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*Broken Harts*, Episode 2: 'If Not Us, Who?'


Online, the Hart family seemed perfect. From lengthy, paragraphs-long Facebook posts to intimate YouTube videos, Jen Hart consistently painted the idyllic picture of a family of eight—”The Hart Tribe,” as many called them—exploring, laughing, dancing, and singing together. They were the quintessential happy family—or so it consistently seemed.

In one particular YouTube video Jen posted back in 2013, four of the Hart children can be seen singing along to the song “We Are So Provided For” by Nahko Bear, whose band Nahko and Medicine for the People was one the family had seen perform at various alternative music festivals over the years. In the two-minute clip, the children are standing in what appears to be the Harts’ living room; Devonte is seen dancing with a bongo drum, Abigail is holding a guitar, and Jeremiah is shaking a maraca while Hannah dances off to the side.

Is this a candid moment…or an artfully constructed illusion?

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We don’t know when Jen and Sarah Hart decided they wanted children. It’s possible they’d always wanted to be moms, though Sarah did once tell a former colleague that she wished she’d known she didn’t have to have a big family. In 2004, when Jen and Sarah were in their mid-twenties, they took in a 15-year-old foster daughter. But according to Jordan Smith, with whom the Harts worked at the department store Herberger’s in Alexandria, Minnesota, the women’s foray into new parenthood was bumpy. “It didn’t feel like they really had interest in developing her as a person and giving her the tools she needed to be a successful adult,” Smith tells our field reporter Lauren Smiley. “I just felt so sorry for the girl.”

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The interior of the Hart family’s garage after the family died in March 2018.

After Jen and Sarah died in March, their former foster daughter told the Seattle Times that she remembers Jen and Sarah showing her pictures of three young children they were planning to adopt. The women said her she was going to be a big sister. But that’s not what happened. Jen and Sarah dropped their foster daughter at a therapist’s office and never returned.

Two years later, in 2006, Jen and Sarah adopted those three siblings from the Texas foster system: Marcus, then seven, Hannah, four, and Abigail, two. Of their first night as a family of five, Jen wrote on Facebook: “How can a child even know what they want when they haven’t EVER been gifted with what they NEED. If not us—WHO? At 25 years old, we didn’t have any parenting experience under our belts, but we had boatloads of love, compassion, intelligence, and the natural instincts to navigate these wild and unchartered [sic] waters. There was no way on earth we were going to toss these children back into an incredibly broken and abysmal foster care system.”

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Not long after welcoming their first three kids, a picture of the new Hart family of five appeared on an adoption agency website: Jen and Sarah were seeking up to three more kids, up to eight years old.

Then, in the spring of 2008, Jen and Sarah took in three more foster kids: five-year-old Devonte and his younger siblings, Jeremiah, four, and Sierra, three. The siblings were also from Texas, and they’d been removed from their mother’s home in Houston. The Hart Tribe—and its engaging social media presence as an idyllic family of eight—was officially born. In a 2012 video, below, the children can be heard giggling as Jen hands Jeremiah an earthworm.

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Subscribe now to our new podcast, Broken Harts, from Glamour and HowStuffWorks and based on this story from the October 2018 issue of Glamour. New episodes will air each Tuesday; find them on Apple, Google, Spotify, or wherever you like to get your podcasts. For the full transcript of this episode, click here. Have any tips, feedback, or questions? Email us at brokenhartspodcast@gmail.com



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Broken Harts, Episode 1: Fear


On March 26, 2018, a German tourist spots a flipped 2003 GMC Yukon XL at the foot of a steep cliff, off U.S. Highway 101 near Mendocino, California. In what appears to be a horrific accident, the vehicle had driven off the cliff and plummeted more than 100 feet to the rocks below. The car’s passengers, many of whom are found either inside or near the vehicle, are pronounced dead at the scene. They were two moms, Jen and Sarah Hart, who were white, and three of their adopted black children—Markis, 19, Abigail, 14, and Jeremiah, also 14.

Two weeks later the body of 12-year-old Sierra, the youngest adopted Hart child, washes ashore. The Harts’ other adopted children, Hannah, 16, and Devonte, 15, are not immediately found. At the release of this podcast, their whereabouts remain a mystery, though they are believed to have been in the car. A foot found near the crash site, widely believed to have been Hannah’s, is being tested for DNA.

Below, a closer look at the crash site, courtesy of Broken Harts field reporter Lauren Smiley.

In the weeks following the incident, upsetting new details begin to emerge: None of the victims in the car was wearing a seatbelt. Jen, who had been at the wheel, had an elevated blood alcohol level, while Sarah and two of the kids had an ingredient commonly found in Benadryl in their system. The speedometer was stuck at 90 miles per hour.

In episode one of Broken Harts, we delve into the questions on the minds of so many: What happened that day in March? And why did it happen? And, as we uncover over the course of reporting this story, the truth isn’t always one-sided.

