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Amber Tamblyn Slams Rose McGowan for 'Shaming' Actresses Planning to Wear Black to the Golden Globes


Last Thursday various news outlets reported that the 2018 Golden Globes would be going dark, thanks to actresses who are reportedly planning to wear black in solidarity with sexual harassment victims. Although no stars (or their stylists) confirmed these reports, the rumors did not sit well with Rose McGowan, who took to Twitter over the weekend to criticize would-be protesters. “Actresses, like Meryl Streep, who happily worked for The Pig Monster, are wearing black @GoldenGlobes in a silent protest,” she wrote in a since-deleted Tweet, according to Vanity Fair. “YOUR SILENCE is THE problem. You’ll accept a fake award breathlessly & affect no real change. I despise your hypocrisy. Maybe you should all wear Marchesa.” (Marchesa is the fashion brand founded by Georgina Chapman, Harvey Weinstein’s wife.)

Now Amber Tamblyn is calling out McGowan’s call-out tweet, telling her friend in a public thread that these comments are inappropriate. “THREAD: Rose McGowan is a friend and while I support her kind of movement, I do not support any woman (or man) shaming or taunting the movements of other women who are trying to create change,” she wrote on Monday. “Telling us to all wear Marchesa? This is beneath you, Rose.”

“You don’t have to support and stand with us, but we stand and support you,” Tamblyn continued. “You may take below-the-belt shots at us but we will not take them at you in return. Our movement is big. And a black dress is just the beginning of the darkness that will be drained from every industry across the country by the time we’re done. That’s a promise.”

She concluded the thread with a hashtag referencing the workplace sexual assault and harassment reforms that will hopefully take place in light of the #MeToo movement. “And we stand together in this fight, shoulder to shoulder, weapon to weapon, woman to woman (and man), body to burned body,” she tweeted. “And our arms are open. And our hearts two fold. And our fire will be a universal scorch. Heed the mantra: #ChangeIsComing.”

Both McGowan and Tamblyn have been outspoken figureheads of the #MeToo movement. McGowan went public accusing Harvey Weinstein of rape, while Tamblyn, in an open letter, accused actor James Woods of trying to pick her and a friend up when she was 16.

Other prominent women in the #MeToo movement have since weighed in on Tamblyn’s thread. Asia Argento, whose harrowing account of her alleged sexual assault at the hands of Weinstein was detailed in Ronan Farrow’s New Yorker story, tweeted, “I wish you’d have written this thread addressing it directly to @rosemcgowan, or even better, called or texted her, since you are friends.” “Asia, I did. I spoke to her for over an hour,” Tamblyn replied.

McGowan’s Charmed costar Holly Marie Combs also addressed Tamblyn. “You just did to @rosemcgowan what you claim you don’t support her doing to others,” she tweeted. “Every activist for every cause the world over has different methods but share a common and more important message that should remain the same. And undiluted above all else.”

Related: #MeToo Founder Tarana Burke on What Should Happen After the Hashtag





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Amber Tamblyn Thinks Trump's Victory Catalyzed the Harvey Weinstein Allegations


As thousands and thousands of sexual harassment and #MeToo accounts from women come to the surface, sparked by the recent allegations against Harvey Weinstein, actress Amber Tamblyn said she believes that the outpouring of these stories is thanks to President Donald Trump. And before you go, “What?“—after all, the president has been accused numerous times of sexual harassment and assault—it actually kind of makes sense.

In an interview with Cosmopolitan published Saturday, Tamblyn discussed why Trump’s election victory might have prompted women to finally come forward with stories formerly kept silent.

She has her own story, too: in September Tamblyn spoke out against actor James Woods with her own account of how he tried to pick her up when she was just 16. Recently, the social media platform has exploded with similar accounts about men in Hollywood. “We have never in the history of this country had an opportunity in the way that we have right now to share our stories so publicly and be believed,” she told Cosmo. And women’s bravery to step up and tell their stories, she says, stems from Trump winning the election.

