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Cate Blanchett on 'Where'd You Go, Bernadette': 'There Is No Such Thing as a Perfect Parent'


“It’s a complete oxymoron that we’ve all been [told] as women, the ‘perfect mother.’ There is no such thing as a perfect parent. You even still have conversations about mothers’ having to be sympathetic, or not do certain things,” Cate Blanchett tells me over the phone while we’re discussing her latest film, Richard Linklater’s Where’d You Go, Bernadette, in which she stars as Bernadette Fox, a character who is anything but a “perfect mother.”

For the uninitiated (i.e. those who haven’t read Maria Semple’s beloved 2012 novel that the movie’s based on), Bernadette is a former architect turned agoraphobic recluse. And though she’s criticized by the other mothers at her daughter’s expensive private school in suburban Seattle—including Audrey (Kristen Wiig), the queen of the PTA and Bernadette’s public enemy number one—it doesn’t matter as long as she’s still completely adored by her daughter, Bee (Emma Nelson).

But then, Bernadette’s life is turned upside down after Bee, who is about leave for boarding school, reveals her one wish before she goes: to take a family trip to Antartica. Bernadette agrees at first, then becomes more and more anxious about the impending journey. Eventually, it becomes her undoing. Halfway through the story, Bernadette disappears. Vanishes without a trace. To some—many, actually—that would be an unforgivable thing to do to your family. Bee, however, is the only one who understands her mother’s need to escape.

Bernadette (Cate Blanchett) with her daughter, Bee (Emma Nelson), during a chaotic school pickup.

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“It’s traditionally seen as being a monumentally unsympathetic thing for a mother to do,” Blanchett, a mother of four, says of Bernadette’s decision to leave.”But you have to empathetically get inside Bernadette—who can often be quite an alienating character—in order to understand. She has experienced massive creative failure, and she’s run away from it. All of her stuff has come up, and she’s got to deal with it in order to move onto the next chapter of her life.”

Playing Bernadette as a fully-formed character was somewhat of a challenge for Blanchett. In the book, the story is told through a series of documents, transcripts, and memos, allowing readers to understand Bernadette’s internal thoughts through her emails and correspondence. In the film, however, you’re watching Bernadette write these documents. Blanchett considered it her job to bring emotion to these moments as well as figure out the logistics. “When she sends an email, what is she actually doing when she sends it?” Blanchett explains. “[Because] it’s a lot of pain and grief that Bernadette is masking underneath her acerbic, relentlessly negative outpourings.”



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I Gained 20 Pounds Before My Wedding and It Was Still Perfect


When my wedding was over, I was relieved. It was the most fun I’ve ever had, sure, and I was happy to be married and so thankful to our family and friends, but I honestly couldn’t wait to get back to the hotel and take my wedding dress off—and never, ever put it back on.

When you get engaged and you tell the internet about it, weight loss pills and workout plans hashtagged #sweatingforthewedding will start to fill your feed. We don’t know you, those ads seem to say, but we know you’re getting married and we know somewhere inside you’re very nervous about what your arms will look like in your photos! The onslaught is inescapable. I wasn’t prepared for it, and it made me angry. I had spent the majority of my thirty years on earth at war with my body, and now I was finally happy! I had found love! Leave me alone!

I expect to see this kind of pushy and tone-deaf marketing from influencers on Instagram, but I thought we had been dedicating real time and effort lately in order to combat this message in mainstream media. I was wrong; the New York Times apparently felt the need to weigh in with an article titled “The Perfect Workout for Your Wedding Dress Silhouette.” After a raging backlash from women like me on social media, the Times attempted to do damage control by changing the headline to “Getting Married? Get Strong.”—a headline that doesn’t match the article’s content, which reads as a guide for women on how to change their bodies so they can be able to “rock” a specific kind of wedding dress on their big day.

Wearing a trumpet dress? The Times’ expert says this dress calls for a small waist and big hips, giving exercise routines to specifically “shape your hips and reduce the size of your waist, as well as tone your arms and abdomen.” An earlier version of the story—which has been “condensed” to take out some of the more offensive lines, including this one—suggested swimming as a way to burn calories before the big day, but warned against overdoing it “so that your back does not get too wide.”

Ma’am. If I am planning a wedding, you’re telling me I have to worry about how wide my back is? Thanks for the tip.

In the run-up to my wedding six months ago, I vowed to not let my body issues get to me. I didn’t want to miss such an important and special time in my life, like I have in the past. The night I graduated from college, my hair wasn’t cooperating and I couldn’t find anything in my closet to wear. Long story short, I stayed home and missed the campus-wide celebration, sulking around my apartment because I felt I wasn’t inhabiting a body that “deserved” to have fun. That was 10 years ago and I still think about it in regret. I will never be a college graduate again. That’s over. I was not going to make the same mistake for my wedding.



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'Fruit Nails' Are Trending, and They're Perfect for Summer


Jelly nail art has been all the rage this summer—decorating our fingers with a finish that’s part stained glass window, part squishy sandal throwback. There’s a nostalgic appeal to them we can’t get enough of, but the latest idea to arrive on our feeds might be even better. Enter fruit nails, which (like jelly nails) are a glossy, fun, and eye-catching.

There’s no single template for testing the trend, but we’re particularly enamored of New York nail artist Mei Kawajiri‘s take. Kawajiri recently shared the manicure she gave Gigi Hadid, involving a sheer base decorated with ultra-delicate kiwis, watermelons, and strawberries. “Summer vacation Nails no.2 is Fruits,” she declared in the image caption. Consider it the perfect way to celebrate the warmest days of the year.

