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Abby Wambach on How She's Supporting the U.S. Women's Soccer Team in Their Fight Against Gender Discrimination


On March 8—International Women’s Day, no less—28 members of the world champion United States women’s soccer team filed a gender discrimination suit against U.S. Soccer. “Each of us is extremely proud to wear the United States jersey, and we also take seriously the responsibility that comes with that,” team member Alex Morgan told the Associated Press. “We believe that fighting for gender equality in sports is a part of that responsibility. As players, we deserved to be paid equally for our work, regardless of our gender.”

The U.S. women’s soccer team first began their fight for equal compensation in 2016, when five players filed a complaint with the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) asking to be paid as much as the players on the men’s team. But the EEOC has still not issued a decision in their case. Then in 2017, they negotiated a new collective bargaining agreement—which increased their salaries and practice conditions—with U.S. Soccer that will run through 2021. And so the new gender discrimination suit is a further step—one that former soccer player, coach, and two-time Olympic gold medalist Abby Wambach cheers.

Since she retired from the sport in 2015, Wambach has dedicated herself to ending sex discrimination. At Barnard College’s graduation in 2018, Wambach turned her commencement address into a call to action. She told the graduating class, “Like all little girls, I was taught to be grateful. I was taught to keep my head down, stay on the path, and get my job done. I was freaking Little Red Riding Hood. The message is clear: Don’t be curious, don’t make trouble, don’t say too much, or bad things will happen. I stayed on the path out of fear—not of being eaten by a wolf—but of being cut, being benched, losing my paycheck. If I could go back and tell my younger self one thing, it would be this: ‘Abby, you were never Little Red Riding Hood, you were always the wolf.’” The speech has been viewed over 180,000 times and inspired her upcoming book, WOLFPACK, a guide for women to unlock their own power.

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Watch Wambach deliver her viral address at Barnard College’s 2018 commencement

As the highest all-time goal scorer for the national team—and the world record holder for international goals for both female and male soccer players with a whopping 184 goals—Wambach is one of the most recognizable face in women’s soccer. But for much of her career, Wambach explains she felt so fortunate to be able to compete in the game she loved that she never fought to be appropriately compensated for shattering those records. It’s a choice she now deeply regrets. Wambach could see just how badly the women’s team had been treated—and decided her decades of silence and servitude to the sport were over.

Wambach now travels the country as a crusader for equal pay across all industries, telling women that feeling “grateful” for their work should never stop them from demanding what they’re entitled to. Here, she opens up to Glamour about the U.S. women’s soccer team’s revolutionary discrimination suit—and how she champions the team from the sidelines.

Glamour: In your viral Barnard speech, you describe this moment when you appeared at the ESPY Awards, side by side with Peyton Manning and Kobe Bryant—and it dawned on you that they had so much more financial security going into retirement than you. What was it like to have that realization, then go back to your hotel room?

Abby Wambach: I played professional sports, so I lived a very privileged life where I was traveling the world representing my country. At the time, I thought this was better than most women’s experience, because I was really successful. But then I got back to the hotel and I started to understand what had really gone on here, and it was this anger-provoking moment that made me realize that even though I felt that I was one of the women who got a seat at the table, next to Kobe and Peyton, I was walking into a very different retirement. For me, that was the minute I figured out what I was going to do for the rest of my life: I was going to focus that energy and that rage, which turned into my Barnard speech, and now this book. It’s a sobering moment for women when we’re made very aware of where we stand in the order of things. But I don’t like to just sit into despair, I’m about action—so this is my attempt to help change the realities of women everywhere.



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9 Mantras From Abby Wambach and More “Warrior Women” to Help You Get Through the Day


Last night Abby Wambach (two-time Olympic gold medalist, also—ahem—part of the U.S. Women’s Soccer Team named 2015 Glamour Women of the Year) took the stage in Cincinnati as part of the girl-power-fueled Hello Sunshine x Together storytelling tour (more on that here) and the group kicked off their conversation by sharing the mantras they keep going back to. Regardless of what you’re going through, it seems there’s a mantra among them that could work for anyone, whether you’re the highest-scoring women’s professional soccer player ever, in the world (Abby) or a mom with two kids under three and half (Priya Parker, who also happens to be a best-selling author). So we went ahead and rounded up mantras from all of the “warrior women” for you below. Pick the one that best applies, take a deep breath, and repeat as needed.

