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Meghan Markle Wrote Inspirational Messages on Bananas for Street Sex Workers


Meghan Markle and Prince Harry went out into the snow in Bristol, England, today, February 1, for a series of engagements, including a visit to the Old Vic Theatre and a walkabout to meet fans waiting out in the cold. But it was an unannounced stop at the One25 charity that’s definitely been the standout of the day.

One25 is an organization that specializes in “enabling women to break free from street sex work, addiction, and other life-controlling issues and build new, independent lives.” The work it does is very much in line with Markle’s history of working toward female empowerment, and shining a light on the organization’s work feels similar to the work Princess Diana did during her life for causes, like HIV/AIDS, that often carry a public stigma.

But Meghan being Meghan—the type who has big ideas she emails her staff about early in the morning—she decided to take an additional step during the visit. While helping pack meals that would be distributed to women in need, the duchess took it upon herself to write messages to help lift their spirits.

According to the Daily Mail‘s royal reporter Rebecca English, Markle said, “I saw this project this woman had started somewhere in the States on a school lunch program. On each of the bananas she wrote an affirmation, to make the kids feel really, like, empowered. It was the most incredible idea—this small gesture.”

She then took charge of the activity stating, “I’m in charge of the banana messaging!” before handwriting messages like “You are strong,” “You are brave,” “You are special,” and “You are loved.”

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It’s a thoughtful gesture that will hopefully brighten the day of the women. More important, though, it’s a royal stamp of approval that may allow even more women to be served by the charity.





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Jessica Drake: Undermining Sex Workers Is Both Insulting and Life Threatening


On October 22, 2016, I became the 11th woman to accuse President Donald Trump of sexual misconduct.

The Trump campaign publicly stated that not only did he not know me, he “would have no interest in ever knowing” me. Two days later, during an interview with New Hampshire radio station WGIR where he was directly questioned about me, he said:

“These stories that are made up, these are total fiction. You’ll find out that, in the years to come, these women that stood up, it was all fiction. They were made up. I don’t know these women, it’s not my thing to do what they say. You know I don’t do that. I don’t grab them, as they say, on the arm. One said, ‘he grabbed me on the arm.’ And she’s a porn star. You know, this one that came out recently, ‘he grabbed me and he grabbed me on the arm.’ Oh, I’m sure she’s never been grabbed before.”

This, from the same person who was caught on the Access Hollywood tapes saying he grabs women “by the pussy.”

To have my accusations dismissed due to my occupation was infuriating, but it was nothing new in this day of rampant rape culture and victim blaming. Victims of sexual misconduct, assault, and rape are often subject to a litany of questions about what they were wearing, whether they were under the influence of alcohol or drugs, how many people they previously had sex with, why did they put themselves in such a predicament and more. This means many are forced to relive their trauma again and again when testifying in courtrooms. It’s no wonder so many assaults go unreported. This is why abusers go unpunished.

Trump lawyer and former New York City mayor Rudy Giuliani picked up that torch and ran with it at the Globes Capital Market conference last week in Tel Aviv, Israel, attacking Stormy Daniels.

“…I’m sorry, I don’t respect a porn star the way I respect a career woman or a woman of substance or a woman who has great respect for herself as a woman and as a person and isn’t going to sell her body for sexual exploitation. So Stormy, you want to bring a case, let me cross examine you. Because the business you’re in entitles you to no degree of giving your credibility any weight. And secondly, explain to me how she could be damaged. I mean, she has no reputation. If you’re going to sell your body for money, you just don’t have a reputation. Maybe old fashioned, I don’t know.”

I, along with many other folks within our industry, am very much a career woman. Not only am I a performer, I’m also a writer, director, producer, and sex educator. I’m still contracted to Wicked Pictures, the company that I was working for years ago, in Lake Tahoe, where this saga began. I own my name and trademark, which I license to other companies to receive residuals and royalties. I have traveled the world for my career that has so far, spanned more than 17 years.

Am I not a woman of substance? I have worked with Habitat for Humanity for almost a decade. I volunteered on The Jimmy Carter Work Project in Haiti after the earthquake, not once but twice. I have climbed Mt. Kilimanjaro. I formed TEAM WICKED for AIDS Walk LA, and so far, we have raised $100,000 for HIV/AIDS research.

