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Glamour's 2018 Women of the Year Summit: Follow Live


For the past 28 years, Glamour’s Women of the Year Awards has honored game changers, rule breakers, and trailblazers. This year’s class of extraordinary females is no exception. The stories of our honorees often start with the same idea: a woman who refuses to wait for someone else to make things better. Alone, or with an army behind her, she decides to act.

To kick off the celebration, Glamour is hosting our second annual Women of the Year Live Summit at Spring Studios in New York City—led by comedian Phoebe Robinson—followed by our annual awards ceremony on Monday, November 12. The summit will feature sessions with body-positive activist Ashley Graham, Today co-anchors Savannah Guthrie and Hoda Kotb, singer-songwriter Halsey, along with many more inspiring women.

Follow our coverage, below, as we share every unforgettable moment and our panelists’ invaluable wisdom from the Women of the Year Live Summit.

Breakfast With Aerie

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Our Women of the Year Summit kicked off as any great morning should: with breakfast, a lot of coffee, and a pep talk from Aerie global brand president Jennifer Foyle and #AerieREAL model Iskra Lawrence. The model, who’s been at the forefront of the body positive movement, spoke about the importance of sisterhood and being kind to yourself—and how the brand is making changes to raise women up.

“A few years ago, I started the Mirror Challenge, where instead of looking in the mirror and seeing all the insecurities screaming and shouting at me, I decided I was going to find the things I appreciated about myself,” Lawrence told the crowd. “I either told myself verbally in my head or I wrote it on Post-It notes. So one of the amazing things we implemented in all Aerie stores is having Post-It notes. Changing rooms can be a pretty negative place if you’re not feeling one-hundred or if something doesn’t fit the way you want it to, or if you’re going through changes in your body, we wanted to create a positive environment.”

“So I’m hoping you’ll all start writing your own Post-Its,” she continued, inviting women to come up to the stage and leave their own notes for themselves or another “sister” who could use a word of encouragement. Let’s just say what everyone wrote is surely an example of what’s to come today.

Opening Remarks With Phoebe Robinson

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“Hello, my name is Phoebe Robinson, and I am your Nordstrom Rack version of Oprah today.” We’d disagree—our host of the day is nobody’s discount emcee, but we wouldn’t expect the author and comedian to kick things off any other way. If you follow her on 2 Dope Queens or have read her book “Everything’s Trash, But It’s Okay,” you know Robinson has a way of finding the humor in even the darkest of topics.

To introduce today’s theme “Women Rise,” she touched on the major wins women have had this year—”The midterm elections were the most exciting thing for me. Two native American women won, a bunch of black women won, hopefully Stacey Abrams will win”—along with the importance of having strong women role models in her own life. “Women have done so much for my career. My mom is a very smart, wonderful, funny woman. She’s where my sense of humor comes from. Writing for magazines like Glamour has been empowering for me. I feel like I’ve learned my biggest lessons from other women. They’ve taught me things like stop telling yourself no before other people do. Stop saying sorry. I’m not saying sorry anymore. I’m going to be like a white guy.”

She ended the speech with a call to share stories about the women who have raised you up using the hashtag #GlamourWOTY. “Send me a picture or photo with your mom, girlfriends, you with your gyno if you’re close to each other, cousins, anyone, a moment that shows women rising up together, celebrating each other.”

For more of Robinson’s best quotes from the Summit, click here.

From Anguish to Action How to Lead During Crisis

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During the first panel of the day, Glamour Editor-in-Chief Samantha Barry and The Washington Post‘s Global Opinions editor Karen Attiah discussed what happens—and how do you react—when things go horribly wrong. Barry noted that crisis can come in many forms—it can be personal, it can touch your community, or in the gut-wrenching case of Attiah, it can play out on a global stage. Attiah was the editor of Saudi journalist Jamal Khashoggi, who was captured and killed because of his work as a reporter.

