On the beach in a foreign country. It was incredible and risky. The nerves add to thrill.
Have you ever ghosted someone?
What is this new term that people have been saying?
Ghosting—basically, it’s going on a few dates with someone, maybe two or more, and then you suddenly stop texting or calling them. You disappear, like a ghost. Has that happened to you, or have you done it to others?
Both. Both have happened. Mostly she’s done it to me because she has a boyfriend, she’s had a situation. From my standpoint, if you just realize somebody’s not really worth your time, I don’t think you should continue to waste your time. But if someone is asking for an explanation, I would give it to them. I wouldn’t just freeze them out and not explain anything.
What’s your favorite movie or TV love scene? Or sexiest music video?
“Promise” by Ciara. I think that song and video is super sexy.
What’s the sexiest thing about yourself?
I’m trying to figure out, like, should I make it physical or should I make it mental?
You could say one of each.
I think the sexiest thing about me is how I treat women. I think women should be treated like queens. So how I treat them when I’m actually in a relationship: like a queen.
What does that entail?
I think it entails being a romantic. Finding out what it is that they like, what it is they love to do, what makes them feel loved.
You’re alone in bed, about to fall asleep: What are you thinking about?
Heh. Um, I’m thinking of what my mindset is. My mindset is so different than it used to be. I used to think I’d have a situation by now where I’d be married with a couple of kids. But my mindset is so different now, I don’t see that in the near future. I feel surprised that my mindset’s changed so drastically. If you’d asked me five years ago, I would never in a million years think that I would be here. But I feel good, I feel happy in my skin. I feel like you have to learn to love yourself before you can love anyone else. I’ve been doing that, and it’s been wonderful.
Tell me about your new album 2Sides.
I released the first half, and I’m excited. It’s been four years since I’ve released new music, and I’m excited to get the music out and start putting the music videos out and whatnot.
Do you think your music makes a good sex playlist?
Definitely. I think “Diamonds” works really well for that.
Speaking of your songs, what’s a tip you would give someone who’s trying to work on their dirty talk?
I think it’s important to be free with your words but don’t go too far. Don’t get weird. Unless you know that person is into that. You should keep it in the wheelhouse of who your partner is. You have to know who your partner is! But you also have to be free and express what you want to express. It can be the greatest thing in the world to say the thing you want to say and not hold it inside. But the most important thing is learning your partner, learning what they want to hear.
Jenny Singer is a staff writer at Glamour.