I am an intersectional feminist. I’m an advocate for PrEP. I am an activist. And I am not the only one. Sex workers have substance.

Sell my body? Never. No more than any other laborer sells you theirs. Is a surgeon selling you their hands? No. They are selling their time. I am selling my time. They sell their services, I sell mine. I am selling a fantasy. I retain control over my body and what happens to it. And by the way, many porn stars and sex workers understand bodily autonomy, boundaries and consent better than the general public.

And even the president.

That said, the real danger here is the perpetuating of this archaic misogynistic ideology. We cannot dismiss a woman because she is a sex worker. You cannot say that because we receive money in exchange for sex in some way, we are less entitled to rights afforded to all human beings. And when you do it to sex workers, not only is it insulting, it is also life-threatening. The lives at stake here exist in an already marginalized community, but it goes deeper than that. Within this group are folks at risk who are ever more marginalized. People of color, trans folk, outdoor sex workers, immigrant workers, even women who may be victims of trafficking and others who do not have the platform or support that I have. That Daniels has.

They will suffer. Some may die.

Should they be dismissed based on the fact that they are sex workers? Does this, as you say, ruin their reputation? Should they not be heard or believed?

Giuliani, your harsh words about sex workers and the rights that you strip them of are unacceptable. Do not make excuses for your hateful behavior by saying you’re “old-fashioned.”

Call it what it is: this is unchecked white male privilege that feeds off misogyny and lives to undermine women.

We see you. Time’s up.


Jessica Drake is an adult film superstar, global humanitarian, political activist, and sexual health advocate



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15 Sex Workers on Why—And How—They Got Into the Business


Sex work” can be a fraught term in our culture. For those of us who grew up on the most common depictions of people who work in the sex industry, the phrase might conjure images of tragic women who have been trafficked into selling sex against their will. And although that type of sex work is very real, there’s also a much richer tapestry of those who work in the sex industry than what we’re often exposed to through news stories and pop culture. The real stories of webcam models, dominatrices, and porn stars are often very different from the tropes we see in flashy (and often irresponsible) headlines about sex, drugs, and crime. In fact, plenty of sex workers truly love what they do.

Glamour spoke to 15 women who work in different facets of the sex industry—porn performers, dominatrices, and cam models—about their choices to enter the business. Even beyond the financial freedom and the ability to travel that their career paths afford, many of them emphasized how they use their platforms to draw attention to social causes, highlight the contributions of marginalized communities, and help destigmatize sex. Below, in their own words, they tell us how they got their starts and what working in the sex industry has allowed them to accomplish.


webcam model

“Before camming, I was a theater major that also did modeling. I then worked on a TV program, but I couldn’t meet my financial needs. I tried waitressing, which only earned me $350 per month working eight-hour shifts. I saw a job posting about camming and thought it was some kind of sex job: ‘That’s appalling!’ But it’s actually the opposite. It’s changed my life for the better, and I’m so happy I did it! You think camming is just sexual exposure, but it’s so much more than that! It’s like art, to be honest.

The first year was constant work, but I saved enough money and bought a great apartment that is now my home. I’m also thinking of starting my own business now that I can invest more in myself, thanks to the money I bring in just from camming.”


adult film performer, model, and dancer

“You see, I always did well in school, but it didn’t hold my attention. So although I’m sure I could have made it through college, I don’t know if I would have had the patience for it.

Since [getting into] the adult industry, I’ve been able to pay off all my debt, put thousands of dollars a month in savings, increase my credit score to near perfection, buy my own house and car, travel when and where I want, start several businesses, help friends and family in need, help pay for my own wedding, and live a comfortable, financially stress-free life. All of this before turning 25 years old. I cannot imagine that I could have accomplished this without my adult film career.

For some people who may not have other options, this industry can be a… way on to a more positive path in life.”


financial dominatrix

“I couldn’t be happier with my career choice as a financial dominatrix. [For] a young woman, it’s rare to be financially free, independent, and have stability. I feel very grateful to be in such a position. It’s also really cool to have a limitless creative outlet, knowing I’ll never be bored or face the same boring routine day to day. My job is always interesting!