“We recruited him about a year ago to write for us,” said Attiah. “He put himself into self-exile. He was critical of the Saudi Crown Prince in particular. He was someone who really believed in his country, really loved Saudi Arabia, but he just wanted to be free to speak his mind about the country.” Attiah said she’s still trying to cope with the horrific loss. “I still can’t believe he was taken from us and from his family in such a brutal way. It’s not just an attack on journalism, it’s an attack on The Washington Post.” The one thing that keeps her—and the team—going, she said, is not a fight against the attacks on journalists, but a fight to tell the truth.

She also discussed President Trump’s dangerous rhetoric surrounding the media, and women of color in the media in particular. (Many were surprised to learn that Khashoggi’s editor was a young woman of color.) “If he’s attacked three black women journalists, we don’t have black women or women of color who are White House correspondents,” said Attiah. “We can’t control Trump, but what the media can control is how seriously we take sending reporters who represent the world around us and represent the demographics trends that the U.S. is going in. Many times my white colleagues don’t have the same grounding or sensibilities. That is a reckoning we should have.”

As for advice for the other women in the room? “Sometimes you feel like Tweeting into the void doesn’t always help,” she said. “I think I heard the advice once that to a certain extent journalism or opinion writing can be about anger—about righteous anger. You’re seeing what’s going on, and you’re asking questions. That’s a way of pushing back. At a very basic level, I used to journal. Try to write [your anger] out, to get it out there, and use your creativity to channel what you’re feeling. Sometimes just expressing what you’re going through is a form of creating bonds, solidarity, and activism.”

My Woman Rise Moment: I Listened to That Inner Voice

You might know Yvonne Orji as Issa Rae’s wisecracking best friend, Molly, on HBO’s Insecure. But what you might not know is that her journey to get there was entirely faith led. Orji emigrated from Nigeria to America when she was six years old, and says she never imagined a career in comedy was a even possibility…until God showed her the way one fateful evening in college.

“One night, when I was trying to figure out what was next and needed some clarity, I heard Him say, “Do comedy,” she told the room. “I wasn’t funny. I was like, nobody laughs at me. Nobody was like, ‘That Yvonne is SUPER funny.’ At that point, I was on my way to becoming a doctor. I was stalling because I got my masters in public health. This is what you do when you’re the child of immigrants—you go to school to avoid going to school. And then after I got my masters, I was still not ready to be a doctor. I wanted to go to Liberia, which was just finishing a war, because it was easier for me to go to a war-torn country than tell my parents that I wasn’t going to be a doctor.”

On a leap of faith, she made the jump though and moved to New York City to pursue comedy, which went about as well as you’d expect. “Pretty soon after I moved to New York, I found myself with zero dollars and zero leads,” she said. “Let me tell you right now: That’s not sexy. OK? Because Sallie Mae wants her money, like all of it.” She continued: “Here I was, 25 years old, with two degrees, and not even the $7 to get a slice of pizza. I was like, was this really the life I risked it all for? I have a family that loves me and cares about me, and I am broke.”

The thing she says turned it all around was the power of saying yes to whatever opportunity came her way. “I said yes to the temp job I hated but allowed me to perform comedy at night,” she said. “I said yes to taking over a stand-up show in New York City. I said yes to a residency in a college production in Richmond, Virginia, that gave me two days to get there. I said yes to being a writer in the writers room for a TV show in L.A.”

Her parting words for the audience? “Inside all of us exists some kind of compass—whether it’s divine or otherwise—but it’s something desperately trying to navigate you and all of us to the life we know we were destined to live. So I think the choice is pretty simple: Keep letting fear sidetrack you or take what you’ve been given, maybe even told from God above, and say yes. But whatever it is, keep going. Keep doing it.”

Read Orji’s full speech here.

Stop Hiding, Start Shining

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Just a few years ago, it was unheard of to see anything other than thin, flawless, mostly white models in fashion ads. And models with any kind of visible health condition? Forget about it. Times are changing, though, and in part thanks to brands like Aerie, women of all different backgrounds, abilities, and sizes are now being celebrated for who they are. And that’s exactly what our Stop Hiding, Start Shining panel was about.