And if you need some in-person inspiration, click here to see when the Hello Sunshine x Together tour is coming to your neighborhood. There are still stops in Ann Arbor; Chicago; Minneapolis; Fayetteville, Arkansas; and Austin, with different super-inspiring “warrior women” sharing their stories every night.

“Go off the path.” We all know the Little Red Riding Hood story. Little Red Riding Hood has to stay on the path or she’ll run into the Big Bad Wolf. But I think a mantra I recently realized I’ve lived by, without knowing it, was “Go off the path.” Everything good and beautiful in my life has happened when I ventured off the path, and I realized that, in fact, there was no Big Bad Wolf. —Abby Wambach, soccer superstar

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“It’s not what happens, it’s what happens next.” When something’s gone upside down, or not the way I wanted it to, I remind myself, “Well, that’s the one thing I don’t have control over, what already happened. But my response to that, and what I do next, is the thing I do have control over.” —Jennifer Rudolph Walsh, one of the co-founders of the tour, entertainment and media exec, who emcees the events

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“Keep zen and try again.” In my music career, I made some good calls and I made some bad calls. And I sometimes made choices in favor my truth and sometimes I made choices in hopes of pleasing others. Every time, when I look at my mistakes, I say, “Keep zen and try again.” That actually came because my computer crashed. And I was going to tear my hair out. But now I implement it in all different places in my life. —MILCK, singer-songwriter

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“There is enough time for all things.” I’m the mother of two under 3 1/2 and I find myself in this deep debate where I’m like, “Life is short. And life is LONG.” And so those moments where I’m like, “Ahhhhhh, I can’t do ALL this stuff!” I think, “There is enough time for all things.” —Priya Parker, author of The Art of Gathering

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“We can do hard things.” I don’t know if anyone else has gotten sober before, but it’s unbelievably difficult. When I was 25 and getting sober and teaching third grade, and I felt like life was so difficult. And I thought, “Maybe I can’t do it.” It was so hard for me. And so each day I would take my class past the classroom of my friend, where a little sign on the wall said, “We can do hard things.” So when the kids would say, “I can’t do this, it’s hard,” she would say to them, “Oh no, it’s supposed to be hard. Hard is OK. We can do hard things.” And I don’t know why it just changed everything for me, but I thought, “It’s not supposed to be easy.” Right? It’s not supposed to be easy. I’m not doing it wrong because it’s not easy. It’s hard and it’s supposed to be hard. And the “we” thing always sticks with me. When it’s getting too hard, it’s because I’m trying to do it alone. It’s not “I can do hard things.” I cannot do hard things. It’s WE, together. —Glennon Doyle, author-activist (also one of co-founders the tour; also Abby’s wife)

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I have three: “Yes you can can.” You have to try to do things. Most of the things you try to do won’t kill you. If they will, don’t try that. But along with that, you have to dream big. And if your dream turns into a nightmare, you find a new dream. “Don’t hang out with mean people.” There are billions and billions of people. If you can’t find anyone who’s decent, get a cat. And finally, “It’s OK to be uncomfortable.” I think we’re all really worried about making people uncomfortable. But if my need to exist, safe and equal, makes you uncomfortable, I’m OK with that. —Maysoon Zayid, comedian



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Abby Sams Wanted to See More Disabled Models in Fashion—so She Entered an Aerie Contest


When Abby Sams entered a contest to model for Aerie, she didn’t know that a viral online moment would come with the winning package. The 20-year-old college student, who has multiple chronic illnesses and uses a wheelchair, saw it as a chance to increase representation for disabled women in fashion. “My immediate thought was, There are never disabled models that enter these things, or at least enter and win,” she tells Glamour via email. “Which was then followed by my second thought, [It] wouldn’t hurt to try!”

