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Casey Wilson: In Times Like These, We Need More Reality Garbage Like Love Is Blind


It’s a stressful time right now. There’s a lot going on in the world that is problematic and troublesome. Not to mention the global pandemic. Everything is moving fast. We all feel busy and overwhelmed. Sometimes, life just feels like a series of uncomfortable moments strung together.

And yes, we all need to resist and work hard to make the world better. But there’s so much expected of us these days—especially women. So after a full day, I want nothing more than to relax into the loving arms of screaming women on reality TV. Watching these monstrous, majestic creatures yell at each other is soothing. Really.

I’ll always consider Bravo’s Real Housewives my form of self-care, but I’ve also gotten deeply involved with Love Is Blind on Netflix. I can’t even tell you what’s going on between that show and me lately. It’s too much. For someone else, it might be Love After Lock Up, 90 Day Fiancé, or The Bachelor. Whatever reality show you prefer, I don’t think you should be ashamed if that’s your outlet to recharge. Would I love it if meditation and journaling helped me de-stress? Sure. But in reality, I’m putting my kids to bed, settling in with a glass of wine, and turning on reality garbage.

It’s fun to care so passionately and deeply about something so meaningless and silly! I’ve been watching Real Housewives for decades. I know their full histories, and it feels like I’m a part of their families. I call them my weird drunk aunts.

There’s a bonding process that happens when you meet other fans, too. My friend and Bitch Sesh podcast co-host Danielle Schneider and I love the community our listeners have built. Major, major lifelong friendships have been developed over talking about women we don’t know. We post memes. We send each other information about what’s going on. Well, information is a strong word. It’s more like, “I saw Dorinda Medley walking down the street.” That’s it. It’s frivolous, sure, but it’s all we need to get a lift for the day.

Look at sports fanatics and nerd culture—it’s no different whatsoever. The reunions are my Superbowl, and I’m not going to be a reality TV apologist about it. It’s a way to connect with people when you might not have much to talk about beyond the weather. You can have a heated, passionate debate about Jessica from Love Is Blind and know there’s nothing behind it.



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Casey Wilson Wants You to Start Watching 90 Day Fiancé


If you’re not watching 90 Day Fiancé, may I politely ask…why?

Though I don’t consider myself an evangelist for garbage programming, I do seem to watch an awful lot of it. I even co-host a podcast called Bitch Sesh devoted to The Real Housewives—and while those devastatingly wondrous 60-somethings will always have my heart, I still have eyes! I’m not dead!

And someone else has caught my fancy: 90 Day Fiancé. From the moment I saw a lovable wreck named Darcy scream over and over and over at her fiancé, an unlovable piece of driftwood named Jesse, “CUT THE STEAK ON THE BIAS!!!!!!!!” I knew my life would never be the same.

For those who haven’t heard of the show, know that the concept is devastating. It’s a “documentary” on TLC that follows American citizens in relationships with foreigners who have secured K-1 visas and now have 90 days to decide if they should get married. Spoiler Alert: They shouldn’t.

The dynamics tend to be as you would imagine. Often, a smart, sweet, foreign woman—a 10 in her country—settles for an American two. That piece of it is obviously incredibly problematic. But once you see a Texan mama’s boy tuck a clump of his mother’s hair into his shirt pocket so he can “keep her with him” while he flies across the world to bring home his fiancé, well, you give over to it.

And when you see a feisty, rode-hard grandma in her late 60s fly to Nigeria to see if it’s true love between her and a 19-year-old Nigerian, you simply don’t walk away. And when you see that same couple have sex, and she yells, “Ride me Michael!”—you sit your ass down and you show some respect.

The show follows five couples to the alter, per season. A few of the couples really love each other. A few are being cat fished. A few might belong in jail. But unlike most reality shows, this one has actual, real-life high stakes. These people’s entire lives are on the line. It’s not fake or scripted. These housewives are realer than any of the Real Housewives.

Watching these odd couples negotiate the realities of life offline is both hilarious and heartbreaking. We all make tradeoffs. We all try to move above our station. We don’t all promise a sweet girl’s father we would “show her the American Dream” and then end up living in a storage space. But that’s the show. It’s a heightened version of the worst couples ever in the worst situations ever, handling them the worst possible way. I’m ashamed to admit it’s thrilling to deep dive into relationships that have little to no chance of surviving. But much like mice in a trap, they’ll die trying. And it’s goddamn delightful to watch.