AerieREAL Role Models Danielle Candray (an alopecia advocate), Gaylyn Henderson (the founder of Gutless and Glamorous), and Evelyn Riddell (a type-1 diabetes advocate) joined Jess Weiner, the CEO of Talk To Jess (an organization about women’s empowerment), to discuss the social stigmas around health conditions and how they’re finally beginning to fade.

“I was only 14 when I was diagnosed with Crohn’s Disease, an inflammatory bowel autoimmune disease that can affect your entire body,” said Henderson. “Because of the severity of my condition my doctors told me I needed an ostomy—which meant removing my entire colon. At first, I said no way. I thought I was too young—I thought an ostomy was for old people. That it would smell. That it was nasty! And all I could think was I didn’t want to spend my whole life with a bag hanging off of me. But there came a time that I had no choice. I was in constant excruciating pain and getting worse. The disease was killing me.”

She went on to discuss how much better she felt after getting the procedure, and how much it meant to be cast in a global underwear campaign as a model with a colostomy bag. (Something that was met with much fanfare when her ads launched earlier this year.) “I’m an underwear model—it’s incredible!” she said. “I always tell people, ‘You have to do what’s best for you, no matter how it may look to somebody else.’ It’s a process, accepting yourself for all that you are. But being authentic with yourself and sharing your truth is essential. It’s a superpower, and everyone in this room has it.”

Turn a Big Idea Into Bigger Business

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Here’s a not-so-fun fact for you: For the second year in a row, only 2.2 percent of venture capital funding is going to female-led companies. The women on our business panel—which was moderated by Sutian Dong, partner at Female Founders Fund—fall in that tiny percent and shared with the audience how they were able to defy the odds and launch successful companies with VC support. Audrey Gelman is the founder of The Wing, a women’s co-working space and social club; Tyler Haney is founder and CEO of athleisure line Outdoor Voices; and Jen Rubio is the co-founder of Away luggage, those adorable suitcases you’re seeing all over Instagram.

If you’re looking to start your own brand, here are biggest takeaways you need to know:

Nobody knows your business better than you. “We realized there was no such thing as traditional start-up experience,” said Rubio. “We said we’re going to build the Warby Parker of luggage, but we realized there is no play book … You’re going to get a lot of advice from people, but unless your inputs are the same, that advice doesn’t go. So we took a lot of advice and learned to filter through that.”

Don’t get discouraged by the no’s. “Being a woman when you’re building a company for a woman is an advantage,” said Haney. “There’s an opportunity for a female to shake up the space and create a brand that is resonating for everyone. What I found is that I got a lot of nos at first because guys didn’t get it. But what worked ahead of time was when I sent things to wives of the investors. That is when I started to get yeses.”

Be really, really sure that you want to do it. “Know there is a lot of crap coming your way,” said Gelman. “It’s part of the job.”

Check out our in-depth recap of the panel here.

History Is Happening Now. What’s Your Role?

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“What gets remembered is determined by who is in the room doing the remembering,” Betty Reid Soskin likes to say. The 97-year-old park ranger is one of our Women of the Year honorees, and she’s made it her life’s mission to make sure the stories of underrepresented people are being documented and celebrated. One of her biggest achievements? The Rosie the Riveter/WWII Home Front National Historical Park, where she leads talks about the Rosies and the typically white narrative about the women who served the war effort, but also interweaves her experience as a young black woman in segregated America.

Soskin and moderator Kimberly Drew, an art curator and social media manager for the Metropolitan Museum of Art, discussed how women (and particularly women of color) have to fight claim a seat at the table—and because of us doing so, we’re seeing our history being written in a more inclusive way. “Because I was in the room, albeit as a field rep, I was able to supply so much of the history that—by no means was being ignored by intent—but was rolled over by history,” Soskin told Drew. “I was able to participate in the history of a national park just by being in the room.”