“I think that without him being elected, if it had been Hillary
Clinton, this would’ve never happened to Harvey Weinstein. I feel like
the election of Donald Trump was a singular pointed message at women
telling us that our lives don’t matter, and that our safety doesn’t
matter, and that our physical health doesn’t matter, our reproductive
rights don’t matter, that our gender just doesn’t matter, and that we
are somehow owned by the country. I think within that one move, it was
a giant gesture, and Donald Trump symbolizes, for most women—not all
of them—he symbolizes and epitomizes everything that is deeply wrong
with masculinity and with the objectification of women. And so within
that single vote, it sort of was like a switch was flipped on and
every woman just went, ‘I’m done.’ It’s as simple as that: ‘I’m done.'”

She adds that before all of this, a woman who accused Weinstein of raping her wouldn’t have been taken seriously. One such woman, actress Rose McGowan, who has been a driving force on Twitter against Weinstein, delivered the opening remarks Friday at this weekend’s Women’s Convention in Detroit.

“I have been silenced for 20 years,” McGowan said. “I have been slut-shamed. I have been harassed… Because what happened to me behind the scenes happens to all of us in society, and it cannot stand and it will not stand.”

Tamblyn agrees—and thinks that Hollywood’s culture is finally changing and will continue to change for the better. “We’re at the beginning of a real change. I believe that,” she told Cosmo. “A lot of the interviews that I’ve given and people I’ve talked to have said, ‘Do you think it’s really going to change? Do you think it’s really going to stick?’ And I do; I do, actually. I just think it’s going to take time and patience, and a lot of love and compassion and understanding between us—meaning women, all women.”

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Amber Rose on Ending Slut-Shaming in the Age of Donald Trump


Amber Rose loves a good celebration, but she’s ready to get down to business. On the eve of her third annual Amber Rose SlutWalk in downtown Los Angeles, she says she’s “hyped up more than ever” to spread her message to more than 20,000 men and women that victim-shaming must stop now.

“I’m a former slut-shamer and I had to take the steps to change,” she admits to Glamour. Going through a divorce (with ex-husband and rapper Wiz Khalifa) made her realize that the blame was unfairly being put on her from outside sources, and she was done feeling like a victim. “I didn’t even ask for fame,” she confides of those earlier years in the spotlight. “I didn’t even want this life and how I got it, and I’m just trying to figure out what to do with it.” That led to the start of the Amber Rose SlutWalk, and now, the first annual OPENed Women’s Conference, also happening this weekend.

“If you’re going through extreme slut-shaming, or if you’re a rape survivor, or have been sexually assaulted, the SlutWalk is a safe place to tell your story and talk to other people who have been through the same thing,” she says. “You don’t want to feel alone. We have counselors, HIV/AIDS testing, and workshops. We want you to feel that everything is going to be OK.”

But the road to feeling “OK” wasn’t an easy one, especially over the last year when the man that bragged he used to “grab [women] by the pussy” was elected to the highest office in the land. So what has Rose been motivated to do about it? And what is she teaching her four-year-old son as he grows up? Here, she shares the highs and lows of her journey to being a more informed feminist.

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Glamour: How have you changed since you began the Amber Rose weekend and started your own SlutWalk?

Amber Rose: I constantly learn new things. I wouldn’t say that I’m a seasoned feminist. I became a feminist probably after my divorce which was a little over three years ago. I completely changed my life. I’m a former slut-shamer. Society has taught me to be a certain way, and I had to take steps to change that. And so even with the women’s conference, I’m going to be there all day, getting educated as well. I don’t feel like I have all the answers. I feel like I grow every year and learn new things.

Glamour: Earlier this week, Robert Redford was on Megyn Kelly Today, and said that he wasn’t a feminist, but he loves seeing a female drive the story in film. It made no sense. How can you be vocal about wanting to see women get equal opportunities, but then actually say you’re not a feminist?

Amber: Because that’s just what guys say, like ‘boys will be boys.’ It’s all bullshit. It’s not out of the norm. But the really f-cked up part about it is a lot of straight guys think that being a male feminist is like you’re gay. It’s just so stupid. It’s really, really stupid. That’s why we need to continue to educate. And especially the guys—our sons, our dads, our uncles—and people that have been on earth a long time that have been taught by society that that’s all they know.

