Engagement season is upon us and even though the magical time seems blissful and carefree on Instagram, it can become pretty stressful for the happy couple, who start fielding “So when’s the big day?” questions immediately following the congratulations.

Finding the best engagement gifts for your friends can help the lovebirds keep their sanity throughout the initial stages of wedding planning—which is why we asked married, or soon-to-be-married, Glamour editors and real women about the thoughtful gifts they received (or wish they had) following their engagements. From home goods to sex toys, keep scrolling for the best engagement gifts that will make the exciting (yet-low-key-crazy), period of their lives run a bit more smoothly.