She says that now, at 97, she’s able to look back and know that these periods of chaos are the moments when democracy is being redefined. “It’s in those periods where we can get at the reset buttons,” she said, adding, “Every single day, in every way, by what we do or fail to do, we are creating tomorrow. And just as I helped to create the future that I’m now live in, everyone in this room is creating the future their children are going to live in.”

Even despite the dark history currently being written during the Trump era (like Charlottesville), Soskin says she’s optimistic that Americans will ultimately fight to do what’s right. “The power is in us collectively. We’ve proven that ever since 1776,” she said. “I think that’s where my optimism comes from: Having lived long enough to know that it’ll work out.”

Closing the Dream Gap: Showing Girls (and Ourselves) What’s Next

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If anyone’s qualified to talk about making your dreams come true, it’s three women who have refused to take no for an answer: Mindy Kaling, Hoda Kotb, and Savannah Guthrie. But even the Today co-hosts and * The Mindy Project* star acknowledged it’s easier said than done. Their biggest advice for women looking to build their confidence and make their dreams come true is to put in the hard work. From that, they say, comes the confidence and the courage to think you can achieve anything.

“I always just did the leg work, and it meant I never came to anything unprepared,” Kaling told the crowd. “The only reason I was able to be confident was because I literally couldn’t not be confident with the amount of research and preparation I did.”

Kotb, Guthrie, and Kaling also discussed a conundrum many women face: the balance between being assertive and coming across as “likable.” Kaling told a self-deprecating anecdote about how never being perceived as conventionally attractive by men actually made asking for things easier. “When you are ignored in that way, things like confidence and asking for things in your professional career become a little easier,” she said.

Read our full recap of the Dream Gap panel here.



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Why Anthony Bourdain's Life Is a Lesson in Allyship for White Men of Privilege to Follow


The culinary world shifted when news that rockstar chef and author Anthony Bourdain died of an apparent suicide was confirmed by CNN on Friday. Bourdain defied the boundaries of his job description, transcending barriers of disparate cultures, and, perhaps among his greatest feats, challenged the status quo he could have so easily chosen to thrive in.

And, aside from what he contributed to the world (taking us on adventures around the globe and giving us all a front-row seat to experience the gritty underbelly of New York City’s restaurant industry through his cult-classic book Kitchen Confidential), that’s why we loved him.

In recognizing his privilege, Bourdain was able to stand up for women, marginalized communities, and even question how his own past choices lent themselves to perpetuating dangerous environments. It would have been effortless for Bourdain to adopt the worldview of men who share his status and influence. Bourdain, instead, explored worlds besieged by that power and challenged its beneficiaries to do better.

In short, Anthony Bourdain was an ally. Not in the vein of entertainers who only wear colorful ribbons at functions and retreat to their luxurious homesteads. He was one who fundamentally believed in, and fought for, people at the margins even when hashtags weren’t trending. Though he could have merely embraced the glamour of glitzy restaurants and exotic locales in his work as a culinary superstar and travel correspondent, he weaved this value system into his work.

On Latino immigration in America, Bourdain once stated: “The bald fact is that the entire restaurant industry in America would close down overnight, would never recover, if current immigration laws were enforced quickly and thoroughly across the board. Everyone in the industry knows this. It is undeniable. Illegal labor is the backbone of the service and hospitality industry–Mexican, Salvadoran and Ecuadoran in particular…let’s at least try to be honest when discussing this issue.”

This was in 2007, before Trump’s walls or the fervent pitch of nationalist rhetoric reached its ascendance.

Bourdain’s ideals reached beyond the food sector to industries outside of his own. When Bourdain’s girlfriend, Asia Argento, added her voice to the symphony of women whose pleas for justice against Harvey Weinstein and sexual violence were finally being acknowledged in the mainstream press, Bourdain accompanied her. “To @dkny,” he tweeted to the designer after she seemed to suggest women had a role in being sexual assault victims, “[h]ow many seventeen year olds have you dressed like they are, in your words, ‘asking for it?'”

He called out the media.

He called out Weinstein’s associates by name.