Glamour: When someone asks you what feminism means to you, how do you respond?

Amber: I just say equality. It’s really very simple. I just want equality. That’s it.

Glamour: How have you changed since Donald Trump was elected?

Amber: The thing with Trump is that guys have always said things like that. For me, it’s not really like, ‘Oh wow, he said that?’ I mean, guys say that all the time. So now, what steps are we going to take to say that’s not OK? It’s not ‘boys will be boys’ or ‘locker room talk.’ There’s so many powerful men out there that sexually assault women every day, and the woman feels like she doesn’t have a voice. So you sit there with guilt and shame your entire life and men know that. They know that the women are not going to say anything because no one would ever believe them. SlutWalk is giving women a voice and an opportunity to come and tell your story.

Glamour: SlutWalk is extremely timely this year because our education secretary, Betsy DeVos, just killed Obama’s campus sexual assault guidelines, which makes it so much harder for victims to get the justice they are looking for. For those that don’t understand how detrimental this will be for sexual assault victims, how do you get people to change their way of thinking?

Amber: I’ll tell you, when I go speak at colleges, a lot of boys will show up in addition to girls, and usually after they’re like, ‘You know I came here because you’re f-cking Amber Rose and you’re hot, and I wanted to see you,’ but then they’re enlightened. I’m not really a cookie cutter type of girl. I’m going to tell you how it is. I’m going to make you feel uncomfortable, and people like to think I’m controversial, but I’m just being me. I literally tell them, ‘Think of the act that it took your mother to have you, because when she was turned on and she was horny and she was begging for your dad, she was a sexual being. Your mother is a sexual being. Your mother has had sex, and guess what? If you have brothers and sisters from your mom with different fathers, then your mom is a slut by society’s standards. By society’s standards, your mom is a ho.’ And they’re like, ‘Oh my God, I have three brothers from different dads,’ and society would say that there mom is a ho. But they don’t ever think of their mother’s when they use these derogatory labels towards other women or other girls. I always say, ‘Everyone is someone’s daughter. Everyone is someone’s sister. Or mother.’ We don’t want to judge our own family members because we love them so much, so let’s try to apply that to people in our everyday life. And they’re like, ‘Oh wow.’

Glamour: You have a four-year-old son. What do you teach him about supporting feminism and equal rights?

Amber: I mean, he’s grown up in a house with me, so it’s not going to be a sit down, serious conversation. It’s going to be years of growing up with a feminist mother. He’s going to know. This isn’t just SlutWalk time, this is my everyday life. This is my passion, this is my calling. I try to find the means to help women find lawyers, and give them a voice and an opportunity to get justice. Those are the behind-the-scenes things that I do and don’t put on social media. I don’t want a pat on the back for it, but it’s just what I do.

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Glamour: You said earlier that your divorce prompted you to change your way of thinking, but what prompted you to take action?

Amber: I would say that I was being extremely slut-shamed, for literally getting divorced. I was getting slut-shamed for going through a divorce, like it was my fault, it had to be me, [because] I’m the one that’s an ex-stripper so it must have been something that I did or didn’t do right in my marriage. I got the blame for everything and it was one of the worst times of my life. I saw this picture of a girl online with pasties on that said, ‘Still not asking for it.’ I was like, ‘Man, I’m not even asking for this shit.’ I didn’t even ask for fame. I didn’t even want this life and how I got it, and I’m just trying to figure out what to do with it. As I did more research, I found out what a SlutWalk is, and what it was about. I called my team and was like, ‘I’m going to have a SlutWalk this year and I don’t care what you guys say, I’m going to do it.’ And I just started it, and the process of raising money and getting my friends to support the cause. [But I] couldn’t get any interviews, no companies would work with me, everyone thought I was crazy, and yet I stuck to it. People said change the name [of SlutWalk] and you’ll be more successful, and I said, ‘No, I’m not. I’m not changing the name. They’re going to jump on board because I’m going to make it huge.’ The first year we had 2,500 people come, and the second year we had 11,000 people come, and this year already we have sold over 18,000 tickets on our website alone, not including who is just going to show up that is in downtown L.A. I worked really hard and believed in it.

