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At the Makers Conference, This Year’s Takeaway: Beauty Shouldn’t be a Competitive Sport


Last week international beauty brand SK-II* invited me to attend the 2020 Makers Conference in California as a guest at their expense. I was delighted to accept—not just because I was excited to hear from the incredible women (and men) that Makers, a yearly event highlighting female change makers, had lined up as speakers, but because I was also intrigued by a new campaign that SK-II had just launched called #NoCompetition. Looking ahead to the 2020 Olympic Games in Tokyo, SK-II has enlisted up-and-coming athletes and sports legends (including 2016 Glamour Woman of the Year Simone Biles) to celebrate competition on the field, the floor, in the pool, and more—but take competition out of the equation when it comes to how we look, act, and feel.

In SK-II’s estimation, beauty shouldn’t be a competitive sport. That makes perfect sense when we’re thinking about who has the longest eyelashes, the clearest complexion, or the shiniest hair; that kind of competition is toxic and dated. But I hadn’t thought about how beauty competition affects athletes—yet it does. There’s the way the press embraces certain athletes but ignores others. Or when female athletes vie for endorsement deals and might be chosen based on their physical appearance rather than their performance.

Today SK-II has enlisted Biles, swimmer Liu Xiang, surfer Mahina Maeda, and others to continue the fight. As YoeGin Chang, the brand leader of SK-II Japan, explained in her talk at Makers: “Our mission is to help women change destiny by standing up against pressures and expectations that are pushed on us every day. We are saying no to competition in beauty, because it will be all the more beautiful when beauty is no competition.”

Me, getting ready to be inspired. 

In addition to hanging with Chang and the SK-II crew, I spent a lot of time at Makers enthralled with speakers who spoke to this year’s conference theme: Not Done. The fight for true equality isn’t over, is it? The journalist in me was enraptured by Meredith Levien, COO of the New York Times. She led the insurgency in the Times newsroom and is looking closely at the way we get news in today’s culture. Megan Smith, the former chief technology officer of the U.S. and current CEO of Shift7, gave a call to action about using the power of community to lift up innovators. One of those innovators is Bernice Dapaah, founder and CEO of the Ghana Bamboo Bikes Initiative, which uses local, sustainable bamboo to build bikes. Dapaah was one of many speakers who focused on sustainability and environmental issues. All of the environmental activists on stage encouraged every generation to be part of the fight against climate change and to take action in innovative ways.

I’m kind of addicted to forceful female business leaders, and I found one in the CEO of the Dallas Mavericks, Cynt Marshall. What an amazing speaker! As a woman who faced no shortage of misogyny in the corporate world, Marshall spoke about owning her authentic self and the ways all of us can help transform corporate cultures. Her focus at Makers was on her first 100 days with the Mavs, which included physically walking her team out of the building and back into a new values-based culture that prioritized diversity and inclusion.

Another speaker focused on change in the corporate workplace was Erica Chidi Cohen, CEO and cofounder of the well-being brand Loom. She’s an expert on body literacy, which is basically understanding our own sexual and reproductive health, and emphasizes that we need to integrate it into our workplaces and our schedules: She encourages women to make room to talk about periods, fertility challenges, and menopause at work—and to schedule big events, like board meetings and presentations, when they’re at the most energized point in their menstrual cycle. She made it clear that we need to bring men as allies into the conversation, and that we have to drop any shame we feel about our physiology and emotional state when it connects to functioning well as working women.

It wasn’t just the action on stage that inspired me—it was the connectivity I felt with the attendees seated around me. In this safe space, we were able to take a couple of days to envision what we wanted to do and how we were going to do it, examine the places where our work was not yet done and where we have the opportunity to make the greatest impact. SK-II got me started by talking about eradicating competition in the beauty space, but I realized that there should also be #NoCompetition when it comes to the opportunity to excel. We’ve moved away from thinking that there’s only room for one woman to run a company, launch a brand, or win a medal. By the time I walked out of Makers, I really did believe that when we’re playing the game together, we all win.