And he called out the complicity with rape culture embedded in Hollywood and society at large.

In an interview with GQ magazine, Bourdain was asked about his 2014 Parts Unknown episode on the heroin and opioid crisis. He addressed both the double standard of pharmaceutical companies who traffic in drug sales without the stigma of criminality and the sympathy afforded to small town communities and rural whites (which policy makers and media outlets failed to extend to the largely black victims of the 1980s crack epidemic).

“Now that the white captain of the football team and his cheerleader girlfriend in small-town America are hooked on dope,” he asserted, “maybe we’ll now stop demonizing heroin as a criminal problem and start dealing with it as the medical and public-health problem that it is, and should be.”

“These pharmaceutical-company executives are dope dealers,” he added, “and they should be treated worse and more roughly than dope dealers. You’ve got some disadvantaged black kid. You’re working in a one-company town, and that company happens to be a street gang selling heroin.”

Bourdain is gone, this much is true. But as society pushes forward to answer the hard questions about what kind world we want for the future, how inclusive and how understanding we want to be, it’s important to know that allyship is not something you bestow upon yourself.

It’s not your equivalent of street credibility because you went to a protest.

It is, as Bourdain showed us, the way you live your life and make room for others. It’s being inclusive and understanding without being braggadocious. It’s looking inward and being self-aware. And it’s never claiming it for yourself.

Bourdain describes himself on his Twitter bio simply as an “enthusiast.” May we, too, strive to use our own enthusiasm to engage, and advocate for the many people marginalized in parts unknown.





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Prince Harry and Meghan Markle Will Follow This Wedding Dress Tradition


Prince Harry and Meghan Markle aren’t the biggest sticklers when it comes to wedding traditions—she won’t have a maid of honor, for example—but there’s one old superstition they’ll be following on May 19.

On Friday, People reported that Kensington Palace confirmed Harry will see Meghan in her wedding dress for the first time with the rest of us: when she walks down the aisle.

“That tradition is very important to them,” a palace spokesperson said at a press briefing, according to People. The couple will also be spending the eve of their wedding apart, and they’ll be staying at Windsor Castle for their actual wedding night.

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The dress superstition isn’t the only tradition the pair are incorporating into the royal wedding. On Friday, Prince Harry’s communications secretary published a press release confirming that Meghan Markle’s dad, Thomas Markle, will be walking her down the aisle. According to the press release, Markle’s mother, Doria Ragland, will also be traveling with her by car to Windsor Castle.

The royal couple’s wedding bands will be traditional as well. Markle’s wedding ring will be made of the same Clogau-Welsh gold as Princess Diana and Kate Middleton’s wedding rings, and Prince Harry will be rocking a wedding band just like his dad. (Wedding bands for the men of the royal family are more optional—Prince William decided to pass on the wedding band, as did Prince Philip.)

This doesn’t mean the whole royal wedding will be just like nuptials’ past. In fact, on Friday, the palace confirmed that Prince Harry and Meghan Markle will be deviating from one royal wedding trend started by Princess Diana and Prince Charles. On May 19, the couple will not, in fact, be doing a balcony kiss, though royal experts are speculating they will kiss for the cameras somewhere else.



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Maxine Waters Will Follow Trump's First State of the Union By Giving Her Own Speech


Democratic Representative Maxine Waters of California,—she who made “reclaiming my time” a rallying cry—will be is now claiming the spot following President Donald Trump‘s first State of the Union address next Tuesday. Directly after his speech, she’ll be popping by the beginning of BET’s Trump-focused Angela Rye’s State of the Union, a quarterly special bringing political commentator Rye and BET together to comment on Black American issues, according to Buzzfeed.

Waters is known for her fierce outspokenness, including a few viral moments during the past year, whether it’s been for her grilling of Treasury Secretary Steve Mnuchin during which she infamously “reclaimed her time”, or for that moment when she started an “Impeach 45!” chant at the 2017 Glamour Women of the Year Awards. She’s also a feminist icon: she recently wrote an essay for Glamour.com about how the Women’s March revived her faith in the younger generation.