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The cliff where the wreckage of the family was found on March 26, 2018

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The rocky coastline near where the Harts’ Yukon was discovered by a German tourist

This story starts in small-town South Dakota, where Sarah Gengler and Jen Hart both grew up. The women met in 1999 when they were 20, in Aberdeen as undergrads. Once they did come out as a couple, “the Midwestern mind-set was relentlessly unforgiving and unaccepting,” Jen said in a Facebook post, claiming she’d lost friends as a result. The pair eventually moved to the lake town of Alexandria, Minnesota, where they worked at Herberger’s, the biggest department store in the Viking Plaza Mall.

When Sarah became a manager, she placed a cuddly photo of herself and Jen on her desk—a bold move for the time. Sarah and Jen were different but seemed to complement each other. Sarah was emotional, quiet, and introspective. Jen was confident, assertive, and “intimidating,” as a former colleague described her.

In 2006, Jen and Sarah adopted their first set of siblings: Markis, 8, Hannah, 4, and Abigial, 2. And in February 2009, they officially adopted Devonte, 5, Jeremiah, 4, and Sierra, 3.

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In 2013 the family relocated to West Linn, Oregon, a small suburb located 30 miles south of Portland. Over the years the pair became regulars at inclusive “transformational” festivals, always joined by their kids, interacting with musical acts, carrying motivational signs, and dressing in colorful costumes. One YouTube clip shows Devonte in a zebra costume, holding a “Free Hugs” sign and embracing musician Xavier Rudd as he performs, shirtless, for a crowd of adults.

Between shows, the festival crowd kept tabs on one another on Facebook, where Jen racked up the likes. “She was a master poster,” a friend recalls. Her feed showed Abigail and Devonte eating breakfast with hens perched on their heads (“Vegetarian chicken and waffles”); Devonte, Jeremiah, and Sierra painting on the living room floor (“Mini Jackson Pollocks”); all six kids grinning with a “Kindness is contagious” sign (“Redwood nation is about to get blasted with kindness”). Each post reaffirmed the storyline: two moms and their rehabilitated kids thriving against all odds. The narrative was, “You saved them, awesome,” says family friend Ian Sperling: “Everyone was envious. They were the perfect people with the perfect kids.”

Jen also often took to Facebook to comment on how the family she was born into bore little resemblance to the one she and Sarah built from scratch. “Apparently my 5-year-old self needed to remind this 36-year-old self about following the dream,” she wrote on Facebook in May of 2016. “My heart is still yearning for a special piece of land where our family can live more sustainably, grow, create, hold space for community gatherings, and thrive in a more natural setting. It’s time to delve into making this lifelong dream a reality.” It was important to her, it seems, to prove to everyone that she was in charge of her own destiny—”unforgiving and unaccepting” naysayers be damned.

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The following year the family relocated once more—to Woodland, Washington, where Jen bragged of their greenhouse, a coterie of farm animals, and the nature that enveloped their home. Jen Hart often painted an idyllic picture of her blended family. In lengthy, paragraphs-long posts, Jen spun the tale of a loving couple raising a brood of six happy, adopted children. Somehow the smoke and mirrors of Jen’s Facebook feed successfully fooled even those closest to her.

On March 24, two days prior to the discovery of the crash, Sarah’s coworkers at Kohl’s, where she worked as assistant manager, received a text from their friend at 3:00 A.M. saying she was too sick to open the store later that morning. When she hadn’t heard from Sarah by that afternoon, Kohl’s employee Cheryl Hart (no relation) called 911:

In this recording, Cheryl notes that when she tried to contact Sarah it seemed as if “her phone is now dead.”

That same morning the Hart’s neighbors, Bruce and Dana DeKalb, noticed that the Harts’ Yukon is no longer in the driveway, and that the bright red kayak normally affixed to its roof had been removed and left behind.

Bruce and Dana DeKalb at home in Washington in July 2018.

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Bruce and Dana DeKalb at home in Woodland, Washington, in July 2018

This wasn’t the first time the DeKalbs had worried about the welfare of the Hart children. The previous summer Hannah Hart appeared on their doorstep, visibly upset. She frantically explained she’d jumped out of her second-floor window to escape from her moms. “Hide me,” she pleaded. “They whip us with a belt… Don’t make me go back! They’re racists, and they abuse us!”

A note 16-year-old Hannah gave the DeKalbs after begging them to “protect” her in 2017.

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A note 16-year-old Hannah gave the DeKalbs after begging them to “protect” her in 2017. It reads: “I stopped this morning because I feel awful about disturbing your peace and worring [sic] you in the middle of the night. I was very frustrated with my brother and didn’t handle things very maturely, and I’m sorry for telling lies to get attention. I’m working on being more honest and find better ways to communicate my frustrations. I’ve been pretty sad about 2 of our cats dying recently, so I was just very sad and frustrated last night. Thank you for being kind.”

