy are the authors of the No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotions at Work. For more of their hilariously accurate cartoons, follow them on Instagram or subscribe to their monthly newsletter.





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