Being an online dominatrix has changed my life in so many ways that most people usually only dream of—time, money, freedom, and the ability to help out my loved ones. [It] is a decision I’ll never regret. I bought my retired mom a new car last Christmas, and I’ve never been more proud of myself! Seeing her face light up and her car stress disappear when she saw the big red bow on her new car was the best feeling ever.”


adult film performer and director

“Most importantly, porn has helped my self-confidence in not only how I view myself, but also as an entrepreneur and businesswoman. Porn has given me the ability to make my own schedule and travel to places in the world that I likely would have never had the opportunity to visit if I were not in the adult industry.

I’ve had more doors open to me in other aspects that I love, such as writing, performing stand-up comedy, and animal rescue. If I would have never gotten into porn, I don’t believe I would have been able to meet the people or access the resources I have now that have given me the ability to do what I love and be 100=percent, completely in control of my career, my schedule, and my daily life choices.”


adult film performer

“The ability to make a living doing something you’re passionate about, and can creatively fully invest in, is something all artists dream of. Without my medium being porn, I don’t think it would be possible [for me] as a young trans woman. Porn has given me a platform to represent my sexuality on my own terms, [which] allowed me to survive and escape as a trans woman from rural America. I started in the industry due to lack of employment options in a small Midwestern town; then I discovered people using the industry to show their identity, politics, fantasies, and creativity.

I believe I am extremely blessed to be in this industry, which has given me a platform to tour with my films—from Tokyo to Berlin to London to Vancouver—and truly be able to meet trans and queer people [for whom] my work is making a difference in their life. When I, as a viewer, looked to porn for representation, it was extremely hard to find performers that I could connect with until coming across trans women, like Tobi Hill-Meyer and Drew Deveaux, who really laid the ground for what I could do [as] a trans woman porn filmmaker and performer. So my goal is to hopefully do the same for others.”


Delice

webcam model

“This job fulfills you in all aspects, soul-wise as well as financially… I was able to donate money to people who were less fortunate. I’ve had the opportunity, on every Christmas, to give presents to children who are, sadly, orphans, and to kids who suffer from cancer.

I have become an independent woman at 20 years [old], [able] to finish college without the financial support of my parents.

It is true that you meet a lot of different characters in this online environment, but most of them just need psychological counseling; they need to know that I am always there for them. They need to know I am their confidant and friend, no matter what. I have met many people who were going through a tough time of their life: They have lost their families, they were going through a divorce, [or] they were alcoholics or drug addicts. The fact that I was there for them when they needed someone… to understand them without judgment and to help them get over it, to be able to have a normal life again, has changed their life [and] mine as well. It’s an uplifting feeling to know that you could save so many lives.”


webcam model and adult film performer

“My first year in [porn], I started my own company that I began producing content for. I trademarked my name to ensure no one could capitalize on my hard work, which was perfect because I soon would land a contract with a huge company that was notorious for trademarking names of girls they contracted, so when the contract was up they could no longer work under their name. The contract was great in the sense that I had a guaranteed income that was very, very generous… I was able to earn great wages and still have half the year off to focus on other projects.

Everything was going well in my career, but at home some things took a turn from bad to worse. My little sister was in a very abusive marriage, and she had two girls under the age of 3… I had her move in with me. [After] she was settled in, I immediately started to see some telltale signs of autism in my niece, who at the time was about to be 2 years old. Long story short, Madison was diagnosed just after her third birthday, which means she was too old for a lot of services. My sister—a newly single mom with a newly diagnosed child with autism and a 1-year-old—was in no emotional or financial position to get all of the services Madison now required…

This is what led me to start Blue Puzzle Foundation, a non-profit organization that offers private educational grants to families that want to give their child the best education possible despite their diagnosis. Blue Puzzle Foundation also will give families a trained service animal that helps their child with specific needs.

I spent the last year traveling, eating, and making some great friendships in the restaurant industry, and then an opportunity fell into our lap. A restaurant in a prime location was unofficially on the market. My husband and I made an offer—and, to our surprise, they accepted it. What was once a run-of-the-mill Irish pub is now being transformed into a Japanese pub that only serves ethically raised meat, sustainably caught seafood, and local organic produce. I am very passionate about our impact on the environment, as well as the living conditions of the animals I eat… I think if we all were a little bit more accountable for what we put on our plates, the benefits would be extraordinary.