Already, other nail artists have shown off all the ways you can mix and match the style on social media. You can do it Kawajiri’s way—with a natural base and dainty accents—or you can go for punchier neon colors that incorporate larger fruits and patterns. The possibilities are actually endless and there’s so much inspiration out there. Kawajiri even went on Instagram to show off tomato nails she did by painting teeny tiny tomato vines on a customer’s hand. Scroll through for a whole season’s worth of inspiration:

If you’re too busy to pop into the salon for a fresh serving of fruit nail art, you can still give yourself a DIY manicure at home with Olive & June’s fruit nail stickers. They have an adorable fruit salad mani kit that includes polish, top coat, and a set of decals for $22. Order up!





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Cherry Blond Hair Is the Perfect Shade for Summer


It’s around this time of summer that we’re looking for a way to shake things up a little bit (kind of like that February beauty rut, but make it hot and humid). And although finally going to that new brunch place or trying a yoga class are great, there’s not a lot that can compare to the “new hair, new me” rush switching up your hair color gives you. And while the jury still might be out on what will be the song of the summer, there is one contender and one contender only for hair color trend of the summer, and that’s cherry blond hair.

If you haven’t seen it on your Instagram feed already, let me explain: Picture rose gold hair—but up the saturation on the red and have the blond as the accent, rather than at the forefront, of the shade. It’s vibrant, bright, multidimensional, definitely unexpected, and it’s fun. Plus, there’s a version of it out there for everyone. In other words, it’s the perfect summer hair color.

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HelloGiggles, which noted the trend, also called out one of its early adopters: Maisie Williams. The Game of Thrones actress went for a lighter version of the look, with more of a pinkish-red shade that used her base color to add dimension.

You don’t have to do a solid color, either: Weave the shades throughout your hair as highlights instead.

Or go with an ombré look, which is gorgeous on darker shades.

And you can go super-multidimensional, too—I can’t even count the number of shades my eyes are seeing with this look.

Should you be nervous about making a bold leap when it comes to color, try a gloss to start. Last time my hair stylist bleached my hair, we decided to add in a wash of pink with one, just to switch things up a bit from my normal blond. Reader, I loved it. And although we went for a watercolor level of saturation over my hair (I called time when my hair was, confusingly, the color of a carrot), it helped get me comfortable playing with a different color—and imagine how I might look as a cherry blond.

If you’re ready to go all in? Bring pictures of the looks you love to your hair stylist. Because there are so many different variations on this trend—and a lot of it has to do with what base color you’re working with—it’s best to have a visual aid to show your stylist for inspo. (P.S. Don’t forget the Olaplex on your way out the door!)



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Saint Jane Luxury CBD Beauty Serum Is Perfect for Sensitive Skin


A little over a year ago, I interviewed top dermatologists about the CBD trend, the cannabis-derived cure-all that was beginning to blow up. An avalanche of CBD-spiked products started hitting shelves, each claiming that the weed compound would solve every skin woe imaginable. While I believed in the ingredient’s potential, it didn’t take long before it all started to feel pretty gimmicky.

I was born with Netherton Syndrome, an autoimmune condition that manifests in recurring rashes, hypersensitivity, redness, dryness, and flaking. Over the years, I’ve tested many products and found what works best for me, but I’m always curious about new treatments that could potentially do an even more effective job of soothing my skin. Cannabidiol (the chemical term for CBD) has shown clinical promise in reducing inflammation, but I had yet to try one that made a noticeable difference. The CBD serums and creams I tested didn’t cause flare-ups or adverse effects, but they also didn’t do much of anything. I was resigned to the fact that CBD beauty was just well-marketed hype until I stumbled upon the Saint Jane Luxury CBD Beauty Serum.

A few weeks ago, I went home for the weekend. My skin was not in its best state with the weather being so hellishly hot, and hibernating in air conditioning sounded like heaven. Sadly, the combination of the humid outside air mixed with the moisture-wicking AC wreaked havoc on my already-irate complexion. I ended up avoiding mirrors just so I wouldn’t have to look at the angry red patches that were quickly developing. After a few days went by with little improvement from my usual routine, I decided to see if anything else could help my situation. (This is the part of the story when things start looking up.)

With its chic black and gold packaging, Saint Jane’s serum instantly stood out to me, but the true test was what lay inside. I was pleasantly surprised by how hydrating it felt when I squeezed a few droplets on my chronically dry hands. Much to my surprise, I was completely mind-boggled by the results. A mere few minutes after slathering the rich, silky serum onto my skin, I looked in the mirror to find that the redness taking over my face had dialed down dramatically. In the days that followed, I didn’t use any other products with it; I simply applied it in the morning right after washing my face with a gentle cleanser and again at night. I marveled at how I woke up to instantly glowier, calmer-looking skin. My face tends to look much redder than my neck when it’s irritated, but a single application changed that. The texture on my cheeks had somehow evened out overnight—I have my fair share of over-the-counter products that impart good results, but none had ever alleviated my symptoms so quickly.

Kaleigh Fasanella



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20 Perfect Summer Shorts That Aren't Denim


We love our jean shorts just as much as the next person, but some days, we’re—gasp!—just not feeling the denim. (The horror, we know.) Hey, there are plenty of other bottoms primed for the summer months, so why invest all of our energies into a single trend? In the spirit of diversifying our wardrobes (and giving our cutoffs a breather), we found 24 on-trend shorts that have zero denim. From high-waisted styles to athleisure-inspired, banded-waist ones, we’ve got you covered from every angle.



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