*SK-II is a Glamour and Condé Nast advertiser. The company underwrote this trip, but the story is my own.



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At Romance Writers of America Conference, Attendees Share Favorite Books (and Dispel Stereotypes)


“I stole my first romance novel from my mom. She saw me reading it and freaked out, because nobody should have to explain an orgasm to a five-year-old,” remembers Seattle-based author Olivia Waite. Decades later, her interest hasn’t faded. Waite is one of around 1,900 people in attendance at the Romance Writers of America conference in New York and among her people.

RWA is the largest annual meet-up for professional romance writers in the world, and the association behind it boasts more than 9,000 members, hundreds of whom make a point to attend its signature event. Because as Alabaman writer Louisa Cornell—who has been to 12 conferences—puts it, “Being a writer can be a very lonely job, especially with romance. This genre is picked apart and looked down on. When it’s a situation where it’s a lonely business, and you’re looked down on for what you write, being able to be with your tribe is very important.”

That sense of camaraderie makes the event feel more like a Panhellenic conference than a traditional work requirement. One woman—a doctor with aquamarine hair—trekked from Toulouse, France, just to be there. In another corner, two women set up shop on the floor, and, over pizza, explained that they’d met at a previous conference and had spent the past 12 months co-writing a romance series together. Seasoned veterans were quick to spot orange ribbons on attendees’ badges, an indication it’s the wearer’s first time, to help bring them into the fold.

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For these women, who often experience online harassment and are subjected to crude or dismissive assessments of their work, the chance to connect with writer and fans, judgment-free, is a welcome change. “I had a friend of my sister’s ask her how I could write romance novels even though I’m single,” recalls novelist Rebecca Connolly, who had come to New York from Indiana. The comment stung, but she’s used to the criticism. “People think if you write romance novels you’re silly, you’re writing ‘mom porn,’ or you’re setting everyone up for unrealistic expectations. It’s sad because it completely belittles our craft, which we put a lot of work and heart into it.” Jen Geigle Johnson, Connolly’s Denver-based writing partner and roommate at RWA, has also experienced this. “It’s a feminist issue,” Johnson says. “Romance is viewed as a ‘women’s genre,’ which is why it’s downplayed, but the imagery can be just as beautiful as a ‘literary work,’ even though you’re writing a love story.”

It can also be life-changing. While Waite, for example, started off her reading traditional, heteronormative romance stories, she soon decided to check out queer and lesbian literature, sometimes known as F/F in the genre. “I wanted to read more inclusively across sexuality and racial lines. Then I read F/F, and it was like staring into a mirror,” Waite says. She came out as bisexual, and has dedicated herself to writing within the sub-genre. “I wanted to write F/F novels because I wasn’t seeing enough of them in stores. It feels so magical to get more queer romance voices out there, because there’s a real divide between the lesbian romance presses and the mainstream ones.”

At Romance Writers of America Conference Attendees Share Favorite Books
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“There are young girls who are having a tough time with abusive boyfriends, who read young adult romance and see there’s a way out. There are older ladies who are widowed and read romance about women their age and realize there’s happiness still out there,” Cornell adds. “I wish people knew how much people’s lives are saved by these novels. Because there’s nothing better than laughing at a romantic comedy who’s just as clumsy, or spunky, as you are.”

Ready to dive into the happy endings? Read on for some of the RWA members’ favorite romance novels of all-time.



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Donald Trump Couldn't Tell the Difference Between Two Female Reporters During a News Conference


Donald Trump has boasted that “no one has more respect for women” than he does—but he sure seems to have trouble telling them apart.

The president struggled to tell the difference between two blonde female reporters at a joint news conference with Finnish President Sauli Niinistö on Monday. As Niinistö called upon a member of the Finland press corps to ask a question—a reporter who happened to be a woman with blonde hair—Trump interjected.