Very few traditional career paths offer the luxury of creating your own schedule, thus allowing you to invest equal, if not more time into your passions, to develop them into businesses, [and to] offer the opportunity to form multiple streams of automated income. You can work 40 years at a job you’re not passionate about to then retire and live on a fixed income for the rest of your life. There is nothing wrong with that at all, but for those of us that are entrepreneurial and love taking risks, working for someone else doesn’t sound appealing. I have always loved the attention porn has given me, and I love the freedom it has given me even more.”


webcam model

“As someone who has never done anything in the industry prior to starting to cam with Stripchat, I can honestly say it is one of the best things I’ve ever done. I wish I would have started earlier. Not only am I my own boss, but I make my own schedule. It truly is a job, and I attribute my success to the fact that I treat it as [such].

Meeting and interacting with people has definitely been the greatest thing about camming—besides the income, of course. You realize that these are just people, and they enjoy your company and want to spend time with you. I love the connections I have built with fans and even other models on the site. The best feeling is when someone tells me that they were having a really bad day and watching [or] talking to me totally turned all that around. I don’t think people realize that it’s not all about sex: It’s about the human connection.

I also have been working on a way that I can incorporate charity into my shows. For example, around Christmas, I am going to have everyone vote [on] a charity and then give half the proceeds from shows to said charity, or raffle fun things off!”


adult performer, cam girl, model, and blogger

“Before porn, I was really shy and had low self-esteem. Since then I’ve had so much support and lots of experiences that have really boosted my confidence. I learned to love myself and my body…

Working in porn has really let me stand on my own two feet. There’s the financial aspect of it: Before I used to work three minimum-wage jobs to make ends meet, and now I’m successful enough that I run my own company and have full-time staff employed under me. I can work from anywhere in the world. I’m my own boss. I have so much freedom and independence in my life and that’s something truly priceless.

I’ve been all over Europe and America for work. Porn has let me visit cities I never thought I’d go to, from glamorous Las Vegas to historic Prague… My work is also very flexible, and I’ve been able to spend a lot of time visiting my family back in Vietnam—something I’m so lucky to be able to do.

I’ve been able to help a lot of people through my work. For my website—which is a men’s lifestyle magazine as well as porn site—I write a lot of articles on dating and sex advice. I’ve had people write in asking me for advice on how to ask out a girl, or how to tackle sexual anxiety. There’s also the health articles: We did a big campaign before for prostate cancer, and I had people writing in afterwards saying they went to the doctor to get checked after reading my article.

On Christmas every year, I open up a special e-mail, and I tell everyone that if they’re alone on Christmas day, for whatever reason, they can e-mail me, and I’ll reply so they won’t be alone. Last year, I got over 250 emails.”


financial dominatrix

“When I was younger, I knew I wanted to work smarter, not harder, and never contribute eight hours [a day] of my time to somebody else’s clock…

My goal was to be able to take care of my mother the way she took care of me, give to charity, change my life, and build an empire. I’ve done all that and then some. I’m 24 with my own luxury apartment—something most people my age, in my area, are not doing. I take care of my mother; I give back any way I can; and I’m so grateful that it’s so easy for me to be able to help other people. I nap all day, yet my bank account is always growing! I’m able to travel the world, be cultured, see new things. I wish everybody could experience the great things I have with findom.”


contracted adult film performer, writer, and director

“When I first began working in the adult industry, I was most grateful for the fact that I was easily able to afford to live in Los Angeles, pay my bills, and have health insurance. This self-reliance and sustainability was something I had previously been unaccustomed to…

Volunteering and charity work have always been very important to me, and being a part of the adult industry has also afforded me the ability to support some of my favorite organizations on a much bigger scale than ever before. I have done eight Habitat for Humanity builds internationally, and after those trips, I’ve reached out to other NGOs nearby that lack resources. Not only does my ‘naked work’ fund those ventures, it allows me the time off to help others. Not many people can go to Kenya and Tanzania for five weeks and have a job when they return.