Don’t expect her told hold back during the BET special. “Auntie Maxine,” as her devoted fans call her, has already made her feelings about the president quite clear. While politics is often jargon and spin, Waters hasn’t been afraid to say what’s really on her mind when it comes to Trump—or really anything.

“The most upsetting part is discovering that the person who won the election and became the president of the United States of America is a man who has no good values. His character astounds me,” she said in an interview with Glamour.com last June. “I can’t believe that we have a president who would lie, who would distort, and who does not appear to have an appreciation for government and how it works.”

Waters’ speech is not the official Democratic response to Trump’s first State of the Union—Representative Joe Kennedy of Massachusetts will be delivering that. But official or not, surely Waters will have plenty to say. Perhaps she’ll coin a new catchphrase?

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NBC's Katy Tur Swore She'd Never Follow Her Parents Into Journalism


My mom likes to say I’ve been covering news since the day I was born—longer if you count my time in utero. The day she went into labor, my parents were in Hollywood covering a shooting, a mugging gone wrong. There was no question my mom would join my dad at the scene, even if she was nine days overdue. They were a husband-and-wife reporting team, the founders of the Los Angeles News Service, so she grabbed her 17-pound tape deck, and off we went. Eighteen hours later the Tur family had another journalist in the world, though it would be more than 18 years before I knew it.

Looking back after more than a decade in live television, I suppose my career choice was inevitable. The sound of the police and fire scanner, which my parents relied on for stories, was my music box and my bedtime story. My mom says it’s the reason my first word was hot and, only half-jokingly, that my second and third were smoke and showing.

My parents got ahead in the news business with wits, guts, and a ­crea­tive interpretation of “fair game.” They leased their first helicopter in 1985, when KTLA news crews were on strike. Maybe the crews had good grievances, maybe not. Either way, my parents ignored the strike and went to work. They had a one-year-old at home (me) and another kid on the way.

After a few months with KTLA, they also had $30,000. With that down payment, plus a good sales pitch, my dad convinced Bell Helicopters to lease him a $250,000 chopper. TV news would never be the same.

Bob and Marika Tur were not the first to use a helicopter, but they were the first to do something memorable with one. My dad didn’t have his license yet when they got their first big scoop: Sean Penn and Madonna’s 1985 wedding on the coast of Malibu. He hired a pilot to hover 150 feet off the bluff, so close that Madonna flipped him the finger. He sold the pictures for six figures.

Soon they had settled into a routine: Dad flying, Mom on camera. She was fearless. She’d hang out over the skids, hundreds of feet in the air, a 30-pound Betacam on her shoulder. They couldn’t send the videos live, so they flew tapes from station to station, dropping them from the copter down to the roof where a producer waited. To keep the tapes from breaking on impact, my mom wrapped them in anything she had on hand, usually clothing. On busy days it wasn’t unusual for her to get back to the hangar in her underwear.

Meanwhile, my dad filed live radio reports, his hands on the controls and his eyes on the news unfolding below him. When I was five, he started asking me to work up my own live reports. In one, I tell the story of an imaginary fire in San Diego that ended with all my friends and me having a party at McDonald’s. And you know what? I wasn’t so bad. (See for yourself at glamour.com!) My mom and dad were “helicopter parents,” literally. Meaning, I didn’t have a nanny, so I went up in the helicopter. My entire early childhood education consisted of tagging along while they reported on car accidents, multiple-alarm fires, and shootouts.

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In elementary school I spent weekends in the air over Los Angeles. On a slow news day, my dad would fly us down to Catalina Island for lunch, or we’d fly low over the beach. Once, during the Rose Parade, I unbuckled my seat belt and opened the chopper door so I could get a better look at the floats. (Later, my dad said I almost gave him a heart attack. I wouldn’t have known—he was that cool under pressure.)