Dana’s father, Steve Frkovich, had placed a 911 call months later to report suspected abuse in the Hart household. “I think there’s something very serious going on there,” he tells the dispatcher. Listen to the call below.

Upon investigation, the police said there is “no indication of ongoing issues.”

In pictures and in public the family appeared to be an emblem of warmth, love, and protection, but postmortem accounts of the Hart Tribe, as many called them, paint a very different picture. Who were the Harts? What were they hiding? We delve into that, and more, in episode 2 of Broken Harts, “If Not Us—WHO?” out Tuesday, 12/11.

Subscribe now to our new podcast, Broken Harts, from Glamour and HowStuffWorks and based on this story from the October 2018 issue of Glamour. New episodes will air each Tuesday; find them on Apple, Google, Spotify, or wherever you like to get your podcasts. For the full transcript of this episode, click here.



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Every Single Time Meghan Markle's Broken Royal Protocol


Meghan Markle is often described as a royal “rule-breaker,” which is both flattering and disconcerting. On the one hand, it’s admirable Markle is becoming a royal on her own terms and not paying much attention to some of the archaic traditions upheld by the family.

But these so-called “rules” Markle is breaking are so outdated and minute, the Internet often praises her for doing things as simple as wearing her hair down. It feels a bit backwards to talk about women in these terms, so perhaps there should be a change in what we expect from female royals.

One way to do that is to examine all the times Markle broke this so-called “royal protocol.” You’ll see many of the items are quite ridiculous, which begs the question: Why are we policing royal women in these ways? Take a look, below, and chew on that thought.

1. Her sleeveless looks. Markle wore a dress with an off-the-shoulder neckline to Queen Elizabeth’s Trooping of the Colour ceremony in June, setting off a media firestorm. According to The Sun, it’s customary for royal women to “not wear off-shoulder or other more revealing styles.”

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2. Markle’s Coat of Arms. The Duchess of Sussex received her crest directly from Kensington Palace shortly after her wedding, which breaks with royal tradition. Typically, the Coat of Arms is bestowed upon the bride’s father, so in Markle’s case, it should’ve gone to Thomas Markle. That didn’t happen for...various reasons…so Markle snagged the Arms herself.

3. Her bridal procession. Markle began her walk down the aisle at St. George’s Chapel alone and was later joined by Prince Charles. Those first few moments of solitude were groundbreaking.

Prince Harry Marries Ms. Meghan Markle - Windsor Castle

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4. Markle’s wedding cake choice. She went with lemon elderflower. Traditionally, royal weddings have included fruitcakes.

5. Her political commentary. It’s customary for royals to stay out of political debates and remain neutral. However, Markle seemingly broke this unspoken rule in February when she vocalized her opinions about Time’s Up and female empowerment during a panel discussion at The Royal Foundation. “What’s interesting is that I hear a lot of people saying, when talking about girls‘ empowerment and women as well, you’ll often hear people saying, ‘You’re helping them find their voices,'” she said. “I fundamentally disagree with that. Women don’t need to find their voice. They need to feel empowered to use it, and people need to be encouraged to listen.”

6. Her cross-body bags. There’s no formal rule that prohibits these types of purses, but royal women typically opt for clutches. Some reports say this is so they can avoid shaking hands with people, which brings us to…

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7. Hugs, selfies, and autographs. Markle hugged several children on a January trip to Wales, which is considered outside the norm for a royal. They also don’t really take selfies or sign autographs, both of which Markle’s reportedly done in the past (notably on a trip to Cardiff.) When Prince Charles is asked for an autograph, he reportedly says, “Sorry, they don’t allow me to do that.”

Prince Harry And Meghan Markle Visit Cardiff Castle

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8. Her wedding speech. Markle reportedly gave a very touching speech at her own royal wedding, which is something typically reserved for the notable male figures at the event: the groom, the Best Man, the father of the bride, etc.

9. When she spent Christmas with the royal family. This went against royal protocol because typically only married couples can join the queen for Christmas. Markle and Prince Harry were just engaged at the time.

10. The pantyhose. Markle’s been consistently wearing pantyhose since tying the knot with Prince Harry; however, she broke the unspoken rule about exposed legs in November during her engagement announcement.

Announcement Of Prince Harry's Engagement To Meghan Markle

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11. The fact Markle is divorced. A royal marrying someone who was previously married is rare, and certainly breaks with tradition. It should go without saying this custom (and many of these) are outdated.

12. Markle and Prince Harry’s PDA. By PDA, we mean hand-holding, but even that breaks with royal protocol to a certain degree. Consider the fact Prince William and Kate Middleton are rarely photographed holding hands.