Travel has been, most likely, my favorite job perk. I have visited 27 countries and have many more on my wish list. Some of these trips have been solely work, but many have been [a] combo [of] work, sightseeing, [and] cultural immersion—teaching me much more than I’ve ever learned in a classroom.

I also acknowledge and appreciate the platform I’ve been given in this business. I’m grateful for the ability to be a sex educator and provide folks with what I wish I would have known growing up. And with no regrets I can say this: My job has led me to exactly where I am today, and I feel extremely lucky.”


webcam model

“Being a cam model has really helped me in a lot [of] ways… camming on Stripchat is a secondary source of income for us because my husband does have a full-time job, and we needed a little extra to help us get by. But I did not think it would have helped in the way that it has, and for that I’m grateful. Now, I am just saving as much as I can so I can buy a house! It’s overall an awesome job to have, and I really look forward to working because I genuinely have a lot fun and love what I do. Plus, I am able to make my own hours and work when I want to without the stress of punching a timecard.”


adult film performer, director, and producer

“When I first started in porn, it afforded me the time and money to attend college classes in a way that, after some time, became almost recreational. At the time, I worked less than a week out of every month and collected a six-figure income, so I took a lot of classes that, over time, have been useful as part of the aggregate of what I consider a broad knowledge base. But back then, I was only enrolling in classes I personally found to be interesting. My problem then, and, arguably, now is that I didn’t know what I wanted to be when I grew up.

Contributing to the problem of not knowing what I wanted to be when I grew up was the regular world travel that porn afforded me. The constant barrage of publicity events took me to New Zealand, South Africa, Spain, Germany, London, Paris, Australia, Romania, and Italy between roadtrips—notably one during which I drove up and down the whole of Eastern Europe. Canada and Mexico were a given, of course, and I’ve seen every state in the nation (once on a porny tour bus!). The available number of things I might think to do when I grew up seemed to increase rather than get narrowed down.

The next thing porn gave me was investment capital. I bought real estate, maxed out my IRA contributions, and put money in the stock market. These things further delayed the pressure of having to decide what I wanted to be when I grew up.

Finally, porn brought me experience-based knowledge from my time ‘in the field.’ I directed my first adult film in 2013. In 2014, I won best director for a project I directed with my husband. In 2015, I launched a production studio. Now, I direct one movie a month [for] my self-funded, self-directed line, and porn has finally brought me the thing I think I always wanted: It allowed me to indefinitely put off deciding what I will do when I grow up.”


performance artist, author, adult film performer, director, and producer

“Porn has been an incredibly empowering part of my life in so many ways…I can look back at the porn I’ve made and see photos from the first time I met my husband, the first time that he placed rope on my body. I have beautiful documentation of some incredibly powerful sexual experiences that I’ve shared with many of my lovers, as well as many of my firsts, like the first time that I was flogged, caned, whipped—or even the first time that I experienced rope in a sexual context.

The making of porn itself has been a meaningful and powerful experience for me: a container to explore my sexuality and sexual fantasies in depth, frequently, and with many different partners. It is because of porn that I became so very interested in sex education, and that I became such a pro at sexual negotiation. When you are having sex with so many different partners, it becomes key to know yourself and become very assertive and clear in your sexual negotiation.

Also, over the past 15 years both performing and directing, porn has been my livelihood and an extension of both my art and activism in creating social change and dismantling sexual shame and stigma in our society by documenting and performing authentic sexual experiences in front of the camera.

Economically, my career in pornography has financially supported my life as an artist, as well as supporting for over a decade my feminist art gallery and performance space, which produced over 500 art events, performances, and exhibitions celebrating the diverse work of the feminist, women, trans, sex worker, LGBTQ, and kinky artist communities, in a very visible, storefront art gallery in the heart of San Francisco from 2000 to 2011.”


adult film performer

“I think some of the great things I have been able to do since getting into porn have mostly been teaching[-related]. Being able to be a mentor and show young women in the adult industry how to be women in this industry and grow as people and performers.

I enjoy building people’s confidence, helping them find out who they want to be and [how to] express themselves.

I also have enjoyed traveling all around the world. And yes, baby: Because of working in this industry, I have been able to work in and meet people from countries all over the globe.”


Interviews have been edited for length and clarity.
All personal photos courtesy of subject. Lead image courtesy of Leah Schrager.





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