To those of you who look askance at this type of low-brow programming, I may not be able to reach across the aisle and convince you. The divide may simply be too great. But let me just say, I believe zoning out to nonsense to be a healing prescription for today’s world. And this is actually incredibly well made nonsense with perfect editing and couples who will make you look at your own troubled relationship and think, “Not. Too. Shabby.”

So if you’re thinking about taking the plunge, but don’t know where to start, I urge you to watch in this confusing order: Start with Season 5. Then jump to the spin-off series 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days (it’s about couples deciding whether or not they should apply for the K-1 visa). After that, jump to the most recent season of 90 Day Fiancé. (Stay with me…) Then head on over to 90 Day Fiancé: Happily Ever After?, another spin-off series that follows up with the most controversial or popular couples. Once that’s complete, go back to Season 1 of 90 Day and continue on in the order God intended until Season 5, right back where you started.



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Casey Affleck Withdraws From Oscars, Won’t Present Best Actress Award


Casey Affleck has reportedly withdrawn from the upcoming Academy Awards, where, as last year’s Best Actor winner, he was set to present the Oscar for Best Actress. According to Deadline, the actor told the Academy that not only will he not be presenting any awards at the 2018 Oscars, but he has also declined his invitation to the entire ceremony. “Affleck did not want to become a distraction from the focus that should be on the performances of the actresses in the category,” a source told the publication.

Affleck’s withdrawal comes amid criticism that he, an accused sexual harasser, would be allowed to present such an important statuette. In 2010, while directing I’m Still Here, a mockumentary starring Joaquin Phoenix, Affleck was sued by two female employees who claimed that he “led and fostered an environment of sexual harassment on set.” One of the women also claimed that Affleck climbed into bed with her one night and touched her without her consent. At the 2017 Oscars, Affleck won Best Actor for his performance in Manchester by the Sea. (Brie Larson, who presented the award after winning Best Actress in 2016 for her role as a victim of sexual assault in Room, notably did not clap did for the actor.

With the recent rise of the #MeToo and Time’s Up movements, it seems Affleck would rather avoid the public scrutiny altogether at this year’s Oscars (where he isn’t nominated for any awards) than face the certain backlash he would receive for presenting such a prestigious award to a woman. Celebrities have been supporting Time’s Up during awards season by wearing pins and dressing in all black on red carpets. At this weekend’s Grammys, musicians will wear white roses to demonstrate support for sexual assault victims. There have not yet been any plans announced for a demonstration on the Oscars red carpet.

Recently, James Franco, who was accused by five women for sexual misconduct following a win at the 2018 Golden Globes for The Disaster Artist—he was snubbed in this year’s Oscar noms—skipped the Critics’ Choice Awards. And Aziz Ansari, who was accused of sexual misconduct, skipped the Screen Actors Guild Awards, despite being a nominee. Ansari had also won at this year’s Globes for Best Actor in a Comedy.



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This Women's Equality Day, Brooklyn Decker and Whitney Casey Want More Women in Fashion Tech


In a time when just about every day is a holiday for something (did you know it’s National Banana Split Day?), there are a few occasions worth taking the time to commemorate. A big one for us is August 26—otherwise known as Women’s Equality Day. It was first celebrated back in 1971, in honor of the ratification of the 19th Amendment (the one that gives women the right to vote). In the years since, it has become an opportunity to honor and recognize the accomplishments of women in a diverse range of fields and their contributions to society.

For Brooklyn Decker, a former model, actress, and tech entrepreneur, this year’s Women’s Equality Day holds special meaning. She and her longtime friend, former broadcast journalist Whitney Casey, founded the fashion start-up Finery back in March. It’s marketed as the first “closet operating system” that catalogues and styles every item you own for maximum usage, addressing the classic “so many clothes, but nothing to wear” dilemma for 10,000+ users since it launched.

Their service aims to solve everyday wardrobing issues for their customers, but Decker and Casey are just as invested in uplifting other female business owners with big ideas: Glamour caught up with the Finery founders at a recent Women’s Equality Day panel featuring female executives and entrepreneurs, hosted by Keds and LOLA. As we chatted about everything from the company’s next steps to the one clothing item that Decker should maybe cut back on, one thing was clear: If Women’s Equality Day were a holiday that came with a wishlist, Decker and Casey would ask for more leading women in fashion tech. Read on.

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Whitney Casey, Finery CEO (left), and Brooklyn Decker, Finery CDO, at the Keds + Lola Women’s Equality Day panel.

Glamour: August 26 is Women’s Equality Day. As female entrepreneurs, why is this occasion important to you?

