Clit Orgasm Tips for Partner & Solo Clitoral Stimulation
Paradoxically, as arousal reaches higher levels, the glans can become super sensitive, so less direct clitoral stimulation often feels better. Make sure to use lube while delivering light, delicate stimulation at this point.
And feel free to experiment beyond the glans. Learn how to externally massage your clitoral bulbs by placing your fingers firmly on the skin on either side of your vaginal opening and pressing down to rub the area. As the bulbs swell, you will be able to feel them become puffy. As I like to say, you need to know how to play your own instrument!
Tips For Having a Clit Orgasm with A Partner
When women masturbate, they tend to focus on the clit and keep their bodies rather stiff and rigid. This might be a fast way to the finish line, but developing this habit may hamper being able to have maximum pleasure during partnered sex.
When you move your body during sex, you enhance blood flow to the genitals and also take advantage of the dual pleasure action that happens when the labia indirectly stimulates the clitoral hood. Circling your hips during penetration helps indirectly stroke those clitoral bulbs, supercharging those sensations.
Finally, breathe deeply. It gets more oxygen to all of the essential body and brain parts to enhance circulation.
A final note: Orgasms are great, but they are not the end-all, be-all of pleasure. Striving to “achieve an orgasm” is a sure way to squash pleasure, hampering the possibility of good sex, which hinges on the ability to experience sensations and savor connection to self and others.
So however you go about exploring your clit orgasm, do it with an open mind and most importantly, enjoy it.
Nan Wise, Ph.D., is AASECT certified sex therapist, neuroscientist, certified relationship expert, and author of Why Good Sex Matters: Understanding the Neuroscience of Pleasure for a Smarter, Happier, and More Purpose-Filled Life. Follow her @AskDoctorNan.