Scarlett Johansson is sharing the lessons she’s learned from her romantic past just in time for the release of her marriage-themed movie, The Marriage Story.
In a new interview with Vanity Fair, the Marvel actress opened up about her decade-old romance with Ryan Reynolds, explaining to the magazine she wasn’t prepared for what marriage was really all about.
“…the first time I got married I was 23 years old,” Johansson said. “I didn’t really have an understanding of marriage.” She added, “Maybe I kind of romanticized it, I think, in a way.”
It’s almost easy to forget that these two were ever even an item, much less married, considering they are now both happily with other partners. Reynolds went on to marry Blake Lively, whom he shares three children with. And Johansson recently got engaged to Saturday Night Live star Colin Jost.
And it doesn’t appear as though Johansson has any ill will toward her ex. Instead, she simply looks back on that time of her life as a growth period.
“It’s a different part of my life now,” she said. “I feel like I’m in a place in my life, I feel I’m able to make more active choices. I’m more present, I think, than I’ve been before.”
Johansson also isn’t jaded about the institution of marriage despite being divorced twice. (She was also married to French Journalist Romain Dauria. The two share a daughter.) As she noted to the magazine, she’s looking forward to all the things building a new family has to offer.
“The idea of building a family, making a family, and having that work, I like that idea,” Johansson said. “I think that would be wonderful. I’ve always wanted that. I wanted that also in my marriage to my daughter’s father as well. It just wasn’t the right person. But I like that idea.”
Though she rarely speaks about her relationship, Johansson did offer up this tidbit about Jost in an October interview: “It was surprising, he’s got a lot behind that news desk he’s hiding,” she said. “He’s very charming and very thoughtful and romantic.”