Glamour: Lastly, what do you hope to have a better understanding of following this weekend? What do you want to be more educated about?

Amber: One thing that I want to be more educated on is knowing my full rights as far as the legal side of everything. I’m not a lawyer, so I’m really interested to sit with Lisa Bloom and her workshop to really know the ins and outs of the law for women. I’m really interested to find out.

The OPENed: The Women’s Conference by the Amber Rose Power Foundation is this weekend in Los Angeles. For more information, click here.



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Amber Tamblyn Just Published a Powerful Piece About Harassment in Hollywood


One thing that should definitely be on your weekend reading list? Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants star Amber Tamblyn‘s powerful New York Times op-ed published online Saturday. In it, she calls out the men who deny women’s stories of harassment and the ubiquity of sexual harassment in the acting industry before encouraging women to rise up and come forward with their own accounts.

A bit of background: Tamblyn and actor James Woods got into a heated debate about relationships and consent on Twitter last week when Woods criticized the age difference in a relationship in Armie Hammer’s upcoming movie Call Me By Your Name. Hammer called him out by tweeting, “Didn’t you date a 19-year-old when you were 60?”

Tamblyn added on to Hammer’s reply with a biting allegation: “James Woods tried to pick me and my friend up at a restaurant once. He wanted to take us to Vegas. ‘I’m 16,’ I said. ‘Even better,’ he said.” Woods responded that Tamblyn was lying.

In Tamblyn’s new Times op-ed, she writes about how she’s fed up with not being believed—and wants other women, especially in Hollywood, to speak up with their own stories of harassment.

“I told this story publicly as a way to back up the claim that Mr. Woods was, indeed, a hypocrite. Mr. Woods called my account a lie,” Tamblyn wrote in her Times piece about the Twitter exchange. “What would I get out of accusing this person of such an action, almost 20 years after the fact? Notoriety, power or respect? I am more than confident with my quota of all three.”

In her piece, Tamblyn recounts another incident, years ago, when she was starring in Joan of Arcadia. After being harassed on set, she writes, she’d worked up her courage and gone to the producer of Joan of Arcadia to talk about what was going on. Tamblyn says he listened but then told her, “There are two sides to every story.”

“For women in America who come forward with stories of harassment, abuse and sexual assault, there are not two sides to every story, however noble that principle might seem,” Tamblyn writes. “Women do not get to have a side. They get to have an interrogation. Too often, they are questioned mercilessly about whether their side is legitimate. Especially if that side happens to accuse a man of stature, then that woman has to consider the scrutiny and repercussions she’ll be subjected to by sharing her side.”

Tamblyn continues by powerfully describing the minute-but-impactful risk negotiations involved in being a woman, especially when it comes to speaking up about matters like harassment.

“Every day, women across the country consider the risks. That is our day job and our night shift,” she writes. “We have a diploma in risk consideration. Consider that skirt. Consider that dark alley. Consider questioning your boss. Consider what your daughter will think of you. Consider what your mother will think of what your daughter will think of you. Consider how it will be twisted and used against you in a court of law. Consider whether you did, perhaps, really ask for it. Consider your weight. Consider dieting. Consider agelessness. Consider silence.”

Tamblyn, who also penned an open letter to Woods in Teen Vogue last week, spoke of sexism in the industry by comparing the sad state of Hollywood to a deep swimming pool: “I have been afraid of speaking out or asking things of men in positions of power for years. What I have experienced as an actress working in a business whose business is to objectify women is frightening. It is the deep end of a pool where I cannot swim. It is a famous man telling you that you are a liar for what you have remembered. For what you must have misremembered, unless you have proof.”

Her powerful opinion piece ends with a call to action for women to rise up and share their own stories: “The women I know, myself included, are done, though, playing the credentials game. We are learning that the more we open our mouths, the more we become a choir. And the more we are a choir, the more the tune is forced to change.”

Read her full op-ed here.

Related: Amber Tamblyn Writes Powerful Open Letter to Actor James Woods



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