Brooklyn Decker: It’s important to us mostly because our company is geared towards making the lives of women run more efficiently. Every single day, day in and day out, we’re thinking: How do we make the world better for women? It’s something that’s on our minds all the time, so to have a day where it’s actually celebrated officially feels really special. And to do it with a friend just makes it really personal and special.

Whitney Casey: And we’re always saying, “it’s always hard when you want to start a company with your friend.” But I feel like women are so multidimensional that we can change that stigma [around working with friends]. This day is kind of to celebrate that, too. We’re well beyond that, we can do that—we can raise kids, we can have a business while we’re making a [gestures at Decker, who’s expecting her second child, a girl], making a female coder inside.

B.D.: Exactly! It’s very exciting.

Glamour: As we’ve seen in the news this year, it can be tough to be a woman in tech. As you were thinking about starting Finery, were there any women-led brands that inspired you?

B.D.: There are so few women in the tech space. We reached out to several for guidance when we did start, and a lot of our funders are actually females. Miroslava Duma is one of them, who is known for funding a lot of female-run technology and fashion companies. We really love The Real Real, that’s run by [Julie Wainwright]… Who else?

W.C.: Rent the Runway, [led by] Jen Hyman—she’s amazing. We’re finally getting products for us, for women, because women are making them.

B.D.: And that’s the only way it’s gonna happen.

W.C.: But we need more capital. We need more [venture capitalists] to fund female-led companies. Because right now, [most] technology is made by men. And [it’s technology] for women!

Glamour: And on that note, what has leading Finery taught the two of you about being leaders for other women?

B.D.: [Women’s Equality Day] was originated because it celebrated the right for women to vote. You look at what women have done before us and how hard they had to fight before we got here—we’re now reaping the benefits of all that they’ve done. Now, it’s our job to employ women, to provide opportunities, to use the gifts bestowed upon us, to help the generations that follow. A lot of people [at Finery] are in their early twenties, but that’s a good ten, fifteen years younger than we are. We employ a lot of women, and I think that’s one of the biggest things you can do as a female running a company.

W.C.: You have to lead by example. If you want capital to go to women, we have to put capital into women, in our own company, so that they can go make their own brands. [We have to] show them that it’s not insurmountable. You can have all of these things—and capital will be available to you—if you’re building the products of the future that prove it out. It’s exciting because there are very few frontiers that women haven’t been able to conquer, and with [the majority of tech] companies being made by men, this is exciting.

B.D.: It’s a new frontier for women.

Glamour: On that note, Finery is solving the problem of feeling like you have “nothing to wear,” even with a ton of clothes in your closet. Are there any other fashion and style problems facing women that you would like to see solved in the future?

B.D.: We have so many that we’re tackling. We want to do it all. We want [Finery] to be the first place you go to when you’re thinking about buying an item; we want [it] to be the last place you go to when you want to get rid of your item, whether it’s to resell or donate or trade. That’s what we’re building Finery to do. There are so many ways to interact with your clothing. I think the biggest obstacle is showing women what they have so that they don’t have to go and and spend extra on stuff that they already own. But we have a wishlist feature where you can collect all the things that you like online and put them into one place; we give you sales notifications; we have a calendar feature where you can pack on our site. There’s so many things we’re working to build.

W.C.: And we remind you when things need to be returned. That’s kind of a schtick with retailers—they don’t want you to know, but we say, “Hey, three days left to return, seven days left, don’t forget!”

B.D.: We’re trying to cover every sort of facet of your wardrobe and every way that you interact with it, so that it becomes second nature for you, and it’s one of those things that you don’t have to worry about.

W.C.: And in the future, you’ll be walking around thinking, “I have a connected closet, how did I not have it [before]?” Now, you don’t need to be in front of your closet—you should be able to carry it around with you. We want every woman to have [that] in the future. It’s like a playlist. You pick out your outfits, and we start making them for you.

Glamour: What did you learn about your own wardrobe while you were developing Finery? Is there one item that you have too much of?

B.D.: Overalls! I own way too many pairs of overalls. And midi skirts for Whitney—she has way too many.

W.C.: We could have answered that question for each other because we look at each other’s wardrobes all the time. And I’m like, “You should wear this, this, this, and this” in her Finery wardrobe. And she’s like, “You should not buy any more midi or over-the-knee boots.”

B.D.: Midi skirts, over-the-knee boots, and skinny jeans! It’s too much. And I wouldn’t have known that had I not seen it.

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