So Sams completed the contest entry requirements: She filmed a video explaining what “Aerie Real” meant to her (“It means beauty comes in all shapes, sizes, ethnicities, and abilities,” she says), submitted it, and moved on with studying for her finals. She got the news that she’d be starring in the brand’s “Aerie Bras Make You Feel Real Good” campaign in late May. “I was in utter shock,” she remembers. “I literally couldn’t believe it was real.”

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Sams joined 56 other women—from brand spokespeople (or Role Models) Iskra Lawrence and Aly Raisman to fellow contest winners, which included a cancer survivor, a woman who uses crutches, a woman with a colostomy bag, and a woman with an insulin pump—for an unretouched photoshoot at Aerie’s Pittsburgh headquarters.

She recalls being impressed by the care that went into making the set accessible to all participants: “The world is an obstacle course [for me], and I was ready to not be able to participate in a lot of things on set,” she explains. “I was beautifully surprised with how accessible they made everything and how much they went out of their way to help me if something wasn’t accessible.”

On July 11 Aerie quietly released photos from the bra campaign on its website. As soon as she saw them, Sams shared the images with her Twitter followers: “@Aerie just sneakily released some of my photos! Look at this disability representation people!!!” she wrote.

Overnight, Sams’ tweet went viral. Her initial post racked up over 24,000 likes and 5,000 retweets.

It’s not hard to see why the Internet had such a strong reaction to those images: The “Aerie Bras Make You Feel Real Good” campaign, which officially launches on August 2, embodies a new level of commitment to portraying “real” shoppers, one largely fueled by actual customers. There are a range of women—at various points on the spectrums of ability, age, illness, and size—represented, proudly wearing the same Aerie bras.

But Sams didn’t anticipate the flood of positive feedback from social media users. “I was initially afraid that there would be a lot of rude comments, since disabled models aren’t really a thing,” she says. “Instead, I was overwhelmed with support and love and so many people saying how much it meant […] that they had someone that looked like them, or had the same chronic illnesses as them, in big media.”

“I’ve had a lot of people with my same chronic illnesses message me and say that finding out we shared illnesses made them feel less alone[,]” Sams says. “It gave a lot of people confidence in themselves and started a fire in a lot of people.”

The campaign has been praised by multiple outlets as an example of authentic inclusion in fashion imagery.

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Sams was a fan of Aerie’s body-positive ethos before modeling for the brand. “Seeing models with stretch marks and belly rolls meant a lot to a lot of people, myself included,” she says of the first #AerieREAL ads from 2014. She believes featuring women with chronic illnesses and disabilities is an even bigger move for the company.

Sams became chronically ill during high school, which was a critical time for her body image and mental health. “I had never seen myself represented after I got sick in media like this,” she says. “When I was younger, I was able-bodied and didn’t really think about it—at that time, I was upset [that] all the models were tall and thin.” She wants Aerie’s campaign to change how able-bodied shoppers perceive women with disabilities: “I want to normalize diversity and disability. I want [people] to see it and know that limitations don’t mean I’m sitting at home, wallowing in self pity. I can do things and have fun and be a model, all while being chronically ill, and that’s normal.”

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According to Sams, representing all of their customers in their promotional imagery is just the start of what brands can do to become more inclusive. The in-store shopping experience is often difficult for her—boutique-style stores are too narrow for her to maneuver her wheelchair, and “accessible” dressing rooms are often crowded with furniture for able-bodied guests. “I’m very unlikely to go back to a store if I didn’t feel welcome because I was in a wheelchair or because I couldn’t maneuver through the store,” she says.

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Sams sees her appearance in Aerie’s campaign—which will appear both on its website and in its stores—as an opportunity for more brands to recognize their diverse customers and cast their campaigns accordingly. “We’re here. We exist. We want to feel beautiful,” she says. “Aerie really set the bar high with the diversity in [its] models, so I’m hoping I can expect to see the same level of diversity in other brands as well.”

We hope for the exact same thing.

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