“Again? You’re going to give her the same one?” he asked, alluding to a different blonde-haired woman who had asked a question earlier.

“No, she is not the same lady,” Niinistö retorted. “They are sitting side by side.”

The reporter gamely offered her own insight, telling the President, “We have a lot of blonde women in Finland.” Then she got back to business, launching into a question about Finland’s role in the relationship between Russian and the U.S.

This isn’t the first time Trump has struggled to get through a basic interaction with the press. In the roughly seven months since he took office, his tempestuous relationship with the media has seen an impromptu press conference turn downright hostile, a campaign-style rally built mostly on media attacks, and a truly cringe-worthy moment when the President singled out an Irish reporter to compliment her “nice smile.”

As for Monday’s gaffe, even a cursory glance would indicate that the two women who were subjects of the President’s mix-up, Maria Annala and Paula Vilén, don’t really look alike:

As Annala lamented, “We have a lot of blonde women in Finland” could, sadly, be her journalistic legacy forever.



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Donald Trump Just Had an Unhinged Press Conference. Here Are 16 of the Most Offensive Moments


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On Saturday afternoon, a 20-year-old man with a history of domestic violence plowed a car through a group of people who had assembled in Charlottesville to protest a flood of white supremacists, neo-Nazis, and other far-right groups that had descended on the Virginia city (The reason these alt-righters were there: to protest the dismantling of statue of Robert E. Lee). The incident left 32-year-old woman Heather Heyer dead and over a dozen others injured. While the rest of the country—and much of the world—watched in horror as these events unfolded, President Donald Trump offered a tepid statement condemning “in the strongest possible terms” an “egregious display of hatred, bigotry, and violence, on many sides. On many sides.”

Trump’s failure to specifically denounce white supremacy did not go unnoticed, and on Monday, the President finally acquiesced to mounting pressure to be more forceful in his criticism. “Racism is evil,” he said, “and those who cause violence in its name are criminals and thugs, including the KKK, neo-Nazis, white supremacists, and other hate groups that are repugnant to everything we hold dear as Americans.” But in a press conference held at Trump Tower in New York City on Tuesday meant to honor the administration’s “Infrastructure Week”, Trump launched into a tirade of off-the-cuff comments about the events Charlottesville. Based on his remarks, not only did it seem apparent that Trump had been forced to make his more declarative statement on Monday, but he also appeared to resent those who believe that a president should denounce such abhorrent beliefs.

From the members of the press who were in attendance, just how volatile Trump was on Tuesday afternoon became readily apparent.

He began answering questions by bragging about the house he owns in Charlottesville—and how it’s also the home one of the “largest wineries” in the U.S. (The winery includes a disclaimer on its website that it is “not owned, managed or affiliated with Donald J. Trump, The Trump Organization or any of their affiliates,” despite the fact that Eric Trump is the company’s president.)

He then indicated that it took him two days to condemn white supremacy because he wanted to know all the facts (Something he’s been perfectly comfortable doing in the past).

Trump also that Heather Heyer’s mother has had nothing but good things to say about him—hardly the most important thing to note when talking about the family of a victim of terrorism.

He then argued that the anti-fascist counter-protesters did not have proper permits and reverted back to his “many sides” defense.

He then suggested that the white supremacists, neo-Nazis, and far-right groups were teeming with Confederate War buffs who simply didn’t want to see a statue of Robert E. Lee taken down.

And finally, Trump defaulted to his fail-safe defense: Blaming Barack Obama.

Of course, Trump’s comments quickly inspired new waves of scorn, criticizing the President for being callous and unhinged in the face of such a tragic event—and the growing white nationalist movement that’s been energized by his presidency.

And his comments drew ire from members of Congress…

…as well as Harry Potter author (and noted anti-Trumper) J.K. Rowling

In fact, even members of the Fox News team were outraged by his remarks.



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