It was fun in retrospect. Kids are kids, though, and before long I thought our Christmas cards—me and my brother, with our dog, in flight headphones (see left)—were boring. Getting picked up from sleepaway camp in a helicopter was mortifying; so was the overhead cheering section during my softball games. By middle school I wanted nothing to do with the news.

I maintained that point of view even when a truck driver named Reginald Denny stopped in the wrong intersection at the wrong time at the outbreak of the 1992 L.A. riots. Bob and Marika were on the scene. When Denny got pulled from the driver’s seat by a group of gang members, they flew lower. When the mob pulled him to the ground and started kicking him, they got lower again—as low as 70 feet, close enough for bullets to damage the engine. It wasn’t about getting the shot anymore; it was about trying to save the man’s life by scaring off the crowd. But the crowd closed in, and the cops were nowhere in sight. With millions tuned in live, my dad declared that the LAPD had abandoned the city.

My brother and I watched from our grandparents’ house and then lived through the aftermath—not only of the riot but of the journalism. Gangs were angry about my parents’ coverage. We started getting death threats. My dad got his first concealed weapons permit. For years he wore a gun on his belt every day and slept with it under his pillow. Those were scary times.
Not even O.J. Simpson’s strange, slow-speed car chase was enough to reignite my interest in my parents’ job. In fact, when I saw their helicopter hovering over my school one day, I was convinced they were trying to spy on me and my friends. They were not. Simpson had led cops to his house, which happened to be nearby. My parents got the footage, made some serious money, and burnished their reputation.

Then, in 1998, when I was 14, it all fell apart. The main station my parents worked with got its own helicopter. It didn’t need my parents anymore, and didn’t want to need them. My dad had a temper and was tough to work with. In the months that followed, he had heart surgery, my grandmother died, and my parents lost their bearings, both professionally and personally. The bills piled up. The fancy vacations disappeared. The rent was late. And we stopped answering the phone because it was always a bill collector. Our dwindling bank account wasn’t the worst of it; for me, it was the loss of my role models. My parents were depressed and angry. Instead of looking to find a new path, something they were always so good at, they froze like a watch in an explosion. There was no more future, only the past. The news business broke us apart.

I went off to the University of California, Santa Barbara, on a boatload of loans, sights set on becoming a doctor or a ­lawyer. Stable. Predictable. Then a funny thing happened during my senior year. I was driving back to Santa Barbara from Los Angeles with my college boyfriend, when we ran into a roadblock—nothing major, a brushfire in Malibu. Instead of taking the detour, I wanted to drive straight—toward the flames—to see the action. So I reached into my wallet and grabbed the press pass my dad had made for me. What the hell, I thought. Let’s see if we can get in. I pulled up to the officer guarding the road and flashed my pass.

“Who do you work for?” he asked suspiciously.

“Los Angeles News Service,” I said.

He looked down, back at me, then down again. “Where’s your gear?”

“My crew is up ahead. They have the cameras.”

“All right,” he said. “Be careful.”

My boyfriend was awestruck. “I’ve never seen you more confident than you were just now, lying to that officer,” he said.

A couple of weeks later, a school counselor was telling me what LSAT score I’d need to get into UCLA when something clicked—or unclicked. I didn’t want to be a lawyer. I wanted to chase the news. I couldn’t say why, exactly. I still hated the camera. But suddenly journalism seemed like a lot more fun than pushing paper behind a desk in a faceless office building.
I told my dad about my decision over lunch. I thought he’d be excited; instead he was furious and condescending. “You might want to practice, ‘Do you want fries with that?’ because you’re never going to make it,” he said. He was convinced our name would get me blacklisted; I thought he was treating me like a child. The fight continued all the way to my front door, which I slammed in his face. We didn’t talk for a week.

I graduated in June 2005. In July of that year, I walked into my first job as a journalist—in, of all places, the KTLA newsroom. It smelled like must, dust, and videotape. Exactly as it did when I was little. I was home.

Katy Tur is a correspondent for NBC News. This piece is adapted from her book, Unbelievable: My Front-Row Seat to the Craziest Campaign in American History.



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