Royal Ascot 2018 - Day 1

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13. The sermon at her wedding. Instead of choosing a standard British clergyman, Markle and Prince Harry went with Bishop Michael Curry, whose speech at their wedding was a highlight of the day.

14. Markle and Prince Harry’s first post-wedding kiss. Because Markle and Prince Harry didn’t get married at Buckingham Palace, they couldn’t share an iconic kiss on the balcony. Instead, they opted for a smooch right outside Windsor Castle, where they exchanged their vows.

Prince Harry Marries Ms. Meghan Markle - Windsor Castle

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15. Markle’s lack of Maid of Honor at her wedding. She had too many good friends to choose from. If you remember, Pippa Middleton was Kate’s Maid of Honor in 2011.

16. Her messy bun. Royal women’s up-dos are historically tight and in-place. Markle’s bun look from January 2018, however, was loose, free, and a total deviation.

Prince Harry visit to Cardiff Castle

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17. Markle reportedly turning her back to the queen at the Royal Ascot. Granted, this is just a rumor, but if so this would be a break from tradition, as well. Customarily, you don’t turn your back to the queen.

18. The “duchess slant.” Royal women have a traditional way of crossing their legs, which Markle seemingly forgot during an appearance last month; however, she quickly corrected it. Of course, this didn’t stop trolls for coming after her. Again, this feels like an…unnecessary rule.

Christopher Rosa is Glamour’s entertainment staff writer.

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Lena Dunham and Jack Antonoff Have Broken Up After Five Years of Dating


Lena Dunham and longtime boyfriend Jack Antonoff have ended their five-year relationship, reps for both confirmed to People. Though the breakup was reportedly “amicable,” E! News sources say the couple actually called it off in December and have kept it quiet until now.

There’s no bad blood, however. “It was mutual,” the source claims. “Jack and Lena were growing apart and it just made sense for them to end their relationship where it was.”

The pair, who began dating in 2012 after meeting on a blind date, made their last public appearance as a couple nearly a year ago at a Grammys pre-party. And though they were rarely seen in public together, their affection for one another was always evident. In October, Dunham wrote an essay about her love for Antonoff for Variety to celebrate his entry in the publication’s “New Power of New York” list.

“It’s safe to say that before Jack my life was full of far fewer sights. He showed me the importance of making political statements using your public platform,” she wrote. “He showed me the joy of collaboration. He showed me the magic of his home state of New Jersey and turned the butt of my snotty New Yorker jokes into a glimmering fantasyland. I know he does the same for all the artists he produces for, the fans who come to his shows and the recipients of his love. I try and share nicely.”

For his part, Antonoff told Vulture in 2014 that he felt an instant connection to the actress, activist, and director. “I told Lena everything about my whole life, because when you really like someone, you want them to know everything about you,” he said.

Dunham and Antonoff last appeared on social media together in October, when Dunham shared a photo of the two hugging with the caption, “Since I dyed my hair blue he sings a song about how I am a troll looking for some trolls snacks and troll friends and he’s not wrong.”

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Matt Lauer Has Broken His Silence on Sexual Harassment Allegations


Following his swift termination from NBC’s Today, Matt Lauer has broken his silence about sexual harassment allegations that have been brought forward against him.

Taking the form of a statement read by Savannah Guthrie at the start of Thursday morning’s broadcast, Lauer’s remarks acknowledged and apologized for some, but not all, of his reported behavior:

“There are no words to express my sorrow and regret for the pain I
have caused others by words and actions. To the people I have hurt, I
am truly sorry. As I am writing this I realize the depth of the damage
and disappointment I have left behind at home and at NBC. Some of what
is being said about me is untrue or mischaracterized, but there is
enough truth in these stories to make me feel embarrassed and ashamed.
I regret that my shame is now shared by the people I cherish dearly.
Repairing the damage will take a lot of time and soul searching and
I’m committed to beginning that effort. It is now my full time job.
The last two days have forced me to take a very hard look at my own
troubling flaws. It’s been humbling. I am blessed to be surrounded by
the people I love. I thank them for their patience and grace.”

On Wednesday, Guthrie and fellow co-host Hoda Kotb began Today with an announcement that Lauer had been fired following “a detailed complaint from a colleague about inappropriate sexual behavior in the workplace.” Though NBC News Chairman Andy Lack told employees that it was the first complaint of this nature to be filed against the former anchor, “we were also presented with reason to believe this may not have been an isolated incident.”

Not long after news broke, Variety published a shocking report detailing Lauer’s alleged sexual harassment—which included gifting a sex toy to one female coworker (alongside a note detailing how he planned to use it on her) and installing a button under his desk that could lock his door remotely (one that he reportedly used to keep women in his office without fear of interruption).

The New York Times further reported that at least two additional women filed complaints with NBC following Lauer’s termination—including one woman who said that he sexually assaulted her in his office in 2001.





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